my dull life

December 29, 2006 3:32am CST
I am seriously in debt, living at home with my parents. I have a decent job but it is dull, dull, dull. I am saving up to buy a house which with my debts will probably take around 10 years. I have very few friends and I don't know why as when I turn it on i can be a good laugh. I am single, used to like men, now I haven't had a man since 2000 when I came out, split up with my last girlfriend this year and I am all alone, I wake up not knowing what day it is and not caring, Should I just end it all now??
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59 responses
30 Dec 06
You are going through a really bad patch at the moment. Coming out is a difficult thing to do and your life can go into turmoil. However, you live with your parents, so they must accept you for who you are (do they know?) If they do, it is alot more than what some parents do. You have a job, which may be dull, but at least you have a reason to get up every morning. Debts can be sorted out. If you cannot find an alternative GO BANKRUPT. Life is too short to worry! You have stated that you have had partners in the past, so you can have partners in the future. Maybe at the moment, because you are not happy with your life, you are not in the best frame of mind to start a new relationship. That does not mean it will not happen again. You need to find an outlet, whether it is within the gay community or not and enjoy yourself. There are so many groups to join in the UK that may be able to get you out of this rut. You may be suffering from depression, if so go to your doctor and seek their advise. Nothing is worth ending it all. If you speak to most people, they can name their friends on one hand. Life is about yourself and not how many friends you have. This may seem like crap advise, but from personal experiance most people live their lives using who they can. It is rare to find a genuine friend. Be true to yourself and then find friends. They are not the be all and end all. If you are interested in something, look at what organisations there are. Maybe do some volunteer work. You may meet the love of your life or find true friends. it will be alot easier to be with people who share the same ideals as you. I wish you all the luck. Please think seriously before falling into such a decline.
@doniker (493)
• United States
29 Dec 06
life sucks...get used to it. remember their are always at least 1 million people in the world that are worse off and trade places with you in a minute.
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@Sunset50 (1397)
• United States
29 Dec 06
You need to see a doctor as you sound as you are deeply depressed. It would be the best step to a satisfying life to take.
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@doniker (493)
• United States
29 Dec 06
why, so a doctor can take more of her money and give her more debt? all these head doctor's are quacks.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Who pays for your internet use? You? Your Parents? if you then maybe it is a bill you can do without until you get caught up. Get out more make new friends. Maybe the money you set aside for your house you could pay on the debts and get them paid off first then look into buying a house
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
29 Dec 06
btw nothing in life or that is handed to us by life is worth taking your life over.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
30 Dec 06
well thanks .... it's just ya know people been whinning here and in a couple other rooms about no money then hello disconnect the internet. We did and I didn't die or go through withdrawls...lol
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• Philippines
29 Dec 06
I agree with you 100%
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• India
30 Dec 06
life is fullof sorrows and happiness u should face them
• India
30 Dec 06
u r right.we must both of them equally
• India
30 Dec 06
u r right.we must face both equally.
@tictac714 (975)
• United States
29 Dec 06
no, definitely do not end it all now. I have felt that way many times myself so I have an idea what you are going through...but, that's just not the right way to handle it. If you want to talk, let's try to talk you through it, I'm right here. If not, remember that theere is ALWAYS someone who cares and, find SOMEONE to talk to, even if it isn't me. Best. Carrie
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
I agree. There is more to life. Just have more faith to Jesus and talk your problem out. It would lessen the burden. I have also financial problems, but i always believe, we can handle all our problems. Maybe you just need to refocus on your life, and start all over again, like finding a new job, or start to like your current job.
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@lulylove (1560)
• Brazil
29 Dec 06
I agree to you, I think that you must make what she is better you not always to think about the others. Therefore this is very bad for you.
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• India
30 Dec 06
My dull life started at 2 month. My family is very happy and jolly life at any time One day my happy life carked,suddenly my life is fell dowen I don't know what is the reson.
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
29 Dec 06
my dear,life is not bed of roses.you would rethink if you were in my situation.give ur life to jesus and you will have peace.i am not joking
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• India
30 Dec 06
Life is a war, play it!! try hard to come up in life!!!
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@lulylove (1560)
• Brazil
29 Dec 06
I think that you must make everything that is better for you, poise never tries to please to somebody when it will go to feel itself bad with this. I think that best she is you to stop and to reflect on what you desire, and fazerndo thus you will be much more happy!
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• United States
29 Dec 06
Well the first thing to do is decide "What is it that I want" and make a list. The hardest thing really is to figure this out. so let's try this...how much debt do you have, and how much money do you have (since you are living with your parents) above the very, very minimum it takes to live (no including anything other than food, transportation and shelter)? let's see if we can help you find a plan to get moving on a plan?
• Hong Kong
30 Dec 06
on,God. I am really sorry to hear that! But don't,really don't end it! I think you may focus too much on the unsatisfactory in your life. If I think about my life in your way, maybe I would get the same conclusion! I am also in debt,and I am busy with my dissertation all day long! I have no my own house and have no my own car! Sometimes I feel it is a dull life. But I am not depressed now, because I think the most important thing is to be alive. To be alive,I have the chance to experince my life even it is dull. To be alive,I have the opportunity to change my life with my own hands! No one in the world are always happy,and everyone has his own bothering issues,may because of the debts,the marriage, and the job...... But you can find many people who look happy,it is just beacuse they know how to deal with the bother and find happiness from their dull life! I think you need to consult a psychologist doctor. The doctor may give you some resonable advices. Also try to make more friends, and friends are the best medicine in the world! Just have a try to make a friend with your heart, you may find that it is easy! Take it easy! You have owned a decent job,though you think it dull,but a decent job is a dream of most of the people! Also you have parents who love you! Think about that,you may feel better! God bless you,my dear!!
• India
30 Dec 06
in our life we face many problems but along with we get so many happiness so we shold not afraid of our problems. we should live our life with courage,happiness etc. we should not run from our our problems otherwise we should fail in our life thats why we should face all probelems with happiness. if life gives us 100 reason to cry than we should have 1000 reason to be happy.
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@sahergul (774)
• Pakistan
30 Dec 06
hmmm... change the way you think... try doing something new... thats all i can say... no one can help you but change of mentality and paradigm shifting...
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@bimmer999 (1158)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
wow how sad is that.. no meaning at all.. try to find new friends and socialize more.. thats is one bad situation.. how old are you??
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• United States
30 Dec 06
Ending it all is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You still have a LOT of years left to live, and this will eventually become what you look back on and see as a roadblock to the success that you'll have achieved.
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@j12345 (163)
• New Zealand
30 Dec 06
do you know my philosophy is "everything happens for a reason" .... no one can honestly say they have the perfect life.... i have got serious problems and lately they have gotten to the point of no return ...but i still seem to go to work everyday with a smile on my face (and im working as a waitress).... everything we go through are lessons .... to make us stronger mentally, physically and spiritually. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS GET REAL!!! you are in control of your own life!!! only you can make changes to your life .... so start today... this moment... make the decision to live life and never give up ....dont just roll over ... go out there kicking and screaming... every person is given the oppotuniy to live ... dont throw that away... if you want support im here!
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@lulylove (1560)
• Brazil
30 Dec 06
I think that you must use to advantage more of the life. To leave, to dance, if to amuse. It uses to advantage the moment that the life gives to you. It does not allow that the people oppress you! Either Happy!
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@abilbrey (114)
• United States
30 Dec 06
You need to have someone to talk too. If you have a close friend you need to give them a call but let it be the person in you life that has always lifted you up. If you do not have someone find a professional to talk to. You have talk to someone. There have been dark times in my life and I have felt the same way but you need to find the good in your life and focus on it. I am sure you will find your way it is hard at times but all is possible as long as you pick yourself up and get to working on making like better. There are to many things and people in your life if you look for them. I wish you the best and will pray for you tonight.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
i know what you mean about debts... we are in debt and expecting our first child in april, sometimes it's so overwhelming and scary. But at least you are not homeless. I would go out to different social events to meet people. Though, you don't have to have someone ya know? Just remember, you wont know how good it can get if you end the story midway through ;).
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@bluej20 (113)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I think you need help.You have no reason to be that depressed so if you get help.You have a job, be grateful. You don't like it girl go find a new one.Instead of ending your life start it.You should not need a relationship to make you happy or whole.You will never be happy with anyone till you are happy with you.
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@msbyte (219)
• United States
30 Dec 06
So many people think there is only one way to live, and that is just not true. Life is full of exhiliration and challenges. I have been through some pretty depressing times, and believe it or not I am a Christian. It is part of the growing process. Not only do our physical bodies change, but we change mentally and spiritually. You are in need of spiritual answers. Yeshua really is the answer, in English people say Jesus, but His people knew him by His name Y'shua, the living vine, the promised one. Life has been complicated by gadgets and gizmos, the more knowledge we have the less wisdom we have gained with it. Knowledge is nothing without wisdom. Hang on! I am praying for you. Not in a world religion sense, but in spirit and in truth! YOU are loved, you are significant and you do have a purpose. Did you know that it is written that some men were born without a desire for women, and it is a gift from God because they can more wholly devote themselves to God? They can reach spiritual heights so much easier then men who are bound to their emotional responses to women. Love your parents, keep working, know that there is someone where you are working now that needs you to bring light into their life, Y'shua said "I am the way, the Truth and the Light, no one comes to the father except through me". Then we are commanded to take that light and share it with a dark and lonely world. God be with you.
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