Picky Eaters

@filchi (291)
Netherlands
February 12, 2007 5:06pm CST
My preschooler only loves to eat chicken,or fish, or nuggets, and plain white bread with no anything on it, even the brown part of the bread she wants to take it out.And when she eats spaghetti she wants to take out the meat,onions,and other mix on it and will just eat the noodles,and when it is soup have to see to it that there is nothing any except just the water...how do i start introducing new food to her or making her eat any kind of food? Of course, she loves chocolates like her dad, but i see to it that she can only eat sweets few hours before meal time or take it as a dessert.
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@apky12 (769)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Try putting the vegetables in a smiley face. Also, a lot of times kids are attracted to colors of vegetables so try that. Also, if she tries it and doesn't like it try giving it to her again a few weeks later. Kids are so picky at this age. A lot of times I won't fight with my boys about food because it's just not worth it at this point in time. They are pretty good eaters though so that helps. Oh, also since it seems like she doesn't want anything touching, try getting those plates that have separate compartments and maybe she'll eat it that way.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
Oh thank you. That is also a nice idea of you. Its just that my husband always comment of what she is eating, but at least she eats fish even and him not!
@remaster74 (4064)
• Greece
12 Feb 07
You ahve probably lost the chance to save the situation. But you can always prepair food and then make it cream in order to not understand what it contains. The point is to start realising the flavours.
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@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
12 Feb 07
thats a nice advice ...thanks remaster
@Sawsen (793)
• United States
13 Feb 07
My brother used to be an extremely picky eater. He used to cut all the crust off his bread. And he would only eat eggs that were scrambled. He wouldn't eat squash. He was an extremely picky eater...but now he eats pretty much anything.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
14 Feb 07
yes, just got to wait then for the right time :-)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I have been having the same problem. I have been told (by other moms and her doctor) that it doesn't matter at this stage what she eats, as long as she eats when she is hungry. I was also told to put 1 new food on her plate at each meal. Say nothing, just put it there. I did this with a waffle and now she will eat a whole toster waffle. She like to dip it into surup. MY 6 yr old likes his spaghette without sauce sometimes....no problem. If you know she only likes the broth, then only give her the broth. My son is sort of picky, but boy does he eat the stuff he likes. He csan eat 6 chicken legs if he is in the mood. He is tall and thin so I am not worried. As they grow, they will expand on the types of foods they eat. Make sure she takes vitimins and don't worry.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
14 Feb 07
thank you, its nice to read your ideas too.
13 Feb 07
well u should start eating and appreciating some different different kind of food in front of her so dat she may get interst in watever u eat,,,,, and if she dont take it herself u shud be a lil rude and make her eat all this forcefully, too much pamperiing can cause an effect for her whole life. god bless ya
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
14 Feb 07
i guess so, at the right time...:-)dont want to see them throwing up at the table...
• United States
13 Feb 07
You didn't just say to force food, did you??? You are crazy. I hope you do not have children. That is the worst thing you could ever do. Children will try new food when they are ready, not when they are forced. Shame on you!!!!
• United States
13 Feb 07
Wow, it's really interesting to me that your preschooler likes to eat fish because most toddlers don't because of the texture of the fish. If you want to introduce her to new foods, then I suggest that you do so slowly-- that will give her a chance to either like it and get used to it or not. You definitely do not want to overload her with new foods all at one time. Another way is to have her help cook the food that she is going to eat, children are more likely to eat something that they have helped to prepare.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
14 Feb 07
My husband dont eat fish i mean he choose only like tuna, but i can eat anything all kinds of seafood, actually it is my goal too that they have to start early to eat any kinds, but i guess some mothers just have to go through sometimes to tough things with their kids, my little one got no problem with her she eat anything.Thanks for responding ;-)
@prue187 (517)
• United States
13 Feb 07
This is common to toddlers and younger kids, My colleague's daughter loves to come and sleep over to my house she's the same age as my daughter 9 and she's super picky when it comes to food, sometimes she gets into my nerves, my daughter doesn't complain with food that much but she does, Sometimes when she ask if she could sleep over if I say "no". I may be rough but I cannot tolerate such kid, My little one was too picky before but I cut the candies and sweets and introduced healthy foods, He's less that 2 so it's understandable that some food is not too pleasing for him, But I really tried not to give him some junk foods and when he ask for food I'll give him milk and cereals, rice with viand and fruits, after he eats his meal that't the time for me to give him a little reward like chocolate or cookie, in that case he knows that he finishes his meal he get a special treat afterward. It takes patience to teach them but it's all good after all the hard work.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
14 Feb 07
Thanks for the story prue187, and yes you are right that its hard,hopefully i can make her eat anything, but have to wait for the right time too.
@JMPILAPIL (503)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
Kids that are picky eaters are one of the typical problems parents encounters but don't worry much because they would soon might learn how to eat foods the healthy way if not, offer a food supplement or vitamins already available on the market just for kids specially for picky eaters. Never forget to at least motivate your child to eat healthy foods and let her be aware of healthy diet, what are good and what are not for the body, that's tiring and will be repeated over and over again....hope you won't get tired. I used to be a picky eater when I was a kid but not anymore when I entered the age of fourteen or fifteen.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
Thank you. And i agree on that.
• United States
13 Feb 07
your daughter sounds a lot like me. i only eat chicken or fish and i still take the crust off the bread. i also dont like spaghetti with meat in it. or the sauce for that matter. i'm not sure what you can do to make her eat other foods. i don't have any kids yet. hopefully you find someone here that does know about it. good luck
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
well, at least it enlightens me now and i can tell my husband my daughter is not alone :-)
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
13 Feb 07
You can always try "tricks", such as making up your own home made chicken patties, but mix in grated vegetables. I suppose you can cook a soup that has plenty of veges, then drain it, & give her the juice. At least she will be partly getting the taste of veges, and some of the nutrients. Tricks don't work with all kids, some are too clever and can figure out that you have done something to the food. Does she have a favourite character? One that actually eats healthy food.Try to get her to model of him/ her.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
yes she has a great character. She can have some soup without those vege. And its ok with her taking a sip like 4 or 6 times and shes finish but at least shes trying isnt it? Its just that my husband...
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
Maybe you can give her some vitamins so that she will eat more. When I was a child I used to take vitamins everyday, but not too much, because now I am fat due to over vitamins.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
Actually she is a big kid and tall like her father. So she is 4 but she looks like she is 6 or 7, so maybe my husband thinks she is fat. but she is yes i admit over her weight because well, she can see it in the house her father loves ice cream and choco. Maybe i should stop buying this things too.
@smkwan2007 (1036)
• Hong Kong
13 Feb 07
My little ones eat variety of foods. But they love McDonald's best. One way I used to lure them to try new kinds of food was to use the McDonald's items as attraction. I told them that if they tried on the targeted new food such as certain fish, vegetables at least in two to three meals then I would take them to enjoy burgers in the named fast food shop. Thats it. Once they found the new food good to eat, they would accept the food as one of their favorites in dinner and lunch.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
14 Feb 07
actually she seemed eating enough nutrients but fr the sauce and the soup but i could still find her choosing what she just wants...but all this messages give me more ideas on what to do..thanks for the time responding :-)
• United States
13 Feb 07
check it out if she is that pickey maby you should be stern. My mom when I was alot younger made me sit at the table until I was done weather I liked it or not
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
Ok thats tough but when she cry, oh no, then here comes the father getting mad, but she does eat her food, its just that i just want her to eat some vege and other kind of food, and dont know how, ways to do it.
@Melusine (25)
• Israel
13 Feb 07
Have you tried drawing funny faces with food on her plate. For example, cucmber slices as eyes, a stick of raw carrots as a nose and so on. I did this with my daughter and told her a story that was "powered" by her eating parts of the face. She could only save the hero of the story by participating through eating. It was hard to start with but eventually, it worked. Now, she's 13 and eat almost everything. Spinach is still a problem though...
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
Hey, that sound nice. Havent tried this trick. Thank you.
@arinig (1376)
• India
13 Feb 07
many children are of this type avoiding vegetables in the food.try to prepare food using vegetables which cannot be seen over the food(i.e mashed,adding vej juices etc)or else give her in vitamin drinks to balance those vitamins........
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
Oh i think she has a good eyes when it comes this hiding tactics:-) butyes i am giving her some vitamins too.Thanks.
@patgalca (18201)
• Orangeville, Ontario
13 Feb 07
Heck! My husband is a picky eater! He won't eat rice, or tuna, or vegetables. My kids can be picky too. Now they are older than yours (10 and 13) and they will pretty much eat whatever they are served. The other night I tried a new recipe of pork chops and scalloped potatoes. I couldn't remember which kid didn't like scalloped potatoes. They always taste it first and usually find they like it after all their complaining. Oh, I remember one night I saw we were having lasagna. My now 10yo (probably about 2 years ago) said she didn't like lasagna and cried about it. Not only did she eat her lasagna, she asked for seconds! My kids never ask for seconds. They would rather fill up on cookies after supper. One thing is for sure, they always thank me for dinner. Always. I don't like making separate meals. I have a hard enough time coming up with one meal. But if we have a dish that is best served with rice, the kids and I will eat it and I will either boil some noodles or bake a potato for DH. I remember when I was little, right up until I was a teenager, eating spaghetti with no sauce on it. I would just have the noodles with parmesan cheese sprinkled on it... until it was served to me at a friend's house. I didn't have a choice but to eat it. That's when I found out I liked it with the sauce. My kids have come home from friends' houses with new food ideas for me.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
So i guess this is just really a kid thing. Its very hard to explain it to my husband and he cannot see himself and he is a picky eater too. I love to cook so it doesnt matter to me if i cook different types of meal for everyone and i am fast cook too. They are just lucky :-)
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
13 Feb 07
If she understands the concept of dessert, she can understand that she must eat what is placed in front of her to have it. It isn't unusual for kids to try to limit their food intake, especially when it doesn't look like it is uniform in color or composition. The problem developes when they carry this on for more than a few days. Check with your doctor about develpmental stages in this regargd, and then insist she must eat certain items or she gets no sweets at all. She will eentually relent and eat a more balanced diet. Remember, youa re the adult, so you are obliged to assert your authority over acceptable and unacceptable behaviours. This includes your child's diet.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
YEs, thinking to talk to the doctor too..thanks
• United States
13 Feb 07
My toddler is like that too. Very picky...but one thing she loves and she won't get tired of eating is oatmeal. At least it is healthy so if she doesn't want the food I introduce to her, she will ask for an oatmeal. She loves candies but I make sure I got less in the house and more on fruits.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
The only fruit she loves to eat is apple, and for a drink is strawberry and chocolate flavor, but for me i guess she is eating enough variety as she has chicken, vis,soup fr the beef when i make it,rice and only white bread, then spaghetti.And to think she is only 4, its just that my husband keeps complaining.She is a big girl like her Papa so to me i think she is just ok.
• United States
13 Feb 07
are u sure that she is just picky or could it be that she just doesnt like eating foods that have other foods in it? for example, next time u have spaghetti, try giving her the noodles and then put the sauce on the side not touching the noodles and see how that works!
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
she likes the sauce mix on her spaghetti, but she doesnt like the meat and other stuff on it.
@hotsauz8 (97)
• United States
13 Feb 07
That sounds similar to my cousin. She used to eat meat, but only if she thought it was chicken. Kids are weird, just gotta let them adapt to change.
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
Thats funny :-) yes i think just a kid thing!