This friend let me down

@allknowing (137994)
India
February 26, 2017 10:39pm CST
We were neighbours and went to the same school. We were known in school as 'best friends' and this friendship continued till school life. We then parted ways. I went for further studies and she did her teacher's training. But I always had her in my mind and wanted to be in touch. Even then I felt she was not so keen for reasons best known to her. She got married in her teens and that meant a further distance. I got married too but after a few years but as luck would have it we became neighbours again. And did interact a bit here and there. We were buried in our own lives. Years passed and we lost touch. Still I had her in my thoughts. I was told she had settled down in New Zealand. I tried to get her contact details but did not succeed. However I jusrt go news that she had come down for a holiday. I was excited. Got her pone number and called her, She was as cold as a clam. Considering how close we were this sudden indifference set me thinking. Perhaps she was not happy in her life that she did not want to talk about? Perhaps she had secrets? Whatever............. I have closed the chapter. She will now be just a memory Any experience you can share? Wait a minute the phone is ringing and what do you know it is my friend who is on the line. Have you ever experienced such weird situations?
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• Philippines
27 Feb 17
The only constant in life is change. Maybe you are right that maybe she has secrets or problems... Just keep praying to break the wall and be friends again.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
Did you not read the last line in my post. Just as I was finishing the post my mobile was ringing and it was that friend on the lines. I cannot understand how we both thought of each other at the same time. I find it pretty weird.
@youless (112595)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Feb 17
Several of my close friends are like this. Perhaps we no longer have something in common. Or our lives are quite different. People pay attention to whether you are useful today and this is why I don't really appreciate. And therefore we can't go back to the past.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
But what is shocking is just when I was about to finish posting this my cell rings and she is on the line
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@youless (112595)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Feb 17
@allknowing So did you have a good talk?
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
@youless Yes. Pretty long chat.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 17
Seems like she still didn't change. Hopefully you guys can catch up again.
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 17
@allknowing I did, that's why I comment like that.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
Did you not read my last line?
@JudyEv (342271)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Feb 17
Life can be very funny sometimes. Very weird.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
The effort was always one sided but I really did not know what kept her away and just as I was writing this post I get a call from her. I find it weird really.
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@tzwrites (4835)
• Romania
27 Feb 17
It's so much easier to grow apart than to grow closer in life
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
Specially now when there are so many things that keep us busy, things that do not interest another.
@Riju92 (72)
27 Feb 17
Most friends that we make throughout our lives are acquainted with us on a very superficial level. They interact with us when they can observe we have certain thoughts in common. But over time and experience our priorities change and we no longer have the same thoughts. Hence these people start distancing from us.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
But to think that as I was finishing this post I got a call from her. I just cannot relate to this
@Riju92 (72)
27 Feb 17
@allknowing Then you are quite lucky person i believe :)
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
1 Mar 17
It is always interesting how over the yrs things happen and people you were once close friends with decide it is time to seek their attentions somewhere else. Awesome that she was calling you while finishing this post, and wishing you the Best with this.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
1 Mar 17
I am still in shock how after such a long time she connects just when I am calling it a day with her
@silvermist (19702)
• India
28 Feb 17
@allknowing The change that we come across is not real change in their character.In her heart she may be like the old school girl.Life experiences that the family situations are what prevents her from going back to her old self.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
28 Feb 17
You may be right. All cannot withstand what goes on in their life. After a chat with her I came to know she is on pacemaker
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
1 Mar 17
@silvermist She prefers seclusion it looks like. I was told she had visited her native land but never took the trouble to meet classmates
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
1 Mar 17
@allknowing So that is just one of her problems.
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@jstory07 (140051)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Feb 17
If tat is your friend on the phone you will be finding out now.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
This was too shocking a coincindence
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@DianneN (247184)
• United States
27 Feb 17
People can be strange at times.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
27 Feb 17
Maybe she is wary? or don't know how to proceed after all these years? Anyways, was the call any good?
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
27 Feb 17
We did talk. We were real good friends but as you said situations prompt some to stay awy
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
27 Feb 17
@allknowing I have lost some good friends like that. It just became awkward and forced when we interacted after years being not in touch. People change with time.
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@tom_view (6451)
• Kolkata, India
27 Feb 17
i do not have any such experience
@Bodyandbrain (13797)
• Gurgaon, India
3 Mar 17
I think she may had some reasons but could not shared with you. Understanding a woman and the situation she face is not easy for men. I think you both had some strong connection that's why when you were thinking about her and wrote the post, she was also thinking about you and called you. So beautiful incident.
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
3 Mar 17
First things first. I am a dainty lady What happened is amazing!!
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@allknowing (137994)
• India
3 Mar 17
@Bodyandbrain This happens here all the time with many users.
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• Gurgaon, India
3 Mar 17
@allknowing oh! I thought you are a man. Sorry
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@pammooratan (4668)
• India
27 Feb 17
Director life drama is very mysterious. How he work nobody can understand. Hoping for happiness and your goodness.
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@reskyyandi (3608)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 17
I have some of same experience like this