Is it wrong that I want to go somewhere??

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Don't get me wrong here...I am no gadabout. I like to be home. I love my children, but for a long time now, it's so hard to get away for a break. I get to see my oldest daughter as she is not far away at all, so I can take my son. They do what they can, but they have his parents to care for and they both work full time. It's hard for my son to travel far right now due to medical issues and treatments. He has to have someone...and for now, that someone is ME. That doesn't mean I don't want to go somewhere. I want to go spend several days with my oldest son and his family, about a 2 hour drive each way. I did this for years and I miss it terribly. They come here sometimes when they can, but they are very busy with kid's sports, jobs, and such, so it always works way better for me to go there. I want to go to Florida like I always have, to spend time with my youngest girl and her family. I miss them terribly. But I just can't...I can't go that far from him. I love my son who is ill. I love them all. There just isn't anyone I can leave my son with right now, he hasn't been driving for several months since he hasn't been very stable, we didn't think it was safe for him to do so. That limits him a lot, and he hates it. He wants to be well enough to drive, maybe someday he can be. I was hoping I could take my son to Florida and he could visit with his sister and his father and his grandparents, while I was there. But he isn't well enough to travel so far, and to be away from his doctors, etc. in case of an emergency (and we have had our share of emergencies!) If I say I want to go, does that make me selfish? Like I said, my gadabout days are long over. I don't have big finances to do that, anyway. But I miss my bestie...she is 2 hours away, and it's hard for us to see each other as well, if she comes here I still have him to care for and limited space, if I go there I have to take him, and it's too far for him to go. So, here I am... Why am I writing this, you say? I am writing this because of caregivers. If you have time, and know of a family caregiver, and know they are struggling or needing to get away, give them a break if you can. A few hours could make all the difference and give them a good mental break. Maybe they will just go for a walk or to the store. Maybe they will go to the park, or go to a coffee shop, or a friend's home. I have one friend who did this for us on a regular basis, and she recently had major surgery--now, we take HER food, etc. She has no one but just a few friends, no family. There are people everywhere that would benefit from just an hour or two of your time if you have it to spare. We never know if something will happen and we might need the same type of break. A break refreshes the mind, gives us time away, different scenery, and just a tiny bit of time to be just who we are, for a minute or two...much needed. Pixabay picture.