money issues -- i have none?
By getjimmy
@getjimmy (2242)
India
October 20, 2006 2:09am CST
my wife keeps all the money and the checkbook. i was never good with money and she feels as a single man i should have saved thousands of dollars and when we were married i was pretty much broke. i do have money waiting for me some day after my parents pass away, but now it's locked up.
my check is direct deposit and the only money i ever get is when i ask for a check or sneak a pack of checks and then buy what i want. she never sees the bank statements and never knows. but sometimes i stop by and get some cash just so i can have pocket money for a coke or whatever.
she doesn't like to give the children much money but they are teens now and need at least $5-$10 a day to spend when they are out messing around.
how can i approach this topic without a fight?
5 responses
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
20 Oct 06
Well, this doesn't sound good. If she never let's you try to cope with money, you'll never learn. What if she passes away (god forbid), and you are left behind with your children? You wouldn't have learned anything new about how to handle money. Unfortunatly I can't give any good advice, other than to bring it up when you are both calm and good spirited. Tell her you want to learn how to handle the money, one step at a time. Also tell her your conceirns. If you feel like you can't do this without a big fight, I would seek someone to talk to or maybe even professional help. They might be able to help out the conversation between you and your wife.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
20 Oct 06
You are very welcome, I hope everything will work out well.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
20 Oct 06
You are safe. Whatever expenditure is there, you have to make application and money is sanctioned by the home minister.
@raghavibm (543)
• India
20 Oct 06
Oh, i dont have that problem as i am not married, good information, so we have to hae a separate account secret account after the marriage.. because i m too a bad money manager..
@melody1011 (1663)
• India
20 Oct 06
I think you both have to sit down and talk about this cause money issues are really sticky ones especially with spouses. I guess your wife is afraid that you might go back to your old habits and since you guys have 2 teenage kids money is more important. You have to try to convince her that you are more responsible now. And I would suggest you both get a small amount of MAD money out of the account and no one can ask you what you spent it for. that way you can buy what you like and so can your wife. Hope this helps you.
