How to convince my husband?
By chicgale
@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
March 24, 2012 4:44am CST
My husband had to quit smoking 3 or 4 months ago. He had to quit coz he had a hard time breathing that time and I had bad sinus infection and it was the one causes it. And now he starts smoking again. He said he has to smoke again coz he is stressed and bored. But, I told him that I don't a problem with it as long as he don't have to smoke inside the bedroom, house, and the car, and he agreed that he will smoke outside the house. And now, it's been days that he is smoking again inside the bedroom and my head started to hurt and I think it is my sinus again. I told him to smoke outside especially when I am sleeping coz it woke me up in the middle of the night when I smell the smoke, and besides it is not good also for my daughter sniffing his cigarette smoke inside the house. He said that it is not true that second hand smoking is bad. But I kept on telling him that it really bothers me every time I smell the cigarette smoke. He got angry that I kept on complaining. What am I gonna do? How am I gonna convinced him not to smoke inside the house again? :-(
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4 responses
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
that's pretty tough, it's hard to convince someone who has repeatedly done the same mistake. Try to be act so mad at him or pretend to be sick for him to realize you don't want smoke inside your house. He's not a good father and husband of being like that, I do hope he'll change his attitude.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Apr 12
hi chicgale tell him that here in our retirement center a lot of
smokers have COPD and are coughing out their lungs and taking tons of medications and year by year I noticed four or five
of the worst just passed away . is that what he wants for himself
or for you? some here never smoked but their mates did and now that have emphysema from it, again ask him if he wants that to happen to you.
@shibham (16977)
• India
25 Mar 12
It is really hard to convince such a rigid person. I do smoke but never in public places or inside house. As i am getting married this year, i am trying to quit smoking for a better relationship. you have said that already you tried to make him convinced, but failed. So, here is an option where you have to lie.
take your baby to a doctor and request him to write down "keep the baby away from smoke or such stuffs" on the prescription. Dont forget to ask him to write down some medicines too. You need not buy them but must to show your hubby about how much his smoking habit infecting his own baby. I hope it will work although it is a lie.
have a nice time.
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@smhsince91 (8)
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25 Mar 12
That's awful! I went to the doctor a couple of days ago because I was having chest pains. The doctor said it was a lung infection caused most likely from secondhand smoke. So I know for a fact that secondhand smoke can be dangerous and does affect other people. Maybe try talking to him again. Or you should look up the effects of smoking and show it to him. I would recommend some counseling. It sounds like he is not willing to comprise with you. You have to keep complaining and keep telling him how bad it is for you and your daughter. Tell him you will have to sleep in a different room or in a different house if he doesn't stop. Good Luck
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@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
7 Jul 12
The only way to deal with this is sleeping elsewhere. As in, in another room until he sees the seriousness of the problem. If he loves sleeping beside you and your warmth he will smoke outside. What he is doing is very wrong. I am sorry.
