Will you stand a man to touch your hands at your first meeting?
By sharryCD
@sharryCD (121)
China
January 29, 2013 2:44am CST
Hi, mylotters. Here is a question to discuss with you.
If you got to know a person on the Internet and you have chatted for some days. Then one day he asked you to come out for movie and dinner. But in the cinima, he asked you whether you were cold or not. You failed to hear his question. Then he used his hands to touch yours. Do you think it is OK? Is this man a little frivolous? Or this lady thought too much over this issue?
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8 responses
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
29 Jan 13
Firstly I will not go out in the cinema, with a stranger whom I am just met and talked for some days on the net. I can go out with him on a dinner (yeheeeeeeey free dinner) but definitely not movies. If I go out with him in a cinema then it just mean that we are "in a relationship" already ....
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 13
How is going for a movie with an on line friend is different from going for a (free) dinner?
Both mean that you are ready to go out with him and you rely him, in my view.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Honestly I have went out for a movie with a guy I met first time. Not an online friend. But I think it is still the same. A guy you meet online for the first time and a guy who you sms with and meet for the first time has no big difference. And I think that there is nothing wrong with it as I agreed to go out with him. It is how we handle things and situations when we feel there is something wrong with the person or how he treats us.
Going out with a guy in a cinema does not necessarily mean that you are already "a couple" Gone are those days where a guy just touches your fingers and he got to marry you. I am going out on movies with my guy friends many times and they are just my good friends. Even when you know that the guy has feelings for you, going out just the two of u watching a movie doesn't mean that you like him to be your boyfriend too. It just means you're mature enough to be friends with guys without putting any meanings on it.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 13
Hi!
If one has befriended a boy and is willing to go for a movie with him and during the course of movie if he touches, I think it is OK. How could touching be dangerous or uncalled for.
Going with someone shows that you are relying on the person and if you are relying, rely him completely unless and until you notice something extra ordinary or very objectionable, while meeting face to face.
@Archie0 (5636)
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29 Jan 13
Hi sharry. See a formal hand shake in public at the first meet is probably should not be a problem. But touching hands in a cinema hall? Hello! well i think that man was probably trying to get closer to the girl thinking she might be an easy reach. He could have asked the question once again to get the answer or probably he could have given a friendly shake on shoulder or a tap on hands. But if this touch is a bit on the other side then the guy is thinking of something else.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jan 13
Apparently if the girl agreed to go out with him then she must have some sort of interest in him. If that is the case, what is the problem with him touching your hand?!? I can understand if he tried to KISS you or something without making sure it was okay but to touch your hand to see if it was cold...I don't think that is as big of a deal as your making it here...
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
I would think a lot of different things. It could be that he is taking advantage. But if that is just to hold my hands and I don't like it. I can always take my hands away from his. Now if he grabs it again forcefully without saying anything, now that's another story.
@CarolynP777 (103)
• United States
23 Oct 18
I don't think I would have gone to a movie with someone I only knew from online for a first date. I probably would have met him for coffee so we could talk face to face and see how things went. But as for him touching your hand during the film, here in the US that is acceptable. A lot depends on your culture. Having said that you should never have to do anything you are not comfortable with. If a man is sincere in his motives he will understand and respect that. If he doesn't want to see you again because you said no to something you're probably better off without him.
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
29 Jan 13
I would think that he is taking advantage of me.
I will definitely pulled my hand back. If he is
a gentleman he can just asked me and hand me a
jacket if I felt cold. I always respect the guy
who respects me. However, if accidentally touched
then I will forgive him... a second chance to evaluate
and see how the relationship will goes.
@prettysexybrainy (189)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
In the first place you agreed to meet. So there is already a risk in that point. Well i am an open minded. If i allow that person to go with date on me to the cinema well it is totally fine if he touch my hands lol!. Given that I agree i must like him as well! hahaha... I am not overacting in the first place I like him too. I wouldnt go for a date if that person has no chance to be my bf at all.
