Caretaking for ill and aged parent

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I am now caretaking for my aged mother. Me together with my sister do it. My brother is not here with us anymore. They moved to a province far away with his wife and little kids. The last year had been kind of tough, so were the few years leading to this. Mother had been bedridden for almost a year and every 2, 3, and 6 months, we are always put in that situation where we have to quickly prepare ourselves for the likely event that mother would not make it. And she survives or maybe just get by And I am tired sometimes physically,mentally emotionally..that I feel I'm ready to let go when it gets really hard in real every day life and those times we get there again and again..the same scenario in the emergency room and not being able to really get in to the hospital room..we always take her home and she recovers just enough for a few months more and we are always happy when this happens and then she will get sick again. But I also get the chance to cherish the times that she can talk to me and be alive and exist in our (shared) world .and she just needs me or any family member she knows close by..that is all she wants.. and that we cannot give her all the time because we also have our jobs and other responsibilities. Sometimes I think that I will look back in one of these days, that I will have regrets. when I miss her and these days..when I am in better place in life one day. when I do not have to be fully engaged in 8 to 5 work and sometimes.more. and that's to support our every day need and the additional expenses. And I am aware in the back of my mind that these things are so cheap so little compared to the things I put importance in in the real world..that is, it's demands and its ways..like I cannot leave work if I accepted a full time job, right? Even though my immediate supervisor knows and believes my situation at home, work should still come first..otherwise, I should go elsewhere.