onsatu

@onsatu (7)

United States • Age 45

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Is an alcoholic affecting you?

dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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onsatu You said I "might need more time to make a decision" but I am not sure what exactly you mean. In any event, I told my bf six months ago that I wanted to move back to texas after i graduate(we moved to florida last year for his job, which hasnt worked out -...

14 Dec 07

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Is an alcoholic affecting you?

dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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onsatu dbmax, I actually don't know if I couldn't handle being with a completely sober person 24/7. I do like to drink socially, but I give myself limits, etc. If I catch him at the beginning of his drinking day (say, noonish on a day off) I can sit and have a...

9 Dec 07

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Is an alcoholic affecting you?

dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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onsatu Although my boyfriend acts guilty about his drinking, he also defends it as "I like it and it's legal" I don't know if it is currently more that he is still in denial that it is a problem, or that he knows it is a problem and isn't ready to quit (fear of...

8 Dec 07

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Is an alcoholic affecting you?

dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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onsatu dbmax41, I know I can't change my boyfriend, that he has to do things himself, and all I can do is be supportive of the good things he does. Did alanon help you? If so, how? Also, you said "it sounds like me and my wife in the beginning" and I wondered if...

7 Dec 07

Is an alcoholic affecting you?

dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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onsatu Thanks for the tip on alanon. Although I have heard good things, that it is good for support and venting, relating, I am still hesitant because of the loose affiliation with AA. I really do not agree with the "powerless" concept, but rather in free will and...

7 Dec 07

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1 person

Is an alcoholic affecting you?

dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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onsatu I guess I should mention that in my research, I have discovered something called Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) which is kind of like positive reinforcement... I did some reading on it, and I like it much better than the old fashioned...

5 Dec 07