Flirting: A form of dishonesty

I absolutely agree with you. If you are already committed in a relationship, then you are flirting with someone else, that is one form of dishonesty. I saw people like that, and they just cheating in my book of dictionary. I don't this kind of person. They will never last long in a relationship. They won't ever get in real love. They simply jump from one relationship to another.

Flirting can be a slippery slope. I've posted a similar discussion recently and it has received interesting responses. Someone pointed out to me that flirting is often not cheating because it is a natural urge that many utilize or satisfy as a means to various ends, for example: 'getting a better table at a restaurant'. However, you mentioned exchanging messages (I assume on facebook) and I think this is a step further beyond flirting to get a good table. This is taking considerable action behind your partners back to get intimacy elsewhere outside of your relationship and that is a betrayal (in my opinion of course). Ultimately, it comes down to the arrangement between the two partners but I think if something is being kept hidden from one person in the relationship, it's a good indicator that something suspect and potentially damaging is going on.

Hi, Paper_Doll - You have very good principles.. Yes, flirting, that some think is fun, is very dishonest if you are in a relationship. It can lead to lots of trouble. I am not in a relationship and I don't like the thought of flirting even in my situation. That is not a good way to build a relationship and marriage. Marriage must be built on trusting each other.

Flirting today has come to a higher level. The technology we have now enables flirting through cyberspace and through the mobile phone. These are, of course, additions to the traditional mode of getting attention from the opposite gender. The trick here, I think, for the person being flirted with, is to be on guard and be perceptive of how persons whom you deal with communicate with you verbally, in writing, through the internet (specially on social networking sites) or through SMS. When someone senses uncalled for advances and double-edged "tones of wordings", then be ready to end up the conversation or slyly divert topic on something else.

For me, a plain and genuine friendly conversation is fine but if the conversation is to attract someone or because you are attracted to him/her, well that's not good.. :] It's better to keep the feeling hidden, because letting it be obvious to the person would cause the fire to grow and eventually yes, dangerous especially if you already are taken. To flirt is to invite a feeling whether serious or not, it's still flirting. :D

I like to hear stories of my man about these girls who are flirting with him. I see their text, their call, and their messages in FB. Sometimes, if we are together they call. I just listen. I am not a jealous person. I feel proud that still there are many ladies who likes him. I am proud also to myself that eventhough they are many who are flirting with him, he chose me. But if ever he flirt or commit to one of the ladies while we are in a relationship, that's the end of our relationship. I don't want to tolerate that.

Yes, I do think that flirting is still considered as infedility and just plain disrespectful especially if you are in a committed relationship.

I do think that flirting is a form of cheating. I have experienced some former classmates who would try flirting with me. And I do tell them that if they would want to still keep the friendship, then they should respect me and my marriage.

Yes, it is a form of dishonesty; just to get something done which cannot be done in an ethical way.