Why do young people share an apartment with housemates?

@Shavkat (137251)
Philippines
March 31, 2024 10:59pm CST
When I was a university student, I did not need to rent an apartment or have a housemate for this matter. But I sometimes envy my classmates because they are living independently. Unlike me, I need to be with my family. They do have housemates to save money and, of course, to make new friends. Did you experience this before? Image Credit: uploads-ssl.webflow.com
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@wolfgirl569 (96433)
• Marion, Ohio
1 Apr
Living with family can be great. I never lived with friends but that could be good for everyone.
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@capirani (2772)
• United States
2 Apr
When I was in college, my roommates were not friends when we all started out. The college had a book of lists of people who wanted roommates. We would browse through the books and choose people who seemed well matched with each of us. So we ended up with roommates who were from all around the country and sometimes outside the country. We became friends through the time living together.
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@besweet (9860)
• Ireland
2 Apr
@capirani It must be different in every university, we couldn't choose the flatmates only the apartment area. This was through the university accommodation. It's nice that you became friends!
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I only tried to live with my friends when it was time for us to start our internship program outside my city.
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@arunima25 (85885)
• Bangalore, India
1 Apr
I did not have that experience. I went to the best university in the country and it was commutable from my home. So, I was not given any hostel on campus ( there is a huge demand for that from students coming from other cities). I did one year course after my post graduation and that campus was very far. I was given hostel accommodation and then I shared a hostel room with one of my batchmate. It was fun. And she became a very good friend.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
When I had my chance to work in another city for the very first time, I needed to have housemates at that time. The sad part is that the relationship with them turned sour. So I decided to volunteer in another country, and I have no regrets about leaving them behind.
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@arunima25 (85885)
• Bangalore, India
4 Apr
@Shavkat Oh! Sorry about that. Fortunately, I had good ones and they became friends forever. But yes, I have seen cases like yours too.. having a good flatmate is so important.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
5 Apr
@arunima25 It is fine. At least, I do not need to have friendship with these people.
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@pumpkinjam (8547)
• United Kingdom
1 Apr
I studied with Open University so I didn't have the whole university experience. My eldest son did, though. He got into the university he wanted. It was too far to commute so he had to move nearer to it. He started off in dorms for the first year. He had his own bedroom but everything else (bathroom, kitchen, communal rooms) was shared with other students. He spent his second year sharing a house with one friend he had made. Third year, he had a student flat that I think was a similar set-up to the university dorms but with his own bathroom and only sharing the kitchen. Finally, he spent his fourth sharing a house with three other people. He didn't mind the dorms. I don't think he was really keen on the last shared house. He definitely seemed happiest when he was sharing a house with his friend. My son didn't have a great deal of choice as he had to take what was available, affordable, and practical at the time. He made friends more with people from his courses and shared interest groups than he did with the people he shared accommodation with.
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• United Kingdom
3 Apr
@Shavkat I wanted my son to have the whole university experience. Unfortunately, covid started while he was in his 2nd year so he didn't quite get the experience he should have! I'm glad he had that independence, though, even though I did worry about it being the first time he was away from family.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
3 Apr
@pumpkinjam I can relate to you on this matter. Most of the students here experienced this thing, too. It took more than 3 years before they could go back to school physically.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I think your son is lucky to have parents like you. I am pretty sure I would be glad to experience the chance to live independently with housemates. When I reached my first year at the university, my parents and siblings went to another city to closely work on their business. I was left behind in our home. It is kind of independent in the sense that our relatives check me out from time to time. The real experience of being independent came when I had my final year of school. I need to take the 10-month internship program. I move from one hospital to another in different places in my country. It was my first time not being checked and monitored.
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@jstory07 (135092)
• Roseburg, Oregon
1 Apr
I only shared a place with my husband. No room mates.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I am glad that you are. I only tried this once when I had my 10-month intership program in different places in my country.
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@just4him (308672)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Apr
I was married when I was in college and lived at home.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I am sure those were the days of being so happy until now.  On the bright side, when we live at home, we can save money.
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@just4him (308672)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Apr
@Shavkat Yes, they were good days. Yes, you can save money when you live at home.
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@JudyEv (326601)
• Rockingham, Australia
1 Apr
I've never lived in a communal situation like this but I'm sure it could be a lot of fun.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
During my internship program, it is inevitable not to be with my classmates in university. It was fun being with them, and I learned more about them at that time.
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@capirani (2772)
• United States
2 Apr
When I was in college, I shared a two-bedroom apartment with 3 other roommates. It was fun and made it affordable to stay near the campus. It was not a commune. We had the choice of living in the dorms on campus or getting apartments if we were not close enough to drive from home. We were just all roommates who split the total rent and utilities 4 ways.
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@capirani (2772)
• United States
2 Apr
@Shavkat My town has small branches of two or three different colleges for people who live in this area so they don't have to drive far to the main campuses. So those who live here do not have dorms because they all live at their homes. But the dorms are there at the main campuses.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I think it is a good idea to save money by having housemates. I can tell that you had a great time with them. I had seen some of my friends before. They were not living in my city before. We do not have a school dormitory. That is why it is not one of the options.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
4 Apr
@capirani That is great! In my city, it is only once a university that offers dormitories. But students claimed that there were a lot of ghosts there and left after experiencing paranormal activities there.
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@much2say (53941)
• Los Angeles, California
1 Apr
When I was in college, I lived at home . . . I had a car and only a 5 minute commute. But I was hardly at home except to sleep . . . I was either at school, work, or with friends.
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@much2say (53941)
• Los Angeles, California
3 Apr
@Shavkat Sounds like your parents had trust in you just as mine did. We lived at home, but we were living independently otherwise.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I had a great time during my university days. I was left alone when my parents needed to handle their business in the countryside. They think that I can live independently as a freshman at the university.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
4 Apr
@much2say Among all the siblings, I am not the naughty one. I guess it is what my parents feel that I can give me to live independently.
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@besweet (9860)
• Ireland
1 Apr
I had flatmates when I was studying abroad. Student accomodation was shared and I had my own bedroom and bathroom. Kitchen and living room were shared spaces. Nowadays even young professionals live in shared houses because it's very difficult and very expensive to find an apartment.
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@besweet (9860)
• Ireland
2 Apr
@Shavkat Yes it's not bad. I know some expats who enjoy sharing the house because it's a good way to socialise, and pay less for rent. It's important to be a good match with the housemates in terms of noise and tidyness.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
3 Apr
@besweet I agree with you. It is best to have the same personas. It would be a great effort to make friends with them.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
In my view, we can consider the practical side of having housemates. I cannot see any problems with it. In the past, I used to have housemates while working in another city. It was not that bad.
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@RebeccasFarm (86976)
• United States
1 Apr
Coz they like to have friends around..they are young.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
You are right. It is the age period that they wanted to explore and experience new things in their lives.
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@sabtraversa (13096)
• Italy
1 Apr
I didn't experience this myself but I usually read of students complaining about their roommates more than enjoying living together. I get how hard it is at times to get along but I don't think it's always that bad.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I also read some stories like this. If they can only live with their real friends, then there is nothing to worry about.
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@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
1 Apr
I have always lived in the apartment of my parents while I was studying and I was very happy to live with them.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
It is also the same thing. I had lived with them since birth until I finished my studies. The first time I was away from them was when I had my 10-month internship program.
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@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
3 Apr
@Shavkat - I lived with my parents until the day I got married.
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@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
3 Apr
@Shavkat - If I would have not married I would have lived with my mother.
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• Pakistan
1 Apr
Yes, I can definitely relate to that feeling! While there's a sense of comfort being with family, there's also the allure of independence and the camaraderie of living with friends. It's a unique experience for everyone, and each choice comes with its own set of pros and cons.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I do agree that we need to be separated from the family. In doing so, we still need to know the importance of responsibility. It is also better to go with the right people because they can influence us in so many circumstances.
@grenery8 (3077)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
1 Apr
it was cheaper. i wish i was in your position back then.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
5 Apr
@grenery8 It sounds like you are not close to her?
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
2 Apr
I was also thinking that it is best to save money by living in your own abode.
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@grenery8 (3077)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
4 Apr
@Shavkat right
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@mayka123 (16582)
• India
3 Apr
While I lived in the hostel a lot of my friends left and took apartments on rent and lived together. Said it was very economical and there did not have to follow any rules !!!
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@mayka123 (16582)
• India
3 Apr
@Shavkat This was nearly 40 years ago, and I was not comfortable leaving the hostel and living in an apartment. I was worried that if all the girls later went to their homes and I did not get a roommate, how would I manage? I was always afraid of living alone. I did not know at that time that a day would come when I would have to live all alone.
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@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
4 Apr
@mayka123 You have a point. It will be troublesome to find new housemates if they leave.
@Shavkat (137251)
• Philippines
3 Apr
I might say that I agree with them. Why you did not go with them at that time?
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