This is not true!
By blue65packer
@blue65packer (11826)
United States
November 27, 2012 2:58pm CST
Yesterday I was talking to a friend at work. He said in all households men are scared of their wives and the wives pay all the bills! That is so not true! I know there are woman who are scared of the man! Usually because the man is violent! With paying bills I know there are husbands who do it and some households both pay the bills! I also know not every guy is a wimp! When i grew up I had no idea which parent paid the bills! I always thought the couple both paid the bills! Boy was I wrong! I can see someone taking charge and paying all those bills. Only thing bad about that is some people have no clue where the money is going and the man will turn around and get the family in debt! I have heard to many women tell this story on OPrah! What's your opinion.
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11 responses
@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Nov 12
My husband is scared of me but not because he is Wiped because he isn't. He leaves me in charge of our money because if he was in charge of it he would spend it all on all kind of things. So Yeah it's my job to pay the bills so that way we do have money for our kids like to buy there diapers or get clothes that they need. Right now I can't even afford diapers for them so family is buying it for them.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
30 Nov 12
I understand some people are terrible with money and should not be in charge of paying the bills! I have never been married but one relationship was in the man were living together. I was unemployeed he wasn't. I had to fight tooth and nail to get him to pay the bills! I had no money so he had to pay the bills! He was a real jackazz about it!
@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
30 Nov 12
My husband just doesn't know how to deal with money well. I can control myself so I kind of control to make sure he doesn't spend it all on things we don't need. Bills come first before our wants and then of course needs to be next before wants as well.
@abonner11 (46)
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28 Nov 12
I believe in the husband and wife paying the bills together if both are able to work. We have two children and daycare is way too expsensive so my husband is the only one who works right now, but I am trying to find ways online to make extra money for our family. I am also in college so by the time our children start school I will hopefully have a good career. Do you think that I am doing the right thing?
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
30 Nov 12
Going to college to get a degree so you can get a good career is a good idea. Sounds like you are doing the right thing. As long as your husband supports you,emotionally and finacially,I see no problem with this!
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Yes but it could also be the other way around. In allot of cases the woman is the one who runs up the debt by shopping for clothes, shoes etc. This is something that goes both ways. It isn't good to live beyond your means because eventually your credit will probably be ruined or not so good. Also your right it isn't true that the wives pay all the bills. It might be like that in some households. But there's some households where the man is the major breadwinner and he pays most all the bills and the woman has her money for shopping and pocket change.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
30 Nov 12
I know some spouses run up debt by shopping beyond their means for clothes and other things. There are couples where the one is smart with money and one is a spendthrift. Another example is one is a tight ward and the other is a spendthrift! With my parents,my dad made the money but I have no idea who paid the bills! I never asked because I knew I would be yelled at if I did! So I never really knew. Every couple is different.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I agree that this is not true.
There are many cases of violence, abused women in a relationship than abused men.
So how come this person think that all household men are scared of their wives-duh.
My partner handed me his salary and I keep my money with me, but of course I do share on every expenses, bills, foods, clothing, education and emergency expenses.
So it depends on every couple/households how they pay the bills and other expenses.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
30 Nov 12
I have no idea why my friend Chris thinks all men are scared of their wives! Maybehe knows some men eho do!He is so wrong,though! Every relationship is different. Everyone does it a differently when it comes to paying bills. Plain and simple.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I used to be working for the family and I was the one who paid the bills. My husband was never afraid of me. He is just the happy go lucky guy who never grew up until he was in his mid 30's. Now, he's got a job, and somehow I earn something from my online shop and some online earning sites, so I give my share in paying the bills or buying food for the family.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
30 Nov 12
I know 2 woman who are the money earners in their household. Both husbands have no jobs! One got fired from his job and the other can't find one since he graduated form a 2 year college! Both woman aren't thrilled supporting their hubands right now! Neither is one woman I work with who's husband decided not to look for work anymore! This guy decided like 4 years ago to up and quite his job. At first he lied to his wife about why he did and since then she is supporting him! He is a lazy person and why she stays with him is beyond me!
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Nov 12
With my husband and I neither of us are scared of each other. We love each other. It seems weird to me that a couple is afraid of each other... What in the world??? My husband definitely has his own thoughts and opinions that I cannot control. He is his own person as am I my own person...
As for the bills, my husband does bring home the money and I send the money orders out. My mother did the same for us as a family. My husband has enough to do with working, he should not have to sit down and send out the bill money too.
As for your friend, I guess he thinks ALL people are the same too? Everyone is different therefore people do things differently. There is no way to assume all people or all families are the same... Just saying.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
30 Nov 12
I have no idea where my friend got the idea all men are scared of their wives! He must know some men who are scared of their wives!
I know every relationship is different. If all relationships were the same it would be a dull world!
I am glad I never got married! It would be a disaster no how you look at it! Money would not just be an issue. Everything would be!
@finlander60 (1804)
• United States
28 Nov 12
I would have to say that THIS GUY HAS NO CLUE. He must be either single or scared of his wife. My wife and I share the responsibility. She has certain bills that she pays, and I have certain bills that I pay. Sometimes I screw up. Sometimes she does. We do manage, though.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
30 Nov 12
My friend is clueless! I give him that! He is not single and not married. He is gay and has a gay life partner. Chris,my friend,hands over his paycheck to his partner and the partner pays all the bills. I know he is not scared of his partner! I know one guy I work with, who is a wimp when it comes to his wife! He lets her deal with the money and bills. He does everything he is told to do! He will not agrue with her either! He isn't scared of her,he is just a wimpy guy! I know not all men are like Jessie! Every relationship is different and everyone pays the bills differently. This is life.
@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Nov 12
I haven't been in a relationship for so long I don't remember how we did it. I know with my ex I paid the utilities and he paid the morgage. We both bought groceries. I think good communication is best in ANY relatonship. And I think its a good idea to get together and go over the bills every month. If the wife is home alot she may be able to pay the bills. A couple needs to work together and make some good compromises to make this work.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
30 Nov 12
That is what I was trying to get across! You hit it right on the head! Good communication is the key to a relationship! Wether it is money,bills or anything else! More couples need to work together and make good compromises! Plain and simple!
@fchalida (196)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 12
Every times my hubby had a salary from his work, he always transfer money for me. The money i have, it is for paying bills, paying schools, buy the food for a month. But the he keep my atm but every day he give me 30.000 rupiahs(30 dollar) per day for buying the food. What ever i cook, it must 30 dollar or under. But every time we going out, he paying the bill (buy the books, paying the dinner or lunch, paying the cinemas ticket). But we are ok until now....we just take have fun about our relationship.
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@koopharper (7523)
• Canada
30 Nov 12
In our household it is just a division of labour thing. My wife manages the household finances. She is not able to go out and work so she takes care of everything at home. She does the shopping and makes sure we are running on budget. We do a lot of discussing about our finances but between full time work, writing and trying to make additional income from my wood turning I simply do not have time to micromanage the finances. I trust her to do it. I think she's doing a fine job.
