Men should have no say on abortion?
By arezwwe
@arezwwe (37)
United States
April 17, 2007 11:29pm CST
I totally disagree with that statement being a man myself. I feel that I should have a say because for one it is murder plain and simply, and for two, what if the child being aborted is my baby. The woman should still have the sole right to kill my baby? I'm sorry, but it is murder. I think it should be outlawed with the special case of taking to court only when the mother is likely to die if she is to have the child. Otherwise, it should be prohibited. A friend of mine confided in me because she became pregnant and doesn't want her father to know so she is going to kill the baby because she made a mistake. Now she is taking away a precious gift of God :(
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@iiartisanii (254)
• United States
3 May 07
I don't believe abortion is murder because I believe life begins at birth. While the baby is in a fetal stage, it is part of its mother and therefore the property of the mother. If both parties do not agree to whether or not the baby should be born, than I believe the final word lies in the person actually carrying the baby.
A woman has a right to decide whether or not she wants to go through with childbirth, which is in itself a very harrowing and emotional experience. I don't think the father of the baby should be able to FORCE someone into birthing a baby if they are not good and ready.
Unfortunately a mother has more right to choose than a father seeing as she is the one doing all the physical work involved in childbirth. Whether or not this is murder is debatable and probably will never be decided upon. What is NOT debatable is the fact that this fetus is relying upon its mother for sustainment, making it from a scientific standpoint, essentially a parasitic organism until it can live on its own outside of the womb.
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@iiartisanii (254)
• United States
3 May 07
When when you're merely talking about potentials, i.e. "killing someone you COULD have known or COULD have loved", then in the same like a fetus COULD be harmful to the mother. Its not uncommon for women to become ill and die from fetal-related issue. It is a parasite in that it is a foreign object in relation to the body that is carrying it. During pregnancy, the immune system literally has to shut down to avoid miscarrying the baby.
And while we're on the subject of potentials, when we are talking about a fetus, we are only taking about a potential life. Especially in the first trimester of pregnancy, you carry something like a 30-40% chance of miscarrying naturally anyway. A life is not a life until it is born. It is only a POTENTIAL life. A statistic. You can talk about something you COULD have loved or COULD have known, but you DON'T know it, and you DON'T love it, so your argument is quite null.
@arezwwe (37)
• United States
3 May 07
Once again you are using the term parasite incorrectly so I suggest that you find a dictionary. As long as the baby does not harm the mother it is not a parasite. Plus, the possibility of health issues only account for 6% of the 1.5 million babies killed each year in America making your argument "null". So far all I have seen are poor arguments defending murder. As far as i'm concerned anyone who does not think abortion is a sin/murder does no truly know God. Nevertheless,God bless you all.
@ladyreinz (54)
• Philippines
3 May 07
as for a couple who are experiencing these things you should realize that you have already made a mistake of being irresponsible and having that baby in the woman's womb so just let it live because if you two have decided to abort it you two are making another big mistake and the life of the mother is being at risk too.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
3 May 07
I think men should have a say on abortion..and i especially think they should have a say if it is their baby. but if it is their baby and they are going to say no, don't abort it and the mother wants to..then they should either raise the baby or agree to put it up for adoption. if the girl can't afford adoption, but doesn't want the baby and her choice is abortion..and the father doesn't want the abortion, then he should pay for the adoption or raise the baby. I think in most cases a girl gets an abortion because she can't raise the baby herself and the man who got her pregnant isn't involved.
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
5 May 07
I started a similar discussion unaware that one was already started. I wanted to acknowledge yours and share my views. I believe in the right to life and I don't think that either a father or mother should have the right to abort that life, but because abortion is legal then I think that the father has every right to know about the pregnancy and to see his child be born.
