Marriages are made in heaven ?
By AshleyHasan
@AshleyHasan (1024)
India
April 17, 2007 11:50pm CST
You'll beleive that marraiges are made in heaven or is it just we call it that way..One of my friends got married to a guy who is not very educated and of course it was an arranged marriage , from the day she got married to him that guy started abusing her & her parents so much , he is very posessive about her , as she works in MNC he feels bad for that.. most surprisingly .he has sent message to all of us I mean to all our collegues stating that he wants to give divorce to her and he sents second message stating that he wants to live with her he has changed him ming. I feel this guy is mad about her and he troubles her so much by saying all kind of bad words. my friend is very depressed about this and she is staying with her parents right now .. what do you want me to suggest her ? Is she has to live with this person or she has to take divorce and get married to some one whom she likes....she is in dilema and one thing I came to know from her thoughts is she is in love with him and she cant forget him and even that guy loves her so much ..thats what she says so..what you'll think about this ..ple give some suggestion.
3 responses
@blondbat (503)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Pardon my ignorance regarding arranged marriages, although marrying for love by your own choice is no more guarantee of success in marriage. Was this man much different before the marriage? More agreeable with the parents and your friend, more loving, etc.? Or is this a more recent attitude change?
How long have they been married? If she is truly unhappy and he is physically abusive, I believe she should seriously consider divorce. Love alone is not the only reason to stay married. Many abused wives will tell you that their abusive husbands told them they love them regularly, but they were still abusive.
It does not sound like a good situation. I wish your friend the best whatever her decision.
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
19 Apr 07
Yes this guy was different before marriage..Yes my friend is more loving..It is a more recent attitude change.. They just married 5 months ago...She is truly unhappy...Yes I will tell her the same..Thanks!
@SONALIKA (573)
• India
18 Apr 07
hi,ashley.if your friend is educated enough to work in an mnc and is financially independent and was already in love with somebody other than her present husband then don't yiu think she should have married him,instead of going for an arranged marriage.didn't she knew that her would be husband is not that educated???????? how is it that now when she wants to go back to her ex b/frnd,she is able to see all negative points of her husband.would that not be a wrong to her ex b/frnd that he is her second choice after her husband??? for once she already has ditched him because she is coward and has no guts to say what she wants.yes i believe marriages are made in heaven but for once you meet that person and have to recognize to be your soulmate.one has to prove oneself to be worth him or her by admitting your love for that person in front of everybody,but i am sorry your friend did quite the opposite.she chose the easy way out.
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
18 Apr 07
You have misunderstood ....My friend dont have lover... She just got married to that person blindly.. What do you think you can suggest her?
@annieliucn (18)
• China
18 Apr 07
I think that man is not worthy her lover. It might be as well to get divorced from him if she feel so painful. Better a finger off as aye wagging.
@aquamarine3258 (13)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
Marriages are not all made in heaven. There are also made in hell..since we have the choices..its all in our hands to choose whom we are going to share our life forever...
