What would you do if someone told you that you are not living correctly?

United States
April 5, 2007 6:34am CST
Correctly according to the person telling you or a consensus of several. Would you give up your life to live for someone else because they didn't like your lifestyle?
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
5 Apr 07
LOL HELL NO! why would I? If I'm happy, my husband is happy and my kids are happy and none of us are harming anyone then why would I even consider it? Bottomline, if someone doesnt like how I live my life...turn and walk the other way...I'm a good woman with a huge heart...I'm an amazing mother with fantastic kids..I'm a wonderful wife with a terrific husband...thats all that matters...I'm not hear to please anyone, I'm not here to impress anyone nor am I here for anyones approval...so flatout no..in fact if anyone ever came up to me with a comment like that I'd laugh hysterically in their face..
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• United States
5 Apr 07
You responded the way I would respond if someone said something to me. BOTH BARRELS...good for you.
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@nancygibson (3736)
• France
5 Apr 07
THere is no harm in accepting constructive criticism of the way we live our lives, after all we arent born knowing everything and we change our opinions about what is practical and ethical as we grow older. Having said that, at the end of the day it is your life, and whilst I regularly modify how I do things because others have suggested ways that I think might be better, I would never stop being me purely because somebody told me to. The single biggest rule in my life is to Think For Yourself, which means I listen to everyones suggestions then make up my own mind what is right and proper.
• United States
5 Apr 07
I don't like 'constructive criticism...I just don't want to hear it. I'm glad you will not stop being your...you're a confident person.. I do appreciate what you wrote. Thanks.
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@freak369 (5113)
• United States
5 Apr 07
If someone has a problem with the way that I live then THEY have the problem. To quote the Wiccan's .. if it harm none, more it be. If someone says that I am not living "the correct lifestyle" I usually ignore then or feel sorry for them. If they are ging to bash me then there is probably somethng lacking in their own lives.
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• United States
5 Apr 07
I agree with what you say. You're so right...they have the issue. LIVE & LET LIVE. Thank you for responding.
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@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I think this would be a question maybe related to a young person who is perhaps not making the right decisions and has a family member or members worried about them. But when we are young we have to learn things the hard way. It has always been that way and always will be. So when I was young and someone told me that It would have probably gone in one ear and out the other.After we become adults and to a certain age i think it i really to late to change. Things are too set in their ways .
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
6 Apr 07
No I am not perfect. You asked a question and I answered it. So who are you to tell me I don't know what I am talking about. If you want people to answer in the way they feel then don't tell them they don't know what they are talking about. I had a hard time thinking about an answer to a question about a problem that I have never had. If you want people to only answer in the way you want them to then post that in your question in the form of. Don't answer this question unless you agree with me. And then be sure and post your way of thinking so people will know . You are an adult and if people are telling you to live a certain way then tell then to go and get bent.
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
6 Apr 07
By the way you are saying my way of thinking is wrong. In essence isn't this the very thing you are rebelling about. This makes you a hypocrite.
• United States
6 Apr 07
I didn't put an age limit on the question because that doesn't matter. Whenever someone tells me they don't like certain aspects of my life I tell them to butt out. I was raised not to think EXCEPT 'do as we tell you and don't question us or any authority.' Now I live and do as I want. I am still changing and developing a sense of me. This independent thinking started at 14 and continues to evolve. Sometimes I hear something that I like; I will then incorporate that philosophy in to who I am. But if anyone would ever come to me and say that I live incorrectly according to the speaker to me, then the barrels are released. Been this way since 14. True we do become set in our ways as we get older. Who I am didn't happen overnight. I am the product of my parents and my thoughts and my free will of who I wanted to be. Thank you for posting your response. Almost every week someone is telling me that my thinking is wrong, I live incorrectly, I should change, you shouldn't like this or that. I may be 'set' in my ways but people are still poking their noses in my life. So no one tells you how to live? Then you must be perfect so that no one would tell you or.....you let them have it if they butt into your life. Either way...you don't know what you are talking about.
@krayzee (1160)
• Romania
5 Apr 07
I think it really depends on whether it affects other people or not. If it really affects others I'd let go my lifestyle, else I'd stick to it. :)
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@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
5 Apr 07
But Carly that wasnt your question. You didnt ask what would you do if someone told me you said you. So this is really about you???????????
• United States
10 Apr 07
Ok, so it's about me, but it's also about how others handle nosey buttinskis. I thank you for your input.
• United States
5 Apr 07
I would thank the person for their advice, but if how I'm living my life works for me, and I haven't had any problems yet, then I would just continue living the way I've been living. I would thank them and consider their opinions, but in the end, I have to go with what's in my heart, and my better judgement. You can't really tell someone how to live until you have walked in their shoes.
• United States
10 Apr 07
You sound like a nicer person than what I am. I used to be that way until I found people just won't quit with their interference. Your last sentence is so true. Thank you so much for your opinion.
• United States
22 May 07
If anyone had the nerve to tell me I wasn't living correctly I'd tell them to step into my shoes for a day and school me on what I should do differently. As long as I am a law-abiding citizen, and a good wife and mother, people can give me whatever suggestions they like, but that doesn't mean I follow them.