Breakups...

United States
March 7, 2018 10:00am CST
I came home this past Friday for my last Spring Break of my college career. It was also the day I broke up with my boyfriend of four years. It was hard and I still miss him like crazy but it was something that had to be done. In the long run, we want different things and I wasn't very happy. I felt trapped and that I was being forced to settle. He has a great job in our hometown and loves living here but I don't. It isn't something I want and I would have to drive over an hour every day for a decent paying job in my field. My hometown is never somewhere I wanted to stay and it wouldn't make me happy to stay here and it isn't somewhere I want to raise a family. I just know there is more out there for me than what this town can offer. It isn't fair of me to ask him to leave his job or to wait for me to come back around. I still have at least two more years of schooling for Grad school to get my Master's degree. We did end on good terms though. He was a family friend before we started dating and he will be one even after we stop. He is apart of our family regardless of it we continue to date or not. We both love each other and always will but we know that we want different things at different times. Love wasn't the problem with us but life was.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
7 Mar 18
Sorry you broke up. But glad you did what was best for you. And never know, over time, one or both of you may change your minds a little (or alot) and you cpuld be together again.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
7 Mar 18
@CaseyRoss9966 yes thats a great thing. Sadly, most breakups dont end up good
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• United States
7 Mar 18
It is okay and what is the best for both of us now is what is most important. I hope that one day we could come together again in an intimate relationship but just still having him here as a really great friend is also a great option. It is good to know that there is someone out there that loves you and still wants you happy. I am mostly glad things did end on good terms with us.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
7 Mar 18
I am so sorry to hear this. I know it must be quite hurtful too at times. I hope you made the right decision for both of your futures. Blessings to you. Hope you achieve all you want.
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• United States
7 Mar 18
Thank you. It is okay. It hurts but in time it will be fine.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
7 Mar 18
@CaseyRoss9966 Live your dreams!!
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@RasmaSandra (74845)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Mar 18
Glad you could at least be friends. Breakup after a long time together is difficult I know. But you know what is more difficult that is losing someone you love. My husband suddenly passed away in August of last year and we were together for 20+years. I still feel like he should be coming in the door soon. Such an odd feeling but I know he is around just differently. Hope you cheer up soon and find someone you can really relate to.
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@dya80dya (34768)
7 Mar 18
This is a sad story. It's hard to break up when there is love. Life is difficult sometimes.
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• United States
7 Mar 18
It is okay or it will be. Breakups suck but sometimes they are necessary. Some people just grow apart and want different things in life.
@sashann (210)
• Philippines
7 Mar 18
maybe you just both need space for yourown careers? you just haveto see what what will happen next, what you did is right and I admire you for that:)
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• United States
7 Mar 18
Thank you.