when you are at your friends house, do you act differently?!
By missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
August 6, 2012 9:22pm CST
friends in here, when you visit at your friends house for couples of days , have you noticed that you act differently? well, as for myself, i will transformed to become industrious from being lazy -
. and the usual character of being flippant will changed into acting formally (applause please - haha) i acted such so because i do not want them to have a bad impression towards me. my mother taught us to be respective and lend a help if there are works to be done, like preparing foods, washing the dishes and and other such as doing simple house chores. i cannot act like primadonna that needs some servant to serve me ;D --- at least for the meantime you are are doing what you needed to do, at least impressing the host. for next time, who knows they want you to come not just a visitor but also a helper - haha! 4
what about you guys, when you visit someone's house for couple of days, what u usually do?
. and the usual character of being flippant will changed into acting formally (applause please - haha) i acted such so because i do not want them to have a bad impression towards me. my mother taught us to be respective and lend a help if there are works to be done, like preparing foods, washing the dishes and and other such as doing simple house chores. i cannot act like primadonna that needs some servant to serve me ;D --- at least for the meantime you are are doing what you needed to do, at least impressing the host. for next time, who knows they want you to come not just a visitor but also a helper - haha! 4
what about you guys, when you visit someone's house for couple of days, what u usually do?1 person likes this
8 responses
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I would say that I do change in a way. I mean, I want to be respectful of someone else's property, so I tend to tidy up after myself a little more than I normally would if I was at home and like you said, I offer to help with things such as cooking,etc. I would say most people do these sorts of things when they are visiting others, but then again there are alot of people who don't have much respect for other people and their property too, so I don't know if most people do it or not.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
yes, correct at that there are still others out there, who do not act like what we basically doing. my mother used to hate actions like that. in all of our lives, it is one of the manners goodly as she taught us how to behave and what to do when be at the others house. we inherit that with her.
good thing that you followed into this discussion... thanks :)
@coltenlee (1)
• United States
8 Aug 12
Yes I tend to act different especially around there Parents. I try to act as friendly and kind and nice as possible so the parents will like me and. Continue to allOw me tO come over.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
good for you. we believe that acting like that would impressed them - that is why we are trying our best to help and to be courteous even these are not the usual thing we do everyday in our house. oh thanks for joining here ;) and welcome to mylot. hope you cannot find any hardships in here and that members would be helpful to any of your inquiries as you go through to familiarization of this site. good luck :)
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 12
I believe so that I would behave differently at someone else's house
because how we behave will have the first impression. I will take note
on the words I speak, even the way I sit and stand. I will try to be
better than my usual and of course being helpful will be on the list
too. I personally have not stayed at a friend's place for few days,
normally just a short visit of a couple of hours. I did stayed at
my own sister's house, I behave normal usual self but of course I
volunteer to help with ther household chores, I don't expect to
stay and eat for free.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
haha! oh yeah right. like me, when i am in my boyfriend's house, i tried to do the house chores. my boyfriend used to teased me about that because he is all aware that i am not usually lending a help too much when i am in the house. and that when i do, it is accordingly upon my will. it is because i am too busy with my life, tending my activities and alike.
we tried to be helpful because what you said we do not like them to have a bad impressions towards us. and it is a shameful thing, that we are just sitting prettily at the bench while they are too busy preparing something to eat. oh well, thanks for joining into this discussion
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
7 Aug 12
I think concrete problems need concretes analysis,if it was my very close friend,I will just as what I am and will feel quite casual and will take it as my house.But if it is just a ordinary friends then I will just do the same thing with you.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
a behaving man there so. in visiting a friend, we must try to fit ourselves as visitor. if an instance we are required to laugh, to eat, to jam with them then fine. just watch it you are not creating scenes around haha...try to be good as you can. fit yourself to the situation. just go with the flow not to be that pretentious. just enjoy and have fun
@wilsonburrell (207)
• United States
7 Aug 12
I don't act any different for anyone. I want people to like me for who I am. Not to like me because of the way I act around them specifically. I act the same way for everyone.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
8 Aug 12
I feel most people will do like that, me, too. When I am at my friends' house, even my relative's house, I act differently, too.Just like you. When I am at my own house, I feel relaxed. When I want to be lazy, I will be lazy. So most of the time, I don't want to stay at other's house unless I have to.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
:) cool at least i am not the one who acted like that - hehe... oh yes, because we are too confident and we are aware that it is our house, and when our parents chided us - it is just okay because even so, they will not do anything to damage our reputation for being lazy and flimsy - haha... and no matter what we are doing, they knew us from top to bottom and whether they like it or not; they will going to accept, love and comfort us no matter what (if were are helping the house chores or not :))
thanks for joining into this discussion :)
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
7 Aug 12
Not only in my friend's house, but whenever I am in someone else's house, be it a relative's, my parent's, sibling's, I always tend to be "nicer".
Of course I cannot just go and use the stuff in there even though I would want to unless the owner told me it is okay to do so. I also do not just open appliances like the TV, computers, stereo, etc. I also do not rummage through their fridge. Reason being is, in consideration of the house owner and their need for privacy even if I am invited at their home. Also, if ever I have them in my house, I also wouldn't like for them to just open my closet or use my stuff like nobody's business. It's just giving the owner due consideration.
Of course I cannot just go and use the stuff in there even though I would want to unless the owner told me it is okay to do so. I also do not just open appliances like the TV, computers, stereo, etc. I also do not rummage through their fridge. Reason being is, in consideration of the house owner and their need for privacy even if I am invited at their home. Also, if ever I have them in my house, I also wouldn't like for them to just open my closet or use my stuff like nobody's business. It's just giving the owner due consideration.@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
that is what i am trying to say, you hit it rightly. my mother would always asked us after visitation that what are we doing in there; if we behaving well, if we helped small chores or such alike question. surely, if visiting others house, muster good behavior as possibly as you can. this will notified them that your parents raised you goodly with manners.
@aswath_10 (53)
• India
7 Aug 12
Ya i will also act differently when i am go to my friends house.. I will keep my place clean.. i always pretend to be very helpful to old people in their home and listen to what ever they even if i dont like their comments.. The same things will happen even my friends come to my home so i feel its all natural
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
haha - that is all were pretensions but your just showing courtesy even you feel unpleasant and disinterested to what anyone was saying. it is hard that if they will give you negative comments after your visitation in there -
oh yes right at that, when someone visited in us, we want them to be nice too to avoid disliking them and away from conflict. thanks ;)
oh yes right at that, when someone visited in us, we want them to be nice too to avoid disliking them and away from conflict. thanks ;)