Is it wrong to called anyone a buddy in mylot

@Berrygal (5834)
April 15, 2018 6:33am CST
I had a discussion where I happened to called someone here a Buddy, and the response was awful, it makes being friendly a bit difficult. What will be your response in this case?
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@MALUSE (69390)
• Germany
15 Apr 18
INTRODUCTION Mylot is an international site spanning the globe. What we learn from reading discussions is that basically people are people. They're born, live...
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@marlina (154165)
• Canada
15 Apr 18
@MALUSE , I reread your discussion from before and it was so well explained. I am glad that you could express your feelings so "proper way". Thank you for it and hope that some people here will recognize themselves and stop calling other users here with terms of endearment.
@Daelii (5619)
• United States
15 Apr 18
Is that discussion post just your personal opinion or a rule made by @GoAskAlice ??
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
15 Apr 18
Thanks for sharing. I will keep it in mind.
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15 Apr 18
I don't mind called as a buddy whether elder or junior everyone can say me. This word is no personal and if a person takes it by heart then I say he/she is still to learn the meaning of "Friendly".
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@MALUSE (69390)
• Germany
15 Apr 18
@Berrygal @prakashj256 You can't tell me how to react to certain ways of addressing and what is rude or friendly. If I don't like certain terms of endearment, then nobody should use them. End of discussion. Nobody gets a 'Like' from me who calls me 'friend', 'dear', 'dear friend', 'buddy', 'dude' or whatever. It shouldn't be too difficult to understand this.
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15 Apr 18
@Berrygal let him go. You don't need to be in interaction with him.
@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
yea,that's was just trying to be friendly and he became very rude
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@GardenGerty (157865)
• United States
16 Apr 18
I am sorry people were harsh and awful to you. Personally, I do not want to be called buddy or dear unless I know you really well. Some people feel like it is shallow and pretentious to address them that way. Relax, just address people by name or not at all. It is okay, but people should not be mean to you, either.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
16 Apr 18
I never use any endearing terms here nor do I like it when others do.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
16 Apr 18
@MALUSE 'Aunt' and 'uncle' comes to mind even if they are strangers. I am different I do not like my plumber addressing me as Aunt. I prefer the word madam' But everyone here is addressed as uncle and aunt.
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@MALUSE (69390)
• Germany
16 Apr 18
@allknowing I'm glad I don't live in India. If I had been born there, I'd be used to such addresses. If I had come as a grown-up, the custom would annoy me.
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@MALUSE (69390)
• Germany
16 Apr 18
Indians have the reputation of being respectful to their elders. Would a young person address an unknown person as old as their grandparents with terms of endearment in real life? Is it possible that for young Indians being active on the internet means that someone is also young (and childish)?
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@Daelii (5619)
• United States
15 Apr 18
Um, it depends on people I guess. Ive seen people greeted in person with a " hey there buddy" or " hi there friend " etc as a way to break the ice and open up lines of communication. I guess it depends in context too and possible difference of culture. How was it used?
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@Daelii (5619)
• United States
15 Apr 18
@Berrygal unfortunately not everyone who writes here wishes to be friends with other people. To some, people are just letters on a screen they can attempt to make a few coins from. Its my personal opinion, people being nice should be a good thing. There is so much negativity out there that kindness is killed by the sour apples who live miserably. Maybe when the world gets to be a miserable place where peoples greeting are "hey profanity filled insult" they may one day like or miss the once nice greeting people use to use.
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@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
In a friendly manner so that we can have a very healthy discussion
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@august18 (3907)
• Tunisia
15 Apr 18
Call me whatever you like. For me, there are no formalities among friends.
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@MALUSE (69390)
• Germany
15 Apr 18
Writing on the same site doesn't make us friends.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
@MALUSE i also refused to be addressed as BUDDY.
@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
Definitely dear
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@mayka123 (16582)
• India
15 Apr 18
Generally a guy calls a male friend 'buddy'. So may be that person may not be too close to you hence did not like being called that. Another reason could be because of the country the person belongs to. In India in the Hindi language 'buddy' means old woman. The word is pronounced a little differently but no Indian girl would like being called 'buddy'. Not all countries are comfortable with that word.
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@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
Oh really noted then. Thank you
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@topffer (42156)
• France
15 Apr 18
I would not call anybody "buddy" here as long as we have not bred pigs together.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
16 Apr 18
Presumably 'un/une badie' means 'quelqu'un avec qui on peut échanger des badinages' ('one whith whom one can exchange banter') (Yes, I know that such a person is more correctly 'un badin' )
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@topffer (42156)
• France
15 Apr 18
@Berrygal The word "buddy" is perhaps acceptable in your place but not everywhere when you talk to a stranger.
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@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
How will the world be a better place where everyone become so harsh
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
16 Apr 18
I don't mind it.
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@redurnet (1799)
• United Kingdom
16 Apr 18
Personally, I don't have a problem with that if the term was genuinely friendly and not being added to a reply as a way of undermining me. However, I understand that because My Lot is an international community that these kinds of terms may be deemed inappropriate to some users.
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@augusta123 (6649)
15 Apr 18
Really?,I use this a lot but with younger people, maybe their names will be more appropriate
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15 Apr 18
@Berrygal Alright Buddy hahs
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@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
Noted dear
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@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
@augusta123 haha Buddy
@aureliah (24321)
• Kenya
15 Apr 18
Dont worry. Just be neutral because you know we all come from different cultures
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
15 Apr 18
It's not wrong word ..it's depends on the other person's like. If they don't like it's better to not call them like that..I think you should not put the screenshot with person's name.
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@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
Noted dear friend, it good to be friendly and the world will be a better place
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Apr 18
Well, maybe it is not really wrong to call someone that. Safer to call the person by his or her name or username. If the person tells you not to call them, then so be it.
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@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
Noted there, but the world will be a better place with more friendly people
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
16 Apr 18
@Berrygal yeah but we cannot please people if they do not want to be friendly.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
For information purpose, " buddy" is sometimes an informal address of camaraderie in our Armed forces and police force.( Philippines) Buddy or buddy system that we also practice with American counterparts. Just don't call a person that if he does not like it although for me personally I don't mind.
https://www.militarynews.com/peninsula-warrior/news/around_the_army/army-s-battle-buddy-program-promotes-accountability-camaraderie-during-holidays/article_08fd7612-cc78-5903-a2dc-dbb0b9048f89.html
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
16 Apr 18
Call me, sometime
@marlina (154165)
• Canada
15 Apr 18
@Berrygal, I hope that @MALUSE has answered your question.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
Mylot should always be a friendly community. Buddy, or friend should always be acceptable. That isn't a big deal for me when someone calls me that way.
@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
Thanks dear, I used it in a friendly context and I was shocked at such rude response
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@porwest (78757)
• United States
15 Apr 18
In most English, the term "buddy" is mostly pejorative. It does depend on the context. But typically when someone is called Buddy, it's an insult.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
15 Apr 18
I am calling @thesupersingh " buddy" and I sometimes called you that way also, I thought it is not bad to call a person in that.. But it is better if we just address people by their names just like @mlgen1037 said..
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
15 Apr 18
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
16 Apr 18
@thesupersingh you're always welcome buddy
@Berrygal (5834)
15 Apr 18
Yea,there's nothing wrong with that .I think some people just enjoy being rude.its an harmless word,if we are to go by the meaning
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