Love for losers?
@Zelmarq (12585)
Cebu City, Philippines
July 15, 2009 6:50pm CST
You can learn a lot about a person by what his or her T-shirt says. Recently, one of these messages caught my attention as I walked through a local shopping mall. A young woman wore a bright red T-shirt that said, "Love Is for Losers." Maybe she thought it was clever or provocative, even funny. Or perhaps she had been hurt by a relationship and had pulled away from others rather than risk being hurt again. Either way, the T-shirt got me thinking."
Is love for losers? The fact is, when we love, we take risks. People could very well hurt us, disappoint us, or even leave us. Love can lead to loss.
The Bible, though, challenges us to higher ground in loving others. In 1 Corinthians 13, Paul describes what it means to live out God"s kind of love. The person who exercises godly love doesn"t do so for personal benefit or gain but rather "bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things" (13:7). Why? Because godly love endures beyond life"s hurts by pulling us relentlessly toward the never-diminishing care of the Father.
So, perhaps love is for losers"-for it is in times of loss and disappointment that we need God the most. Even in our struggles, we know that "love never fails." — Bill Crowder
Unfailing is God"s matchless love,
So kind, so pure, so true;
And those who draw upon that love
Show love in what they do. "-D. De Haan
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16 responses
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
kove is for losers if you dont know the consequences that it can bring. just like you said love is a special feeling but it also can hurt and disappoint us. we need to know how to deal with its feeling whether it is a fun and unexplainable feeling or its a feeling of hurt. love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. if we can deal with that then we are winners. 
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
i didnt win on love when it came to me and my husband. i got mad and close the door. i am still hoping to find a good companion. but i can say that i am a winner when it comes to love of my children. i have been a single mom for almost 9 years and we have been in and out of a lot of situation and i can say with this i am a winner.
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@dinxcarin (595)
• Singapore
16 Jul 09
yeah LOVE is for losers!
For the undeserving that's why there's GRACE..
I used to be a loser..but when I learnt of God's love on me..
that He gave up His Son, Jesus to save me from all the heartaches,
depressions, frustrations, sicknesses in this world, I became a winner!
God wants us to be victorious in everything that we do and feel far above
our heartaches, disappointments and fears!Now, I just don't want to win. Because with winning, there will be chances of losing again.
So, this time, I WANT VICTORY!!!:)
@snowy22315 (180703)
• United States
16 Jul 09
If love is for losers maybe that would explain all of the bad luck that I have had over the years. It can just be difficult to find the rright relationship and to be able to stay in it. It is just difficult to work on those things and to have your realtionship work out for you.
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@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Well, yes, if you put your heart out there then there's a chance you'll get hurt. So by falling in love, you could be setting yourself up to lose. But by taking the chance, it's the only way you'll win. So yes, you can lose at love. And some may think that makes you a loser. But wouldn't you rather try and fail than not try at all? Some may feel that those that don't even try are the real losers!
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@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Thank you for this uplifting and insightful discussion. I agree that there is no greater love than the love of God. And there isn't anything we can do or anyone we can meet who will sufficiently fill the void in our hearts. Only God can fill the longing. I enjoy reading the New Testament too.
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@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
10 Aug 09
I enjoy reading both oldand new testaments.
have a nice day and thank you for sharing.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I dont think it is for losers. My reasoning is that it takes alot of discipline, giving and supporting among other things to make love in a relationship work. I dont think that losers would have what it takes to make a relationship work. It can be hard work and losers dont do hard work in my opinion.
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@bhojarajan (88)
• India
16 Jul 09
Love for loser is not true.Love is not a bad one.For example if you love your job then only you can earn money and work for long "otherwise you are loser".
@ausgc21 (340)
• Australia
16 Jul 09
Hmmm... I guess it depends on how you define 'winners' and 'losers'.
If you define 'winning' as having power or succeeding in your courier, then it really hasn't got anything to do with love as powerless new born babies would probably get more love than an old greedy owner of some dodgy business.
If you think of it religiously, no offence, but I think the love is for winners. The 'winners' of belief, the people who can believe in God's love more than others are the ones who gets love of God. And those who does not believe in God, the 'losers' of belief, would obviously not get a love of God as there are no such things for them.
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@cheekysuze (254)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I think there's someone out there for everyone. Love is for everyone. That may be idealistic, but why not believe the best?
@esp2_mayn (135)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 09
Sigh....love takes alot of effort and unselfishness and sacrifice and humbling and communication.
Don't think losers can do it...
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
It's just a shirt, any person can mark something on the based on other person's idea. but for what you said, maybe that is the case why she's wearing that kind of shirt..In Love, we win or loose, but never end up selfish or evil just because the person hurt or played on you..love is supposed to be a selfless thing..you let hate get into to you, it becomes a poison..and makes a person a "real looser"
@jomiray (7)
• Canada
16 Jul 09
Maybe that girl was very hurt, but again if you can't trust that you can surpassed this hurt and survive, then you where already damaged. It is hard to love and loose, but yet again, you don't need a partner to validate your worth. If you can be strong enough to pick up the pieces and then move on, it is because you, yourself are not at peace. Love yourself and then share with others. How happy can you be with someone you are always scared of loosing. You don't attack and keep someone when you are always struggling with yourself. You reek what you sew, if you are a kind and loving person an a pleasure to be with why would you be scared to trust another, it is because you don't trust in yourself. You can't keep someone against their will.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
16 Jul 09
Zelmarq,
I believe that this message is telling us that no matter how we perceive and go about our ways to find the love of our life, there will still be a risk that we will not end up as per our expectations. As much as our life being uncertain and unpredictable, so will our love life as well.
Hence, when our relationship fails, no one wins at the end of the day. So, as what the T-shirt says here, that love is for losers. However, I feel that it would be foolish for any of us to not able to look beyond our limited boundaries where there is an unfailing love awaiting everyone of us and that is to love God. And, till today I believe we have yet to find a loser here.
People may fail us in their imperfections, but God doesn't!
Have a nice day.
