Today i along with my Girlfriend went and aborted our child were we right ?

i think it's not right. you're just like a murderer, killing an innocent baby. even though you're still not ready for it, you shouldn't let him/her die like that. he/she didn't even see how wonderful life is. and besides i think it's not her/his fault that your not matured enough to take care of her/him. don't get mad at me, it's just my opinion. and what's done is done. i just love babies that much. poor thing..

i wish you asked here first before doing that. it is really saddening that you resorted to abortion. you could've just went on with the delivery of the baby and send it to an orphanage.. but since its already been done, theres nothing more to do. i guess all you can do now is pray for your baby. and make a solemn promise (to your baby!) not to do that again to your next child. parenting is not a game. you can't quit when you've done something. it requires responsibility. if you feel you're not ready yet, don't do it. if you can't help doing it, use contraceptives.

There is no justification for killing that unborn child. There is a reason why you are feeling guilty. Even medical doctors will tell you not to be intimate until you are ready to become a parent. Maybe some people haven't been taught about the birds and the bees, and don't realize where children come from. Further more you are taking something from that girl that belongs to her husband. It was supposed to be a gift to her husband on her wedding night. So very sad!

aborting a fetus isn't the same thing as killing a child. Children have many capacties which a fetus does not. Babies are not fetuses -- the are much more developed. Due to your culture or beliefs, you may feel very upset about this decision. I hope you speak to a third party, like a counselor, to help cope with this onslaught of emotions. I understand what a difficult decision this was, and I hope that you realize what is done is done and don't beat yourself up about it. Fetuses often do not make it through all three trimesters. Now when you do have a child, you will realize what a precious gift it is. Try to be supportive of your girlfriend and don't hold each other responsible for your mutual decision. I wish you well.

Let's put it this way - would you rather have had your girlfriend carry it to term and then give it away? Would you have wished it upon your girlfriend to carry a child for 9 months, nourish it, grow fond of it, only to tear it away from her after birth? Would you wish such psychological pain on your girlfriend? Look up the definition of murder - you'll see abortion doesn't qualify as it. Don't beat yourself up, because it wasn't murder - and don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

I know that this was probably one of the hardest decisions you and your g/f could have made together. I believe in the act of pro-choice and support anyones decison, I myself am pro-life for myself. I am just wondering why you would post this knowing full well the negative remarks that you would get. I mean you are already greiving and I will mourn with you, but I will not throw words of hate and guilt your way as it is not my place. I was put in that situation and it would be unfair of me to judge you on that. I just hope that you and your g/f are favoring well and being extremely supportive of eachother through this tough time....if you do then your relationship will only grow stronger. Please take care during this stressful time in you life. Things will get better :)

That's the most stupid thing to do. It is a capital sin!!! Next time, think of the consequences of the act that you will do. Pray to God that He forgives both of you.

I'm fine with it, its perfectly legal and its not like you butchered and infant with a hammer.

`Well you should feel guilty,and you were wrong for killing your child.If you did not want a child you should have used percautions,but you were not right for killing the child.i feel like that is murder.im sorry that is my opinion,so don't take it personal.As far as I am concerned there is no justification for abortion,its not like she was raped,that would be the only way ...

Hello, ydiwan. I can only say that it is a hot topic. You will have many users saying that it is wrong, some saying it was okay, and some saying that it was your choice. I am not here to judge and I can only tell you what I would do in such a situation. If something like that happened I would want her to have the baby, but after it was born I would want her to give the baby to the government to some parents that really want a child. Have a nice day. Pablo

I think it's a little too late to be asking if you should have chosen differently. Do I think you are a murderer or guilty of a crime? NO. Throughout life people have to weigh out their choices and when they make one based on the best information they have, they carry it out and must stick to it, knowing it was the right thing to do at the time. It doesn't mean it's easy or that we won't look back and wonder "what if" I had chosen differently. If it makes you feel any better, there are thousands of kids already out there (not just little babies - but growing up in the "system") that are either living on the streets, living in foster care (sometimes abusive foster care) waiting for adoption, or living inhumane lives among parents who were not ready for them. If you were looking to post a topic to get you a lot of responses, you've done well.

I would like to thank you for making an informed decision. You and your girlfriend obviously didn't make this decision easily. I think too many unwanted babies are born in this world. I don't consider a fetus a human capable of feeling or thinking and aborting it is not a bad thing but a responsible thing to do. I know this isn't a popular view but one I have. I am pro choice and believe that people don't make this decision without lots of thinking first, you made this choice because it was right under your circumstances, don't dwell on it, move on with life and when the time is right to have a baby then you will have one until then try to cheer up. I also don't think it is wrong for a man to cry. I think it is refreshing to see a man cry. So cry and mourn for your loss, then get on with your life. Sorry if I sound harsh, I really am sorry you had to experience this.

Aborting a baby is morally wrong whether its legal or not. I understand its the right of the parents to say they want to have it or not but they have no right to kill a child, come to think of it, what were u thinking sleeping with each other without any protection? Yes, you have to feel guilty because what u committed is pure murder whether you like it or not because if you were aborted, u wouldnt have been alive today, i would advise that you either stop sleeping with your partner till u're are married or use protection against pregnancy and STDS, what if u had got the HIV virus, what would you have done?

I don't have the right to judge both of you. Abortion is not right. But i believe there are reasons behind it. My only advice is to face all of the consequences :) You are responsible for it.

Dude, unless it was a medical abortion, where something was wrong with the pregnancy, you should feel guilty. There are people out there that want a child so bad and cannot have kids. Why didnt she just have the child and put it up for adoption? Abortion is wrong! My hubby and I have been trying to have another child for over a year now and it hasnt happended. You have people that cannot have kids and would have loved to adopt as their own. If you didnt want to have a child, there are ways around not getting pregnant. It takes two to have a baby and if yall didnt take precaution, you should have to had the child.

This is an issue that will be debated for decades, and so you will always hear plenty of loud voices from both realms of opinion. All that you really need to know is that you were put in a very difficult position, and made the best decision that you were able to. You will never forget this, and you will probably never fully quit wondering what would have happened if you had kept it. This is the choice you have made. In my personal opinion, I feel that you know your situation better than any of us - if you felt that aborting the child was a better option, then you made the right choice. I apologize for the wording some people have used in the duration of this conversation. It is their right to have their opinion and to express it as they choose - and, as I mentioned, this is based around a topic that will not die out any time shortly. You asked the question - you got the answers! However, I am apologizing because a small handful of individuals used accusatory connotations and statements, and I hope they did not hurt you. I have to wonder...how many people here have been through the American foster care system? How many have lived in an orphanage? How many have been to India, and seen what happens to children there? How familiar are we (as Americans) with India's adoption requirements, with their health care towards orphaned children or their post-natal care for infants? Believe me, there are many forms of hell right here on earth. I understand both sides of the abortion argument, and though I am pro-choice, I respect everyone's opinion and their rights to express it. But to call someone a murderer (even if this is your opinion) for making a choice in a situation that you know little about is ridiculous. It makes you look ignorant. I am not judging, I am simply relaying my observation. Another important point to consider: If you are a parent...how would you feel about your child going through foster care? Living in a group home with limited goverment income, moved from location to location without a sure place to call home?...and that's in this country. I have never been to India and do not know any of the standards enforced there, but I can't imagine that it would be any better than what we have here. So please...have your opinions. Let them be heard, so long as they are valid and informed. Once again, ydiwan, I am sorry that you ended up in this situation, and I wish you and your girlfriend the best of luck. Do not hate yourself for doing what you felt was best.

Ydiwan, do not kill yourself with grief and guilt. If you felt you had no other choice and thought about it rationally, you made the right decision FOR YOU! That is all that matters. I don't condone abortion, but that is what I stand for, that is my opinion. Who am I to say, as someone who doesn't know your situation, that you were wrong? There are other options and I think a lot of people just use abortion as birth control instead of using actual birth control methods. Adoption is another wonderful option, that way you do not have to keep the child you were not ready for, but also the child has a chance to live and someone who wants a baby but cannot have one will have their wish! Good luck and take care.

You must be crazy, when u cannot give life u have no-no-no right to take it.Let God forgive you.(I do not believe)

It's a SIN! If you really don't want to do it, don't just kill an innocent child because of a mistake! What did that baby do to deserve being murdered? God gives life, so people doesn't have any right to terminate life!!! What's your reason of not wanting to have a child? To think that you're living-in for how many years. Do you know that babies are the greatest gift from God? Hope GOD will forgive you both...

In my opinion, you are wrong to abort your baby. If the two of you are not ready, you can bring him to an orphanage than aborting him, then if the time comes that the two of you are ready to the responsibility, then you can take him. Aborting are like doing a punishment to a person who have no sin. Just dont ever do it again.