Do we encourage beggers by giving them money?????????
By mistermind
@mistermind (27)
India
April 17, 2007 6:32am CST
one day i was at the signal in traffic jam. suddenely i saw a small girl with a hands folded in bandage walk near my window & started crying.It was a very touchy scene where i felt that this is time where she should be playing happily with same age friends.insted she is begging?
I felt very bad about this & felt to give her something what is that something i could give her immidiately was nothing other than money!!!!!!
Signal was green & i zoomed in...
i started thinking was was my move right?
or have i unknowingly encouraged her to beg?
i am in confused state of mind????????
does not know how to take this.
have you came across this anytime?
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21 responses
@unithorn (193)
• United States
17 Apr 07
There is an aging couple that begs for a living. I'm not quite sure where they live, but I'm pretty sure that my friend (he drives truck) said they stationed themselves out by the Port of Tacoma in Washington.
They have a few different spots and take turns standing in them, begging for money. I can't remember if L said that they drive a BMW or a Lexus, but it was something along those lines. They make over $90,000/year off of other people's change.
Similarly, I saw on the news a few years ago that there are quite a few people who beg in NYC that make well over $40,000/year. They profiled one that makes $75,000.
However, I am quite aware that these people are not the majority.
Every situation is different, and you have to assess it as you see it. Very, very seldom will I give anyone money. I will buy them food, I'll run home and get some clothes for them, whatever. I only give money in cases where there are children, especially little ones.
I guess the best way to look at it is so - I would rather have them begging than stealing.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
18 Apr 07
I was fooled like this by beggers with bandages, with lies that their near and dear ones are in hospital, etc. and later came to know that they are doing this since pretty long time. Again there are genuine beggers also. Hence we have to judge ourselves with each and every case in person, on our own and once we decide that they are genuine, let us give alms. Once it is given, forget about it. If the begger is cheating, it is for him to answer to the God and not we.
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@mosvph (97)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
You felt generous. You are a kind person. Don't let that bother you too much. If you were used that does not make you a bad person. You are a good person.
But next time, maybe, it would be better to give food - fruit, a burger, or a drink. Hahaha! I would still do this even if I was so shocked once when I gave a beggar boy my hotdog sandwich. I wanted to eat it but he was there staring at me and I thought I really didn't need it as much as he did. So I gave it to him. Guess what he did! He took it and then placed it down on the sidewalk beside a beggar woman who was chatting with another. They didn't mind the sandwich and the boy just run off somewhere. Maybe he will eat it but he really didn't care much about it as much as I did!!! I felt very hungry afterwards.
Well, you see there are Fagins around. Do you remember Fagin? Oliver Twist? Artful Dodger? Charley? Bill Sikes? Nancy? Yes! They are very much alive! And the children we see begging around need money, not food, so they have something for Mr. Fagin! That's the man you are helping, that's the man you are "encouraging to beg" as if it weren't already his career.
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@edgar1868 (204)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
I wish I can say this in behalf of others but from where I come from, I cannot. I will only share to you how I feel about them. The very moment you see them, you will really feel guilty (setting aside reason). But on the other hand, there is a strong chance that you are just encouraging them to beg for more. The best way is for your local government to act on the problem by focusing on projects,or programs customized to not just help them but to support them in gaining some knowledge and skills to make them self sufficient over time.
@ladylapulapu (81)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
we have the same experience also but after several documentaries video ill watched here in our country ive never felt forgiveness about them,, they dont want to became begger but the time we helping them they are abusing us by begging some money to us... i watched the filmed here they gave money on the begger after that they followed her they thought she will buy some food to eat but unfortunately she buy solvent to ease her hunger and forget and the problem she have... for me its not good to tolerate that... the government need to action about the begger.. they not deserved it they need help from the government and not relying to the people surround them..
@mansha (6298)
• India
18 Apr 07
I am confused about this issue too. I know there are gangs of beggars whopurposely make children beg and even break their arms and legs to make them beg and earn more while there are few genuine needy people too. But rule of thumb says do not lend money to beggars.I usaully give them something to eat rahter than money at least that will be eaten by the begging child and not taken away by her masters.
I wish we had soem method to let the girl go to soem kind of child help institutuions but there also I have coem to know govt. aided institues abuse them. The situation seems so hope less Its my fream to eanr some money and open a fair institution for child beggars.
@chardyme (1631)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
yes we encourage beggars when we give them money. they are not working hard for it. some beggars are still strong and can work but what they do, they just lie down in the streets and beg for money. hey, we work hard for it. right.
@rio82solomon (132)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 07
No, instead we help them. People have dilemma about that. I have never offer any coin to any beggar, but my conscience say differently. They are people who have nothing in their lives and suffer bad times while they have to go to school.
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
One time I was walking in the street and an old lady came up to me and begged for money. I didn't have money at that time so I offered her food and she turned it down!!! It wasn't a leftover I just bought the food that suppose to be for myself and that old lady...! But what really touched my heart was this pregnant teenager, I always pass by where she begs. A couple of months later I saw her carrying her newborn baby while begging. It was past noon and the sun was scorching hot, poor little thing being dragged around. I was watching her from the car and I saw her sat on the ground and it looks like she's holding in her tears. It was heartbreaking. I haven't given her anything yet but I might give her one time some baby stuff.
@sweetsue (758)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
I think there's nothing wrong with what you did. It all depends on you and how you look at it.
Seeing those beggars, like street children made me think that eventhough life is harsh, I am still fortunate. Life is really unfair.I hope the government will take heed to resolve this problem. And also, I hope wealthy people will share more of their wealth to those unfortunate beggars.
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@ironstruck (2298)
• Canada
18 Apr 07
Don't get fooled for a minute. Scammers will try anything to get money out of your pocket and into theirs.
Most likely the girl was well trained by someone to work on your feelings.
For one thing, she would not know enough to walk out into stopped traffic to beg. Someone would have taught her that. It is very common here in my city for bums and scum to do that.
There is lots of work where I live and most of the beggars are just lazy and want something for nothing.
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@venkyvenky (621)
• India
18 Apr 07
yes.definitely. If none gives money those beggars wont be begging in the streets instead they would try making some money by doing some useful work for sure.here am talking about beggars who are physically strong and still intend to beg just because of their laziness and i really do not want to comment on physically handicapped people who start begging for money
@lynd0n (226)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
Well, I think it is a situation by situation thing. If the one who's begging is someone that obviously can't do anything to earn money, then I think that I should give him/her a helping hand. However, I find it really annoying when small kids beg for money, and the next minute they're sniffing glue with the money you gave them. It makes me wanna ..... Never mind.
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@jessycardy (684)
• Italy
17 Apr 07
Well, you're talking about children, which is a whole lot different situation. It's very likely that that girl was a slave of some cruel adult person who forces her to beg for money. But if we're talking about adults, well, it depends. I think poor people need to be given something that can help them growing and living on their own. I don't think that 10 $ can really change a homeless person's life... He or she will still need to beg the next day, and so on... Poor people need to be provided with places to live and be educated so that then they can try and live on their own, find a job and so on. Giving money is something that can help them temporarily, but it's not the solution.
@vamisola (905)
• Australia
18 Apr 07
do we encourage beggars by giving them money? I guess not, 'coz I know for sure, we only give to those we think needs our help. Whether they use it for good or not. Being a good samaritan makes you feel better than not helping them.
@desireeo (595)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
everytime i see beggars on the street my heart gets immediately touched especially if it's a child begging. i can only imagine their horrible situation and i can't picture myself in their shoes-if they even have shoes...we are not supposed to give them money coz this makes them rely on begging more and not strecth their backs to go find other decent living. but in my country for instance where more and more are jobless then i think these poor people don't have many options but prowl the streets and beg..
don't ever feel sorry for sharing what you have. come to think of it, you probably spend more on trivial things and not regret spending a penny. what you gave to that girl was probably just loose change in your pocket. for her, it's food for her empty stomach.
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@bcote212 (1112)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I used to live right on the Mexico/United States boarder, and it is so sad. When I was younger we used to sneak over to get into the bars and night clubs because we were too young to go to the ones here. On the way back eveynight when we were walking over the bridge there were literally hundreds of children begging for money. They didnt speak the same language so they would just put their hand out there and some with tears in your eyes. It was horrible, and you could not give any money or there would be 50 kids around you with open hands. I always try to give some change because I know that there is always someone out there who is worse off than I.
@charlestchan (1415)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 07
firstly, if a child come to you without her guardian by her side.. you should have reported it to the police? i think if it's a syndicate.. then you're must be one of the victim.. while it's good to be kind hearted.. but in this society..bad people started to take advantage on kind hearted people.. my friend been cheated once.. and he say.. it's okay.. as long as he had the good intention.. so.. it depends on you.. do you just want people to know that you're doing good? or is it fine as long as you know it yourself :)
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
18 Apr 07
Ya I guess we do kind of encourage begging when we keep giving these people money but some of them truly need it and you cant turn you back on them. I live in a smaller city here in Canada and even though we are'nt a poor city by far any given day theres 50 beggers out and Im a sucker and will give up money everytime.
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