Today was a VERY VERY bad day......
By Stephanie5
@Stephanie5 (2946)
United States
February 1, 2007 6:28pm CST
Well, first off I have my step-mother here with me because we are FINALLY having my dad's funeral on Saturday. So, I've been really stressed out handling that...
I get a phone call this morning...they found my cousin (by marriage) dead in his apartment last night. He had been dead since Tuesday early morning. He wasn't even 40 yet, and they won't tell us how they think he died, whether it was murder, suicide, or natural causes, so everyone is VERY upset.
When I'm on my way out to my family's house and there is a dog, a medium sized beagle puppy standing on the side of the highway, everyone slows down in my lane, but the guy coming the other direction speeds up and hits this poor dog so hard that it flew up and hit my windsheild. I lost it, I was crying hysterically. The guy never hit his brakes. How could someone be so darn mean????? Gosh, that poor dog. It probably belonged to some kid that will cry his eyes out for weeks to come.
I just don't understand why when something bad happens in my life, it seems to POUR down. Why did that have to happen in front of me when I was already so upset???? I'm so darn frustrated with life right now, I'm about ready to pull my hair out....Any suggestions on how to deal with some of this stress? I think I'm going to fall apart on Saturday....
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47 responses
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I feel really bad for you. I am so sorry for all your losses and then to top it off with that poor dog. I'm not even sure what to say to you. But I kind of know what you are going through. Yes, it does seem like life falls apart all at once. I have a quote that I use in situations like this. I hope it helps you. When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I'm hanging on...but barely. Thank you very much for your response.
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@ginagee (843)
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2 Feb 07
Oh Stephanie what the heck is going on. I am so very sorry to hear about your Dad and your cousin, that really is a double whammy. And then for the incident with the dog, that just shows how cruel, vicious and downright evil some people are. My heart goes out to you my love, I really feel your pain. they do say bad things go in three's, so hopefully now you not have any bad news for some time. We all experience stuff like this at some time in our lives abd unfortunately we have to cope, especially when we have children, we have to show them how to deal with it. But it's not easy and it will take time for you. If you do feel like you're going to fall apart it will probably be the best thing you could do at that time, I know that sounds weird but we all have to find our own ways of dealing with such stressful matters. Just remember the story of the donkey at the bottom of the well, when they pour dirt on him he just used it to climb back up to the top instead of letting himself be buried!!! Come on mate, your friends are for you, any time you want to vent your spleen I'll be here for you. When you feel like you're at the bottom then the only way is up! I would also suggest that you try and have some time away, give yourself a bit of breathing space. Love and take care x
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Oh thank you so much for the kind words. I really needed them right now. I'm trying so hard to make some huge changes in my life and now all this is happening and it's just almost too much. I'm hanging in there though.Someone has to be there for all these kids...so I'm trying to be strong. THank you so very much! Take care.
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@oakgate (18)
• Nigeria
2 Feb 07
hi, sorry for all these problems,what you have to know is that the devil has done his worst. very soon God will step into your situation and it will just be like a dream when he returns all your captivity.
Just keep on keep keeping on and put your trust in Him He will surely see you through.
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@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Oh, you poor dear girl. I feel so bad, I wish I could do something to help. That's just too much at once. Just let it out and don't hold in your feelings. You'll get through it all. I believe God only gives us as much as we can handle and that there is a greater plan, thus a reason for everything. I know that doesn't make it any better but it's what I tell myself when times are really bad. I'll keep you in my prayers. Just remember no one can take away your memories. May you have good dreams, good night.
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
3 Feb 07
Thank you so much! I really appreciate the prayers! Every little bit will help! I'm trying really hard to keep it together. I still have all these babies to take care of...Thank you!
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@jackie_mmm (886)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
My condolences to you and the kid owner of that poor puppy. Sometimes you've got to let it go. If you feel like pulling you hair out, do it. It'll make you a little better. And if it doesn't get something heavy and smash it againsg the wall, floor or anything like that. Things like yours happen. As the saying goes It pours when it rains just as what you've been getting through. Next time the only thing pouring down is all good. Hope you feel better now.
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@rubypatson (1841)
• India
2 Feb 07
I am sorry for what you are going through, I do feel for you and understand you pain, and i would like to share how i deal with pain, The solution to the worst problem is prayer, I believe that god alone can give that peace that the world cannot give, at this point a kind word all the possible support can help you but what about the inner man it needs peace and rest just cling to god in your thoughts believe me you will find peace
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@Spid4r (176)
• India
2 Feb 07
I think you should just make yourself a nice warm bath with some lavender oil (if you have) and than just lie in bath for 15 mins or so and just relax, just remember, that tomorrow brings another day, and i am sure what seemed like a bad day today will be forgotten when the new day arises.If this fails, go to your nearest hospital, and look at all the people in their, with no hope in getting better, even little children, and then you will realise your day ain't so bad after all.Cheer up ok, we all have bad days, and we feel like the end of the world coming,that is until the next bad one comes's. that is life. call a friend, and have a chat, have a laugh, all the best ..
@Bangalorean (1282)
• India
2 Feb 07
It is so sad. Anyway all that I can do, is pray for you and the departed souls. take care of yourself, all that destined to happen will happen
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@jbones32103 (717)
• United States
2 Feb 07
You did have a bad day. I'm not going to bullsh$t you, life has harder times than that. It tests you to become stronger. Hang in there, you can make it.
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@katty0004 (386)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Take a walk and think let everything out that you can get out even sitting some where by your self and haveing a real good cry it will help , keeping it bottle up won't help , could lead to depression or a brake down , by doing this you are letting it out and it will help may not answer your question you have about your dad and the puppy but it take pressure off of you .
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@alpha_scan (353)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
oh I feel so sad for you. But don't worry it will all be fixed as time goes on. You will all forget about you worries. Good luck to you and may you have a
good day coming up. Cheer up!
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@malambing (78)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope sharing it out will make you feel a little better. Life sometimes has it's own way of shaking us a little bit to see how we react to it. I hope you would learn something out of this.
@mnksmommy (301)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I am so sorry for your loss. I know you must be so upset and stressed. I think you are handling it very well. You seem like a very strong person. I think seeing the dog hit was just your last straw and you had just about all you could take. I know when I am sad crying actually helps me. It is like I can just get it all out--crying and writing. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
3 Feb 07
Boy...do I know what you mean. I feel the same way...it seems that one thing after the other happen..but what you witnessed was awful. Did anyone bother to check on the dog..or take it to a vet? That guy is a monster...he should be hit by a car. Try not to let this affect you too much...it was not your fault...it is just one of those fluke things. You should try to relax in a bath...or something...I know I have had a stressful week too...
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
2 Feb 07
Oh my goodness, how awful. I'm so sorry for you. Your post made me cry, I can't believe the bad fortune you've had lately.
I don't know how to deal with it. The best thing I can suggest is to contact a close friend, and get together with her, and sit and have a really good cry with her. If you have time, go for a walk by yourself, and try to clear your head, exercise helps me deal with stress. (a walk anyway) I wish you all the best, and I hope things get better for you.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
3 Feb 07
OH, please don't cry...I've done enough of that for a million people....Thank you for your advice...I really appreciate it. Thank you for the well wishes.
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@toyboxer04 (353)
• Malta
2 Feb 07
Things will not be bad forever. However I agree with you that some "not so common " things have been happening to you lately. You have good reasons for being upset.
I am afraid that you cannot change what happened but when a bad thing happens, you will see all the others in double the size they are.
Cry all you want. Crying is healing the wound.
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@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
2 Feb 07
aww, hon, I'm so very sorry! Its terrible that all those things are happening together, right now, when you just want to curl up in a corner and cry. Call a friend, and tell them you need them right now, and then just let yourself break down in their arms. or go to a church and have your breakdown with the priest or minister. its ok to let go, I promise. Nobody will look down on you for it. By the way, if you think your step mom is a bi itch, tell her so, get that off your heart
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@p8ntballr21 (857)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I feel bad for you. I hope things start to get better for you! You will be in my prayers along with your family.
That was such a horrible thing for that person to hit the dog.
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