Do I Have the Right to Get Angry ?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
June 3, 2016 12:09am CST
Since I am the EA of the General Manager , part of my job is accepting documents for her approval and signature .
Yesterday , the Marketing officer was looking for her July Events Proposal for approval and asked me about it , since she said it wasn’t on the GM’s office at the affiliate’s .
I told her I already put it on the GM’s table at our company for her final approval.
As I was getting out of the comfort room after lunch , I told her , not to worry because it was already noted by the mall manager and verified by the Audit head , so the GM will just affix her signature . And she said good .
Thus when I returned to the office I went to the GM’s table to get it and show it to her . But it wasn’t where I placed it .
Immediately , I asked her if she got it and she said it was taken by my co-auditor and brought it at the other GM’s office upstairs. Yet , she didn’t tell me when we met at the comfort room that they took it.
I flared up knowing that and confronted her , because I said why did they took out that document without asking for my permission .
I will cut this short , because I would like to ask if I am right in getting angry that they did that?
I think also that they owe me an apology for which my co-auditor told me , it was the Marketing officer who told her to take it and give it to her so she herself can have it approved by the GM .
So, it was after all with the Marketing Officer already all along , when we talked about it at the comfort room .
I am sorry , I just have to vent this out .
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37 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
What i am angry is that they didn't ask my permission to get t. I signed a logbook when it was submitted to me for the GM's signature . Hence if ever it gets lost , i will be the one responsile for it specially that it was already pre-approved and sgned by the mall manager and the audit head .
So, when i saw that t was missing i asked her because it was her who is asking for it as to where t is already , about 2 hours before .
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
15 Jun 16
I feel that if she thought that your are not the authority whose permission was essential to take the papers to GM, then she could have atleast informed you about it. If this incident made you angry then I feel you were right and you should not feel guilty about it.
PS - Some people try to be oversmart and that lady falls in that group.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD - It means the lady was trying to bypass you and did not realize that this could be a serious thing for you.
Ask (read threaten) her politely that she should not to bypass you in future, else she may face the music.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
@dpk262006 I think she got scared of me when i confronted her in her desk surrounded by the other officemates by their desks. Everyone was so silent while i confronted her and her voice was meek when she answered . 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
16 Jun 16
I am the one responsible for any document i received for the GM's signature . And she knows that fully well . This lady always feels that what she wants she gets .
Yes, she's at that group of people . But i always make sure she cannot outsmart me. 
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD I completely understood you. I too never prefer to be blamed by anyone just because of no fault of mine. And also, I dont like people making changes to my work without my prior consent or awareness.
But over time, I realized, being angry and spilling it out on them does not do much good (If I did). They dont change, but my getting angry and showing it off does tarnish my image. Though if it is only confined between colleagues, it does not matter, but I was a teacher and as such, I had to be more composed.
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Unlike me i am highly strung sometimes . But i know you willunderstand why i got angry at that .@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
@thesids The more that i admire. you , my friend , because you were a teacher . Yes, as a teacher you have to be more composed indeed .
I don't mind showing them how i get angry . At leastthey know that i don't like such type of things they do to a person.
I don't mind showing them how i get angry . At leastthey know that i don't like such type of things they do to a person.2 people like this
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
No matter how good our organization skills are, sometimes, things will be out of our control. You should be angry if that would help you but better move forward since it already happened. I guess one thing that you could to is to have a talk with everyone involved with this incident to avoid it from happening in the future. From my experience, this scenario always happens no matter what job you have. Although these moments may be too much to handle, it helps us develop our maturity in the corporate world.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
I have already talked with the two of them . And from my talkwith them i have deduced that the Marketing officer is the one most at fault .
I have moved on. We are not on speaking term again (with the Marketing officer)
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD I understand. I am still hoping though that you will soon be back to a good working relationship. There may come a time when you may need that person of the other way around. I am just not a fan of awkward moments when approaching people.
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@Letranknight2015 (51969)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
You would have been accountable and blame or even cost your job if those documents were not in the GM's table. therefore, they should have at least text you that they took the documents and give it to the marketing officer. you made assurance some how base on your post, so you got mad when you realize the documents aren't there. I guess you were right about getting mad.
I mean, you can't get mad while smiling, don't you ?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
what? so the credit goes to that other person who gave the document to the GM, am i right? if that happened to me, i will also get angry. i hope all things are sorted out now,
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
No , not that. Actually she let my co-auditor see if it's in the GM's table indeed as i have told her and had it given to her so she can right away have it signed even if i tell her she will be arriving in the afternoon .
And when the GM arrived she signed all documents exclusing her document because she got it and was out on fieldwork .
And today she had it signed by her , but the GM gave it to me . I didn't give it to her but to one of her staff . 
And today she had it signed by her , but the GM gave it to me . I didn't give it to her but to one of her staff . 2 people like this
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD oh, i see. it is raining so hard here, i might not continue for a while. you know, electrical charges. lightning and thunder too.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Jun 16
@ridingbet Good for you there that it is raining ,
I want it to rain here also , but it seems inevitable . 
I want it to rain here also , but it seems inevitable . 1 person likes this
@changjiangzhibin89 (16760)
• China
14 Jun 16
It is better to let off steam than to bottle it up.Some people tend not to do things in the normal way!
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
4 Jun 16
Yep! You sure have the right to be angry if they din't let you know what they did after it's supposed to be a teamwork right?..
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
6 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD oh okay .. I always think that when you work with a group, it's teamwork ...
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@antonbunot (11093)
• Calgary, Alberta
7 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD Everyone has the right to get mad at somebody who is not doing the right thing . . especially if what she did makes you look bad. But I suggest don't go "Dudirty" . . . hehehe
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Jun 16
@antonbunot Of course , i am not like him . I can only kill with my angry eyes .
@antonbunot (11093)
• Calgary, Alberta
7 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD I mean don't kill her! hehehe . . . Seriously, there are wonderful people in every workplace . . but there are always some with horns trying to raise themselves up by making you look bad. I am sure you know what I am saying. So, I suggest you calm down, wait for her or them to apologize . . . and always keep an eye on those with horns! 
@garymarsh6 (23405)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun 16
Do not let others get to you! Ignore it and don't let work worry you it is not worth it!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
But they violated my being the keeper of the documents which they made me sign in the logbook when they gave t to me . The Marketing Officer could have just asked it from me so. can also sign in he logbook that t's with her already unsgned by our Gm.
Anyway, after i posted this i felt fine already .
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@garymarsh6 (23405)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD IT is good to get it off your chest and vent your anger.
@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
3 Jun 16
It sounds to me as if she should have told you if she knew about it. I think you have a right to be upset, but it wont likely do you any good to obsess over it. I think I would just tell her I didn't appreciate her not telling me and let it go. After all you can't avoid working with her.
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