Are you a tongue-biter, or a candid-communicator?

United States
August 12, 2012 5:25pm CST
Do you think that outspoken people who candidly speak-their-minds, even if it may create conflict, are stronger individuals, than the people who more reserved in expressing their opinions and feelings? Or, do you not agree that it may take a stronger person to resist and 'tongue-bite', than for someone to say exactly what they are thinking? Are you an outspoken person, who would like to share your thoughts about quiet individuals? Or, are you a quiet person, who would like to discuss what's on your mind, regarding outspoken individuals? If so, could you please share?
1 response
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Well this is a very interesting discussion. For me, they are both strong and weak at some point. I could consider the tongue-biter to be a strong person, 'coz I do respect someone who could muster courage everytime to speak their mind regardless of the circumstances that their words might bring. It's a strength and a gift because not everyone have the same guts as them. In some situation, being very outspoken makes things work but there are also times that these tongue-biters just couldn't stop themselves and their words could make things worse. I guess they're just poor at sensing for the right time for words to spoken and expressed. Talking is not the only things that could resolve things and matters anyway, sometimes silence could be just as deafening. The strength of the reserve person lies on his quiet observations, he might not really be outspoken but that doesn't me that he doesn't care on his surrounding, for he actually have a lot of time to scrutinize things better and then find the right moment to let the words be used. And I think a reserve person helps prevent worse things from happening but their weakness would be that their silence could be mistaken for indifference. I'm not much of a tongue-biter but I'm not that reserved either, I actually respect and envy at some point, my best friends who were really outspoken, I have always admired them for it. My college friends thinks that I'm reserved though, but the truth is I find it just as hard to keep my mouth shut, especially on very sensitive topics, but for them I'm doing a fine job.