Are you honest with others even if it will hurt them?

yeah, i can say that i can be as honest as possible, especially to my friends even though it will hurt them. i don't know, it's my personality, a lot of my friends are telling me that i'm frank. but i think it's a compliment, i don't want to be plastic with everybody. I tell straight to them what i feel. i think it's better if you tell straight and be honest to them, than if they know it by means of other person.

First, never offer opinion unless asked. Second, be honest only if you think that person can take it. Third, these are assuming you can be rational enough.

Yeow...tough topic...but I will answer honestly...I DO try to be honest even if it isn't what others want to hear...I just really try to frame it in the most positive manner possible...and if there doesn't seem to be a positive side I then try to be very gentle with my answers!! To be more specific yes...once I had the unenviable task of telling a very good friend that I had seen her boyfriend with another GOOD friend of ours and they weren't having coffee!!!! I was in another little city close to Seattle and stopped at a shopping area that housed both boutiques and a large hotel...having to use the "ladies room" I decided to run into the hotel lobby and use the public restroom..in doing so I had to pass the little bar/atrium area and there I saw the two of them locked in an embrace and a long romantic kiss...I was so shocked I stood and stared to make sure it was them...and it was.. It ruined my day...and I had quite a time deciding what I was going to do with my information...long story shorter...I went to her house in the evening and during our conversation learned that her boyfriend was "out of townn on business" and at that point told her what I had seen..since privacy wasn't an issue as much as it is today, she drove out to the hotel and in the lobby had them connect her to his room...he was shocked..and after a long eventful evening they broke up...I felt pretty bad but it turned out it wasn't the first friend he had been involved with...that made me decide to always tell someone when I knew first hand something was wrong!!! I don't think I would do it if it was hearsay...but it would depend..and as for "does this look good on me?"... if I didn't think it did..I would be considerate but would convey the fact that it isn't their most flattering article of clothing!!! I never intend to hurt someone's feelings..but honesty can be considerately spoken!!!!

I am not always honest especially in this case. If i think it will hurt and it isn't very important, i won't tell him the truth. As the example you said,i won't say it is not good on them. This is not important,why should i say the truth to hurt them? Why don't I say something to make them happy? It won't make any loss if I don't tell the truth, so i won't be honest in this case. But in some other serious cases , it will be different. If my friends' boyfriends or girlfriends are not dependable,I will tell them the truth no matter how they love their partner. I will make different choice in different cases. Do you agree with me?

being honest has its own reward. as for your 2 example, the 1st one is easy to answer. be honest in telling the person if the clothes does not look good on them. a lot of people will notice it and will finally comment on it. that person might even blame you for not being honest when you were asked about the clothes. for the 2nd example, this is tough. if i were you and you see the cheating partner don't hide yourself. show yourself to the cheating person and make sure that he/she is aware that you have seen them. i think that in itself would do the trick. i think the cheating person would have no choice but to tell your friend the truth. so the burden would not be on your shoulder. being honest is pretty hard call. sometimes you have to use your own judgement what info you had to give out or witheld.

They say sometimes you have to lie so you won't hurt anyone. This depends on the situation. But at the end, woouldn't you think that it might create some problem? Lying is not good if only you would like to please another person. He might discover it at the end.

Yes, I will be totally honest when asked for advice, but I will try my hardest to lessen the blow. I will ALWAYS compliment an asset before giving a negative opinion. I will ALWAYS offer advice on improving the situation. For instance, I might suggest a different blouse with a particular suit or adding long white beads to take off the starkness of a bold colour. If a good friend's partner is seeing someone else, I would talk with the partner first. It COULD be innocent and I wouldn't want to hurt my friends or the relationship if it is. It I KNEW there was deceit, yes, I would tell my friend.

If a good friend asks for my opinion I'll be honest in as nice a way as possible. I think she would be more hurt if I let her buy or wear something that absolutely did not suit her. Partners, spouses, relationships NO I would never tell but if she found out another way they I would be there to help her as much as I could and then I might say he was a louse.

I try to be as honest, yet tactful, as possible at all times. My wife asks all the time how clothes look on her because she knows I'll tell her the truth. As for the affair question, I've never had that happen and really don't know what I would do in that situation. I'd just feel like it wasn't really any of my businees but I also wouldn't want to see my friend get hurt...that's a tough one.

I ahve to say that I am not totally honest with people. I will tell little white lies in the "does my hair look good", "does this make me look fat" questions. Now, if I know for sure that a really good friend or family member is being cheated on, I would tell them. I think that would be my duty. But, ONLY if I had seen it with my own eyes! :) I know that more than likely that person would be upset with me, but you know, eventually they will be thanking me.

I believe I am honest even at the risk of hurting anothers feelings. Although it may hurt them at first, if they are a true friend they will respect me for being honest. For the most part people want the truth, & if you give them just that, they will return for your opinion once again in the near future. (Real Respects Real)(Good Question)

I like or maybe dislike the way you've worded this because you have really given the readers here a lot to think about, that is of course if they read the thread the way it should be read. I can say yes I have at any cost of hurt or embarrasement, However there have been times I just can't say it. I once noticed a lady being laughed at and I couldn't see why she was well dressed nice looking and then she turned and I noticed a stain on the back of her white pants and I approached her that was hard but I got through it and felt good about myself after. It's the elderly or older than I that I have a hard time with. I have a neighbour borrowing all the time and I did finally tell her no today no more borrowing because we're finding it tough and I'm very low on groceries. I had a very hard time with it. She said she understood but I know she was not happy with me. This is the part of your question I dislike if my husband was fooling around I'd like you to tell me but how many people do you know that would go into a full fledge tail spin and call you a dirty liar. So what would I do I honestly don't know if I would tell you such a thing. I guess I'd have to be on the spot to know the honest true answer to that and depending who it was and how well I knew you. As far as clothing goes Yes I can and I have said when I didn't like it, but I've been diplomatic in my wording. It's easy to say if you like it it's all good but personally I prefer -----etc. This has been a good thread.

If I have to tell the truth I will but in a way that it would not be very painful to them. I try to be honest but sometimes if I have to tell a lie I will but will eventually tell the truth, when it comes to clothes of people I sometimes lie just to make them feel at ease and comfortable.

for me, honesty is when you say nothing but the whole truth, whether it hurts, or not, at least it is the truth, many people may have the misunderstanding of telling good things which is a lie, and telling things that could hurt but is not a lie. But its nicer if you are making the person hurt by the truth, rather than making them smile with a lie.

Anybody's feelings cannot be hurt unless they allow it. If a person, as in this case, is asking for the opinion of another about wearing something, perhaps they are insecure. Why not just wear whatever you want without having to have the approval or agreement of others? In this case, all you are doing is giving your honest opinion...and maybe it is not favorable because you simply don't like the clothes. So what? Your friend can choose not be hurt because it is only your opinion, not and indictment of their choice of clothing. Or an attack on their person. After all, who has the last say on clothes? It is the person wearing them, Who has the last say on choosing to be hurt? It is a matter of how one feels about themselves and their self-estem. No matter the situation, there will always be people in support and in opposition. I don't know if I answered the question. Personally, I don't care about another's opinion, other than I respect their right to voice it.

yes, i can say i am still honest with other people even if it will hurt them. although there are certain situations that you don't need to tell them because sometimes it will only show that you are trying to hurt them on purpose. but if it involves clothing i will honestly say something about it in a nice way. i think honesty is the best policy. however being honest can sometimes be harsh. so i think when being honest, say it with caution or with utmost caution.

I try to be honest all the time. So I do, I've kept a few things from because I know what I know would crush them and I'm to soft to see someone go through that much hurt. Generally I do. ~Joey P.s My grandfather always said there's away to tell people things and when you understand how that person works you'll know how to break anything to them. It's quite true or at least I find it to be =)

Honestly, we cannot live for the sake of honesty.We cannot be honest if we realise that the truth will hurt the other person. I have friend who thinks herself to be a very good singer.Of course, she may get a mark of 55-60 out of 100 for her singing.After a performance which she does with very much confidence, when she asks our opinion about her performance, how can we say point blank, 'It was average'?. Not being honest and telling a lie that her performance was excellent, will boost her spirit up, she will feel happy, which in turn will increase her health.On the other hand, not telling the truth as it is, may cause her land in situations where she may become ridiculous or a laughing butt of others.Telling the truth may save her from such a situation but that may push her down to a well of disappointmet.Which one we will choose? I will choose the first option because I can't bear hurting others.

I've been known to be brutally honest with my closest friends and family members. So much so that i have to keep reminding them not to take my comments as a personal attack on them. Because they are so used to me being honest, they do consider the things that i say. So that, in a way, is good news because it shows that i do care for their well being whether they like it or not. God put me in their lives and them in mine. I don't know why but i think that i can try and help them with their predicaments. In other words, knock some sense into them. *wink* - Lyn

maybe i wont if the truth will hurt them.u know,the lie with love is not bad...