family knows best?
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
10 responses
@Missmwngi (12926)
• Nairobi, Kenya
25 Oct 15
I guess it is easier said than done. I have seen parents who reject one lover after the other and you are left wondering are they the ones getting married or what?
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
25 Oct 15
yes is normal for the family to want what's best for you but there are also people who are being absurd and will never consider anyone good enough for their child
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
25 Oct 15
@Missmwngi but no one should allows their parents to interfere like that in their lives
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@Missmwngi (12926)
• Nairobi, Kenya
25 Oct 15
@swissheart Sometimes they forget it is not about them but about you
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
25 Oct 15
it's not necessary about arranged marriages but about parents who dominate their kids in such a way that they never become fully grown adults psychologically speaking
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
26 Oct 15
What I understand is - your friend has respect and regards for her parents, therefore, she wants to take them in confidence about her boy friend and there is nothing wrong in it.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
26 Oct 15
@swissheart - Does your friend afraid to take an independent decision?
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
26 Oct 15
@dpk262006 I guess she's not capable of doing that
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
26 Oct 15
there's a difference between having respect for parents and not being able to take your own decisions even if you're fully grown
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@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
25 Oct 15
It depends on the person. Some people value their family's opinions on their partner, while those opinions may be less important to another person.
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@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
25 Oct 15
@swissheart everyone is different. SOME may trust their own opinions more while some may trust their family more. It really depends on the relationships and levels of trust the person has with their family.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
26 Oct 15
@Samanthavv it ok when someone gives you an advice. especially when that person cares about you than you should definitely take it into consideration but I still consider you should be able to decide for yourself
@maggs224 (2320)
• Alicante, Spain
25 Oct 15
I know very little about Romanian culture so I cannot comment on whether it is normal or not there. As @MALUSE says there are still countries where marriages are arranged by the family and I am sure this would be considered a normal response in those countries.
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
25 Oct 15
they are certain cultures like gypsy people were marriages are arranged between certain families. but us romanian don't support such customs. each person is free to chose whoever she/he wants. but it surprised me to see her as a fully grown woman being so submissive
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
25 Oct 15
i don't think it's normal for a 28 years old woman to think like this. I mean you have to be able to chose for yourself
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@MALUSE (69388)
• Germany
25 Oct 15
@swissheart I agree, but people living in countries with arranged marriages think differently. Of course, Romania isn't such a country.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
26 Oct 15
Its normal and common in some countries. I am of the opinion that if one should decide to leave their partners out of respect for their parents, it shows that they didn't think highly of their partners. How could you leave someone you loved just because of family disapproval? What if your family was wrong about it?
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
26 Oct 15
parents should have the maturity to respect their child's decision even if it's not the best one. or else they children might blame them their whole life
@nonersays (3329)
• United States
26 Oct 15
It is not normal where I live.
Then you have to think, a boyfriend is a possible future husband. What is more important, that your parents like him or that you can spend the rest of your life with him on day? Th parents might only approve of ones who are unsuitable as a life partner in the long term.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
26 Oct 15
I think your friend very respectful and obedient to her parents. Or maybe she does not really love her boyfriend. I think it is possible and it is normal.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
26 Oct 15
so you would leave your dear one because your parents don't like him?
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@rakski (112924)
• Philippines
27 Oct 15
@swissheart not necessarily that it need to be on that scenario but the two of you should make efforts for your family to like you. Our parents love us and only wants the best for us but we can always proved them that it will be worth a try in a relationship. 
