how to handle braggers??
By aissha
@aissha (2036)
India
April 17, 2007 10:23pm CST
i hv seen people bragging abot themselves ,their families ,their careers ,their richness and how classy they are (then they are not classy at all) if i hv to listen to them for shorter period of time i do and can manage a smile but sometimes people go .......... ,hv u come across ,how to handle them both online and real life??
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10 responses
@subathra (3519)
• India
24 Oct 07
There are some people like this who praise themselves for nothing..simply irritating when i come across people like this..like you i can also manage for quite some time but not for long and i just ignore if i happen to meet them again..Its like a complex for those people just telling about themselves to others..One of my moms friend who visit our home frequently has this bragging habit..even my mom dislikes her friend talking in this way but poor mom has patience to listen to her friend but i cant and when i see her i just greet her and make myself engaged with someone else or something else..
@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
23 Oct 07
I hate people that brag they should keep their mouths shut. There is nothing worst then having someone around all the time bragging how they did this and that and got all this stuff but really who cares? I sure in the he*l don't and don't want to hear about it. I usually try to keep my distance between me and these people just because I can't listen to all the crap that comes out of their mouths.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Hi Aissha, I hate to say this but my oldest son is like this.I do love him very much but he blows everything up so big that it is actually a lie...If he gets something new or is saying anything he will blow it up way out of perpotion....His wife went to an auction and bought a whole bunch of marble,(cheap) i think it was seconds ,anyway by the time he got though telling us about it ,you would have thought it was bought from the Queen of Wales..hee hee..I know he is this way and so does all the rest of the family,so we just over look it and we know how he is...The marble looks nice but its not as he talked about...His wife( my daughter inlaw)we just look at each other,we are amazed at some of his fantastic stories...hee hee
@brian_s (570)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I try to just let them brag, but not feed it by asking them any questions. I excuse myself from the conversation as soon as possible. Then when the conversation is over, I just do what I can to not have to interact with them again. If I have to see them again I only ask yes/no questions, and if they start to talk about themselves, I turn the conversation away from them and to other people.
@bambeetle (33)
• Philippines
14 May 08
I know of somebody who brags about her branded clothes,her travels, her car. Yes, I'm impressed but I still can see in her eyes that she's missing something. Something that cannot be bought. I just say, "wow, nice!" and then talk about other things. People like them really needs attention because this is a sign of their insecurity.
@egfitz62150 (645)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Oh, dear! They can be trying sometimes. I try to remind myself that these people are attempting to hide their own insecurity. There's a part of them that doesn't feel worthy, and they're constantly afraid they'll be "found out." They're really talking to themselves, for their own pleasure in recounting or itemizing their material goods to themselves. The problem is that, if you can't change the subject for any length of time, they are beyond anything you do or say to stop them. I usually discover that I have something to do, or somewhere to be, and after that I try to limit my contact with them to short time periods when I have lots of patience!
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
18 Apr 07
If you saw a bragger, you could simply give it a cold reply ,when he/she bragged about something, you just replied them simply with yes or no without further asking more,I thought they would not be excited if they did not pique your interest and they would stop soon, if they did not stop, you could tell them politely that they had told this story to you already long times ago.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
19 Apr 07
I can listen to them for a while but not for long. If they keep on repeating the same i know how to avoid people. I did come across such people both online and off line. I just don't pay much of attention if they are online people and i will make good fun of them, cutting few jokes and responding sarcastically.
Never mind it also depends on the mood i am in. I may lash out hard if i am in bad mood and i don't mind hurting them cause that hurts me more in that situation.
@elizabethbathory (1132)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I've found that braggarts crave attention above all else. It feeds their egos. Ignoring their bragadociousness is the greatest blow that could be struck.