Am I totally a loser ?

I would not call anybody a total loser, because we all have potential to win and losing is just a message that we are either following a course that in our hearts we are not destined to follow, or it is a message from ourselves that we need to look at how we are approaching a subject. Sometimes of course, it is better to let it go, look at our talents (the things that we know we are really good at), and find a way of working with them. My career started as a musician.. I had trained from childhood to play piano and loved what I did. For 12 years I was a professional musician and had lots of work that supported my family well, then one day. Live music was used less and less and I clung on to my career working less and less jobs. In the end, I had to admit that it was time to quit. Music would not provide a living for me anymore and I was getting short of money. I went back to school to study psychology and became a therapist.. A totally different career altogether, but I must admit I loved helping people and my career once again went from strength to strength. I am going into semi-retirement now and just working on line, helping others where I can and I am enjoying that. Life moves on I guess, and I think we need to examine where we are at, and move on with it. Good luck with your life. Take some time to reflect and meditate, and see what you come up with. Only you can know what is the right thing to do next. _Derek

Dear, try not to judge yourself from the outside. Jobs, relationships, money and many things are outside. Try to be friendly and love more both your qualities as your flaws. No, you are not a looser! Don't ever think that. You may put your grief outhere, cry if needed but then shake it off and forgive yourself, and tell yourself how much you love your own person.

I understand how you feel, but I totally disagree with you. Post-graduate school is extremely difficult to get into. I bet if you did some research, you would find that only a few of the multitude that apply were actually accepted. And how many of those that were accepted actually graduated? I think you should be commended for going as far as you have. With so many young people wasting away their lives, it is refreshing to know that some people are trying to get ahead. Don't ever feel that three years of education were a waste. As to your job problem, I understand your urgency. But, we are all in the same boat. Your negative attitude is going to make things more difficult for you.

Hi captinjack, I cannot blame you to feel that way, maybe life is like that, not all that we wish for is meant for us... Failing in an exam is really frustrating..actually i can relate with you..after i graduated in the college of law i took up BAR exam, i failed...my parents encouraged me to try again.. hoping for the best i gave my best try and i didn't make it again, for 2 years what i did is to try and try.. it is really hard to start your new life when you are heartbroken and feel wasted... But in the end of the day i realized that life is uncertain, we have to gamble... go beyond our limits... until you discover and finally search your destiny. For me life is not what you make it but it is destiny. Just try and try until you finally find what is for you!

No no at all , you sound like you have been unlucky but we are in the middle of a nasty global recession so at the moment future employers can cherry pick people for jobs. Where i live there are 55 apalicants per job and that includes low paid jobs such as waiters and super market workers. You should only look forward and not back, pick yourself up and carry on things will get better in the future just stay positive good luck captinjack i hope tgings get better for you in the future and you land a good job soon. good luck..

Absolutely not. It sounds like you've been determined to go in a certain direction but I would suggest that you relax, give yourself time to follow your heart. I think you just need to connect with your path. I know sometimes there's a sense of urgency to hurry and complete school and graduate and be employed and be financially successful. Go within. Allow yourself to be who you are and consider your strengths. If you can be patient with yourself and the process you will experience everything falling into place. I wish you the best!

Of course you're not.Even if you failed many times,it doesn't mean you're a failure.What would only make you a failure is that you don't do anything to correct you mistakes & you just let them be that way without doing anything.You'll succeed.We may not know when or how but it WILL happen.Trust me.

No, you are not a loser..I don't know what the job market is in China right now, but here in America, even if one had easily gotten a degree with high scores, the job market is really bad. I have had looked for a job for a good 4-5 years, and my son, who is smart and has excellent experience can't get a job either. My suggestion is to keep trying your best, sooner or later you will get a good job for your efforts..

A real loser would be not be seeking help and trying different things. You are a winner with some bad breaks. Learn from each negative experience. You are in the school of hard knocks and each hard knock is a lesson. I graduated from that school with many degrees. I'll give you one piece of advise: winners never quit! They don't take no for an answer. So keep going.

I have labeled myself a 'loser'. Other people can also ask the same question or label themselves the same way. You are not the only one who have failed and who have experienced rejection. I am sure any of mylot comments or users have experienced what you have been through. I would second your dad that it is no big deal. I know it's easy to say. Experiencing failure and rejection are unfortunately part of becoming a successful person. While it may stink to the point that you feel hopeless or that life feels meaningless to you, bear in mind that you have a successful education, more successful that some people that never graduate, drop out from school, etc. There's always a saying 'Try and try again until you succeed." "Never give up". If you failed an exam, you will pass it next time. If you fail it again, examine yourself. By having a process on examining yourself, you will be more successful the next time you take another exam. Keep on looking until you get one. While you are facing interviews, look into online income opportunities.

you're not a loser. little by little you should try to think positive and you will see big differences in your life

''DON'T BE TO HARD ON YOURSELF''. Give yourself a break. You are just depress. If you can afford it take a vacation, reflect. And than you will know more what is the best to do.

When you have done your best and didn't get what you want, it only means that it's an experience for you to remember. I have experienced applying for a job, waiting the whole day without eating lunch because I no longer have money for food, waited until 7 pm, had an interview without dinner, except the water I had from home and biscuits, only to find out that I was rejected. That happened twice when I was just starting my career. I looked back and I recall the things that probably the reasons that led to my rejection. Worked on them and try another and another and another. Finally I made it. Failing is supposed to make you strive harder, makes you feel hunger for success. You thinking yourself as a loser is an attitude of a loser. Go out there and fight. Never let 100 times failure fails you. Instead, use those failures to enhance whatever you needed to develop and God is good, he'll compensate when you deserve it. And we should not question that. Good luck!

No you are not, trust me. Sometimes life so cruel to us, but sometimes not. You have to remember that the wheal gonna spin continuously, sometimes when we in the up wheel world seems like so nice to us. But when wheel spinning down side that doesn't mean we are loser. We just have to wait and to be patient. Our time will come soon...,

You are not a loser I have been through the things that you are going through at the moment. I failed an important exam 3 times and I tried really hard to find a job with no success. I understand the way that you feel about the exam. My parents were really sad and disappointed when I failed those exams, and I was very depressed when I wasn't able to succeed in the field that I had chosen. Today I see it in a different way, I did fail those exams, but that doesn't mean that I am bad person or a hopeless person. You are not a bad person, a failure or a loser either. The things you did didn't turn out the way that you hoped or expected, but experiencing a failure it not the same as being a failure yourself. Don't get discouraged because you didn't get those jobs. It doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you and it doesn't mean that you will never find a job, it just means that you will have to keep on looking and keep on trying. I once sent out 100 applications before I got a job, the situation seemed hopeless and I got rejection after rejection, but eventually I got a job. Success is failure turned inside out, The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are. It may be near when it seems afar. So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit, It's when things go wrong That you musn't quit. (Author unknown)

You're not a loser. I also experience the same thing when I graduated from college. It took me five years before finding my true calling in my career. But in between I have jobs just to make a living but a career that will elicit my passion came after five years. Let this disappointments be your strength to be on your best the next time you apply.

Hi my friend, don't call your self a loser. Perhaps this happen for a reason. Also, you should embrace failure. We were told by our oldies before on the difference between a winner and a loser. During a defeat, the winner stands up again and again while the loser comes back home with tail between the legs. The winner normally clench their teeth and promise to himself that it will not happen. Even if it do happen again, he will still strive to get up and win. I know you have what it takes to be a winner because you were able to recognize what your mistakes are. Also, you are so lucky that your parents are very supportive of you. Just think positively my friend! Let go of the past failures. Keep on trying. The failure in your back should thrust you further...

No, please don't feel that you are a loser. You are just starting in your life. Rejection and failures are just a part of growing and they will soon become your experience and you will be a better man because of that. You can only be a loser if you think you are. All of us can always improve and do better. Personally I had my fair share of rejections and failures. I had my down times when I could not get a job for 6 months after I was retrenched. But the hardship forced me to change and I jumped out of the circles and tried something new - I had the best time of my career from that point on. Today I live quite comfortably. I see me in what you are thinking. I went thru that and I know you will too. One day when we look back to our life, we will smile at the things we did or the thoughts that we had. We will be happy with the vow that we made that we will never be beaten. We will be there. Just be confident with yourself.

Hello captinjack...:) I am so sorry. But please don't give up and don't call yourself as a looser. Nobody is perfect. You know what, the success people have higher failure percentage than usual people. So don't give up and learn from your failures. Don't make the failures useless. Life is not always in the darkness . Always motivate yourself to be better and every failures, every obstacles are made just to make you be stronger and dare you to solve them. Believe in yourself and be patience. Keep trying, keep fighting and keep praying Good luck captinjack