money can it spoil friend ship?

Yes. You will know a person's character when it comes to money especially when its payback time. Some people forget that they owe somebody once they get what they need from you. Although not all but majority. They say money is the root of all evil only if you let it happen. Between friends it does sometimes because you trust that friend not to hurt you or betray you. On the other hand why not give your friend enough time to settle it. Maybe the reason for not responding to you is she/he has no money yet to pay you back.

I do not think that money itself can spoil friendship, but, our attitude towards money that can spoil friendship, I have some friends with more money than I , and some other with less, and we have never had problems, the problem is not the money but the irresposibility of this "friend" of yours. I do not think that he has any intention to give your money back, or, maybe he is going through a rough situation himself, in either case, I think that you should go and confront him and be prepared for anything, even to end this friendship for good. Actually, I hope this end in good terms for you, and you can take back what is yours.

That is so sad , my friend. Your friend is not really a friend. He has promised to return the money to you when you told him 7 days before your need yet, he avoided you. He could have at least talked to you and ask for consideration, but he chose to ignore you and that was really rude. But have you told him that you need it for your sustenance? A true friend would do whatever he can to return the money, and if it means to borrow again from someone just to be able to pay you, he would do so. That is how a friend should be. I hope you will now learn a lesson from it.

recently, i was also in same situation i gave money(it's a big amount) to one of my friend. after somedays he never picked my call i was shocked and worried about that..then after some days one day he called me and said that he was in bad position he told that he will return it after somedays anyway he is ur friend so dont leave him

Sometimes it can spoil a friendship too. Depends on how deep your friendship is with the person. You friend should at least tell you honestly whether he can return the money to you or not. He must have no money yet and is shy to take the call coz you might get angry. Maybe you can send him a message and try other things on how to get a money for yourself. It can really be disappointing not to get what you expected. But you try to understand him as well. This is only the first time it happened So I think it's better you try to calm down first and find other solution than expecting to get the money back from him.

hi surya, Its very much horrible situation. It happens now and then to every one, I hope you had crossed a big test of your life. Check your friend after some weeks, he may also be in some problem. If he is not attending your call means he is worried of not paying your debt and also can't able to face you in this situation. Give him some time. Hope he will recover from his situation. If you cross this hurdle, you may get a friend for life long. wait for some time before taking any decision.

I understand what you mean. You have lent your money to a friend who was in need of financial support. But when you wanted the money back, he did not even pick up your call seemingly he tried to avoid having in contact with you. You don't know for sure why he did it. According to me. This is based on my personal judgement only. He may have had a financial difficulty to return your money and he didn't the guts to explain it to you. Some people are fair and brave enough to explain why he or she didn't keep his promise. You haven't explain how close you are to him. Is he one of your best friends or just one of newly-made friends. If he's a best friend I don't think he will have the heart to cheat you. Try one more time to contact him or pay him a visit.

a pleasant day surya389, well, as the many people says, "money is the root of all evil". and that sayings connotes one thing, it can destroy and ruin any good relationship as it can be a source of some misunderstanding and dispute. however, that is a general rule and in every rule, there is always an exception. since we all know that money can be a source of misunderstanding, so better take all the necessary ways on how to prevent this. as in your situation, that almost same thing happened to me. when i was trying to asked my long time friend to pay me regarding her long time ago loan. that when she repay me, she have throwned the money straight into my face. and it really hurts me so much. it is not the money which hits me but the attitude that she have showed. what happened to me is somehow same and somehow different to your situation. but the bottomline here is that, their attitudes. how they are dealing with. ask for me, i really prayed for that friend and asked God for wisdom so i can be able to forgive. because, i cannot do it on my own, as what she have done to me is terrible. that prayer of mine was granted. one day, that friend of mine meet her "karma". so then she realized that her attitude is doing bad.

I think it depends how money is involved in friendship. I know some people that have used me for money and they owe me back still but they haven't owed me back but I got partial back. I think divorce rates are high due to money problem issues.

Humanities is something teach a good lesson. Money is just a value paper,can be earn but not friendship. Nowadays human is wiling to do anything for money.

Mate I can understand your feeling as I have experienced it several times from several friends. When they needed money I gave them but when it was time for returning every time I called they just made some excuses. Even one of my friend denied once that he had borrowed money from me. Every time I felt sad but can not stop myself from helping friends (definitely not them who cheated me).