Two Wrongs Make a Right

he does not have a right to be upset, because obviously since he is cheating on her she is not getting what she needs from him so she is looking for it else where and i don't nessecarily mean physical relations. I also do not agree with what she is doing there, but i have been where she is, i was in a relationship that i was cheated on, and towards the end of that relationship i found that i gotten close to a male friend but it was never physical it was just talking about what was going on and just to have someone to talk to was all i needed and wanted.

I think that perhaps he should stop his affair. He should come clean with his wife and express how upset he is because he didnt know how it felt to be cheated on...then he should tell her that he knows shes having an affair (after looking into it of course).....affairs are horrible.. the person that u thought loved u is with another woman/man. If your gunna have an affair why get married? xx

i think he has every right to be upset, he cheated on her once, and she cheated on him but that does not make everything equal. she is still his wife and swore to be faithful. both of them are at fault here.

well he does not have any right or to complain about being upset because he is the one who cheated on her first so i think the girl has 100 percent rights to do what she is doing. no matter who gets upset.

He has no right to be upset! Does he think that she would not be upset if she found out that he had been cheating? He doesn't even have any proof that she has been cheating on him. They could be just good friends.

id have to say 'what goes around, comes around'. maybe if he had been more of a husband to her, rather than cheating on her, it wouldnt happening back to him. thats just my opinion on it :/.

If she is having more than an emotional affair then they are both wrong and they definitely need to talk and try to sort out the problems that they are having. He has no right to complain though if he was cheating and she started cheating then it serves him right. That scallywayg

he does not have the right to be upset with her, she may have fund out about is affair, but he should be upset with himself and feel bad for what he did, maybe had he not cheated she would not have. They should also get marriage counseling definately.

he have no right to be upset because he do the same thing but his wife can't be forgiven loaned some money that they didn't have for her boy friend.my advice...? hm...leave her...

What goes around ultimately comes around. This should serve as an eye opening experience for the both of them. The real issue here would be if their relationship is woth salvaging of if it would be smart for both of them to move on with their lives. Of course until they both come clean about what is really going on they are both living one big lie.

now he feels to be cheated. That's a bad karma for him. However im not saying the doing of the wife is right. Absolutely its not right but on the contrary on what she did she make her husband realized something. They should fix that problem before its too late. Correct the wrongs and start again right. Learn from the mistake and not do it again.

no no no two negatives neve make a positive

no he does not have the right to be upset due to this, as even he was cheating on her, but he has the right to be upset coz his married life is on the verge of breakup due to him as well as her affairs, maybe he should discuss it with her and pledge that they both stay loyal to each other....afterall as you sow, so shall you reap

They share a lighter? Oh good god, call in the divorce lawyers! All I can say is it serves him right. There is clearly something wrong with the relationship for them to both be cheating, but he should now think about how he feels when the boot is on the other foot! Oh, and by the way, is it really a "friend" of yours, or you, wink wink!

Why do cheaters feel they have a right to be angry if they gave up on the relationship first and went outside of it? I find it amazing.These two shouldnt be together at all unless they're both going to give up the outsiders and get help!

God is always with u and whether we cann't see him but he will . He is cheating his wife , and what he has received same .

Two wrongs can never make a right. In my culture it is wrong.

He dont have the right to upset. He's accusing his wife of cheating though he's the one doing it. My only advise is, they need to talk about.

Boy, this is a sticky situation...I have a friend, who, similarly, has cheated on his wife...Except, he's done it over a course of, oh, twelve years, with probably fifty different people. (Don't ask me why she puts up with it; I couldn't tell you). She forgives him every time, gets mad, but also points out "hot" women to him that he'd likely be interested in. Fast-forward a few years...Over the past few months, she's become somewhat attracted to a guy at the bar they go to several times a week. This guy is also friends with my buddy, and swears he would never do anything with the wife for that reason...But, my buddy is still very jealous and angry about it, though he tries to hide it. On one hand, I say he'd every right to be upset if she cheated...But at the same time, maybe then he'd know how she feels every time he does it and they could either talk it out, get some counseling, or just call it quits. Since there are kids involved, I think they'd go the "work-it-out" route first. I'd say your friend and his wife need to sit down and have a serious conversation about their relationship, either alone or with some sort of professional, and decide whether they're still wanting to be together, and whether or not the relationship is worth saving...It sounds like maybe neither of them is happy and it's time to move on. It's funny that you posted this topic today...A local radio show was spending some time on just this topic this morning. The host was saying that a new study has come out giving "biological" reasons why women cheat...He then went on a rant about how marriage is an antiquated institution and is no longer good for the people of this country, and claimed that fifty percent of men, and twenty-five to forty percent of women (depending on which study you read) cheat on their spouses...He then went on to say that, like dogs or other animals, men and women are not MEANT to be monogomous...That it's something that was forced on us years ago by various religions and governments and that it's the worst thing the Church has ever created. Of course, he went on to say that he and his wife have been married for years, and he's NEVER messed around on her and believes she never has on him, but that he's atypical, and that most people cheat, and that it's just something in our DNA. With theories like that becoming so prevalent in the media, we wonder why people think cheating's perfectly normal and acceptable...

I think he gave away any right to be upset about a month ago when he started cheating on his wife. I really don't know what advice you could give him other than if he wants to live the life of a single man then he shouldn't be married.