what would be the best way to comfort someone?
@totallyundecided (3190)
Philippines
April 18, 2007 3:02am CST
my bestfriend's mom died two days ago and i don't know what or how to comfort her. i know it's really hard to loose someone that way, to death that is, and i'm worried coz she has not been answering my calls. i want to go to her place but a friend adviced me that i should not. it might makes things worst.
4 responses
@monkey_d_luffy (52)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
Actions speaks louder than words, I think you should go to her and be by her side, make her feel that she can always count on you, that you're willing to be her crying shoulder. You don't need to say something, your mere presence says that your always be by her side since she is your bestfriend.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
hi monkey_d_luffy, i like your show btw.
yeah, i thought about too but i'll wait until she'll give me the go signal. i dont want to barge in.
this is really a difficult time for her. i mean, honestly, i still dont know what to do.
thanks a lot. =)
@monkey_d_luffy (52)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
Well I'm glad that somehow I have help you... just stay by your bestfriend's side... Good day!!! c",)
@tallpaulno44a (1574)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Let her know that you are there for her. Fix her favorite food and take it to her, or take her out for lunch/dinner (most people in mourning just don't feel like cooking). When you do get to see her, be supportive but not intrusive. Try to remember some fun things about her mom, and talk about those with her ("remember that time we all went to the beach?").
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
thanks very much paul. you're always a sweetie. =)
i'll do that. =)
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
give your ear to listen, give your shoulder to cry on and be there when she needs you the most.
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
everybody will always appreciate having a friend around in times like this. the best way i know to comfort a friend is to let her know that i'm just beside her, willing to lend a shoulder, willing to give a hand, willing to lend an ear, willing to be with her as she goes thru a difficult phase.
if she doesn't want to talk, don't push her coz i know it will just make her cry more. i won't try to make her laugh or smile either, this will just make the situation worse. let her come to terms first with the loss. let her appreciate life as she sees it. let her smile on her own volition. let her be for now. be a silent friend for now. but just BE THERE. let her know you are there. visit her and her family. :)
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
yeah. i was SO stupid for making a joke while sending her a text message. good thing she didnt mind it.
i guess giving her distance is the best, for now.
what i dont like about her being depressed is when she go hunger strike. salamat, myles.
