What's the use of calling you friend, when deep inside it's all PRETENDING :xx

On the welcome stage, the speaker starts with 'Ladies & Gentlemen'..., is there any gentlemen there? perhaps yes, but mostly no. Again, thank you so much, best regards, love you so much, and so on... We speak regulary and lavishly these words every day with no hesitation, what it really meant and using such words enormously. So, being 'friendly' and to be so 'nice' also is the same. Our culture and nature is habituated through such a transition of life and it is just a 'must' for the sake of formalities and not a outcome from the heart to the third party, whom we are addrressing. But I try to be genuine and ture to its words to its maximum, when I use such words. There are official, professional, personal and so many occasion we are forced to use such things and it is again, part of the law of nature, I hope.

Pretenders is near cousin of blabber mouth friends. I would never hesitate to stay away from that friend if ever. I would find any reasonable reason why (if i may ask by my pretentious friends)I become seldom seen or now with them anymore. This is to stay away from any troubles if I would tell him/her about really the reason/s why. Nice topic bonita...take care always.. Mobhomeir here 071212 1505hrs

That is what we call reality check. I'm getting tired of pretending too, that's why I stick around with people who are true to me, I don't waste my time pretending to be good or accepting fake friendship. Life is short as to keep hatred inside so why waste time being kind to fake people hahaha!. I totally agree with you even the kindest heart will get tired of understanding.. keep on smiling...

Hi jaiho: That's honesty. I think it could be worst when you are not being honest to someone making feel loved when you don't really feelñ this way so I like your attitude even if it might heart a little bit. ALVARO

I seldom call my friends, because if i can talk with them in person, then i will talk with them, provided that they are those that i like. And just like you Jaiho, i choose to be silent rather than talk with pretense of liking them to friends that i came to dislike eventually.

hi jai, I hate PRETENDERS too.......when I say you are my friend I mean it and you know how much my patience I can have I tried my very best to understand every little things I should understand but when I feel it's too much then it will be ENOUGH for me. I rather put myself in silence than to say anything else that can hurt their feelings but I am just human I can be good or evil too if needed. Miss yah

I am a very real person and I tell it like it is, I am a true friend, and my friends are all worthy of people called friends.

dear sis, like you i too can`t stand pretenders because i am not one. Fortunately throughout my life i have not come across such people and even if i have i can`t recall anybody. Yes, i have made lots of friends and most are not in touch with me nor i am with them.Even if i come across any i immediately will distance myself from them and i am sure they will get the message. My work is going on well but slowly. I will make it a point to respond to your posts as far as possible. Lots of love and plenty of super tight hugs.

pretending is worse than showing true emotion like hatred or disgust. I would rather show that i do not like the person rather than be"plastic" around that person.

Hi Jai sis, it is a pity that sometimes we may come across who are pretend to be our friends. I ever came across a few friends that i thought was good friends but turned out they are pretending to me. Although it does hurt my feeling but i prefer to keep silence. I don't want to waste my energy into quarreling with them about this matter. I know it is no use to be sad and cry over those who are pretending.

When I don't like them it's clearly shown on my face..So I can't pretend to like and hate people when my heart say the opposite. For those who like to pretend to be someone I am sure they are good enough to do so. I hate to have them or not, they are still friends but perhaps not the best. Now people like to use the word 'friends' but they are actually someone they just know. So sis, just consider them as 'friend' but not the good one.(^^)

My dear jai,is that a poem? Looks like one,hehe! Very expressive and true! You are really great in expressing thoughts in a nice way my dear friend. Why should I pretend if I don't like a person? I may smile at that person as a form of respect but I guess that's all I can give.

Ever since I got promoted, I gained a lot of Frienemies. You knows friends who are actually your enemies. They were jelous and not supportive of your success, Their crab mentality is so severe, You can pour coconut milk on them and boil them in the wok because their crabiness will make a delicious and crablicious ginataang alimango. Is that a friend you have in person?

In this modern days it is really hard to see a real friend. Most of our friends are pretending. They will act like they have lot of affection and care with us and can do anything and every thing for us. When we are in need and ask for their help, they will tell some reasons to escape from the situation. We will find the real face of our pretending friends at that time. This kind of fake friends are available in both online and offline world. We don't get more hurts with online friends, as online world is a virtual media. But we will suffer a lot if we find one of our real life friend whoever we trusted is a fake person. This kind of situation really gives a great pain to our heart and we lost our trust with friendship after this kind of incidents. To avoid disappointments, we must keep our friendship in a limited manner and keep a certain distance from our friends. As we don't know who is a real person and who is a fake person, better to keep distance from every friend to avoid unwanted disappointment in our life. Don't expect a lot from your friends as well as don't expect anything return for your help to a best friend. True friendship never expect anything, if you expect some thing from your friend, you are not a real one.

I too damn hate pretenders.. but look around you, you will find more pretenders than real people..i can make out when somebody is giving a fake smile or a forced smile..lol...something is going wrong in the world..there is hardly any love left...