Back from the birthday dinner

@NJChicaa (116472)
United States
March 16, 2024 7:29pm CST
There were 5 of us at dinner tonight: me, my sister, my aunt, my cousin, and my second mom. My mother has some kind of virus so she stayed home. The restaurant has been a family favorite for decades but it has new owners so I wasn't sure what to expect. The food was good. Most of the conversation was good. At one point I found out that my sister's family, my mother, and my second parents were all going to Turks and Caicos together. That hurt me because they didn't invite me. Could I afford it? No. Would I like to at least have been asked? Yes. Whatever. I don't know why I'm surprised by this crap anymore. We ordered dessert and someone told the waiter to put a candle in my tartufo. I said "no candle!" The cute young waiter said "I'll compromise. You have to have a candle but I won't sing." I cried on the way back here. I cried because my dad and ex weren't there. I cried because I'm just exhausted with my life these days. I opened up the cards and gifts that I received when I got back here. My aunt gave me a $50 Bath & Body Works gift card. My cousin gave me a pot of tulips. My second mom gave me a $50 gift card for Marshalls/TJ Maxx/Home Goods and a door mat. My sister forgot her gift for me so I don't know what she is giving me. So that was my evening. Was it a great birthday? No. Was it terrible? No. I'll be happy to just go to bed and wake up on a new day.
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@MarieCoyle (30127)
17 Mar
There is no way I would want to leave out one child and take another. That's just wrong. Like you said, it would have been nice to have been asked, at least. If I were you, I would just confront my mother, and tell her in a nice way that you hate being left out, and that it's just...well, not nice at all. It can't hurt anything really, just tell her. If one of my kids thought I was leaving them out, I would want them to tell me. I'm so sorry, it has to be so hard.
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@NJChicaa (116472)
• United States
17 Mar
It would make no difference with her. She has always treated us differently.
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@NJChicaa (116472)
• United States
17 Mar
@MarieCoyle I've stopped thinking that anything will ever change. She is who she is.
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@MarieCoyle (30127)
17 Mar
@NJChicaa It’s past time for her to wake up and realize that you are just as special as your sister. Everyone is different. All four of my kids are very different. I accept and celebrate each one for who they are. Maybe you can toss mom in a pool of ice water and shock her into reality! You are a daughter to be proud of!!
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@RebeccasFarm (87041)
• United States
17 Mar
What is their freaking problem? Why don't they ask you if you want to go as well to Turks and Calcos? Happy Birthday. Sorry your Mom was sick. How was the food then with new owners?
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@NJChicaa (116472)
• United States
17 Mar
The food was good. The dish that I usually get was good but different. It was spicier and had more tomato.
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• United States
17 Mar
@NJChicaa Acceptable then.
@GardenGerty (158131)
• United States
17 Mar
I often have mixed feelings about my birthday. You should have been invited on the trip.
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@kaylachan (59686)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Mar
At least it sounds like they're trying. As for being asked, if they expect a 'no' some people just don't bother because they know the answer before they can even ask. I am sorry . I know this would be a rough one with the recent passing of your dad.
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@LindaOHio (160234)
• United States
17 Mar
I'm sorry you weren't invited on the trip. Life sucks at times. I'm sorry your dad and ex couldn't be at your dinner. I did pretty well last night. No tears. Didn't receive any cards this year which really blew me away since the people that usually sent the cards never missed a year. Hope you have a good St. Patrick's Day.
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@sarik1 (6792)
17 Mar
Happy birthday to you. have a great day.
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@dfollin (24306)
• United States
17 Mar
Happy Birthday and I hope that your mom recovers quickly! Really I think they should of at least asked you if you wanted to go. Why would your ex have come to your birthday dinner? Nice presents I would like the gift cards!
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@jstory07 (134750)
• Roseburg, Oregon
17 Mar
Happy Birthday. I hope you had a nice day anyway.
@Happy2BeMe (99376)
• Canada
17 Mar
Sorry it was a difficult one for you. You are home now so just relax and unwind. Cry as much as you want. Life has been difficukt for you the past little while. You have been through a lot.