I dont like what my friend does

Well, I would definitely tell her about the rumors and would make her tell me the truth. If she really considers me as her friend, she wouldn't lie to me. I wanted her to feel that she can confide on me, that I would understand her reasons and would never judge her. I'm against that thing too, but I would try my best to understand why she fell for such guy. From there then, I could make her understand the implications of what she's been doing with her life. This is the time that she'll be needing a friend's guidance, I wouldn't dare abandon her right now. I'll stay, be patient, she needs me....

Pinks, I don't like your's friend behaive but I also don't like yours. Why? You don't trust your friend just cause of rumors??? Silly. You could hear it from 1,000,000 people but you have to talk to your friend. I know you tried and she denied everything. So, why don't you believe her. Maybe someone wants to make bad picture of here cause of something so he/sje makes bad rumors of her. Go to her again, talk and make her proof that she hav't lied you, she should proof you that she haven't had an afair with married man. I know that you are against such afairs, I am too but that is her private staff. You know, you can't control everybodys behaive. If someone could do thta world would be perfect or the worst place. She thinks if she is doing it that it isn't right. Try to explain her your opinion if she is doing that so let her stop doing that. I suggest you to stay close with her cause you might be sorry cause of that in future. Good luck! and make good chooise.

As I read this discussion and your replies, I can just understand your situation...and definitely I will do the same thing you did. I guess this friend of yours is not afraid of karma, having a relationship with a married man who's wife is also working in the same office where your friend is working too. I mean, that is just too unethical. She should know better than that. If she didn't listen to you then leave her be. Probably one of this days, she will discover that what she is doing is wrong and will stop with the relationship. During that time, she might come again to you to ask for advice again.

I don't believe your friend is right however i do think that if you are someones friend you don't have to agree with everything they do or say. You have to agree to disagree.

i would have done EXACTLY the SAME what you did. I will feel betrayed and treat as I lost one of my friends. Just trun Cold to them. Never try to get attached to them again. Because even she is not bothered on you behaviour that means, she does not consider to her best friend. So move along dear..

It sounds very upsetting, I know it would upset me. But if you didn't care for her, you would not feel this way. She could get into so much trouble, especially with the wife, if it comes out more. You're friend is being careless in her selfish act. Maybe she loves doing what she is doing because she feels she can get away with it. But in time, she won't be. Already the secret seems to be out. How could she deny something like that? You need to be there for her, she knows you know. I had a friend like that too, unfortunatly we drifted apart. You however may be able to talk to her, on your terms, but if you don't feel right, then don't worry. Let her take the fall, because the wife will find out if she hasen't already.

If your friend knows where you stand on such matters, maybe she was afraid of falling out with you if she told you. I wouldn't have appreciated the fact that she lied flat out when I asked her, but again maybe she was afraid you wouldn't want to be her friend anymore.

As I read this discussion and your replies, I can just understand your situation...and definitely I will do the same thing you did. I guess this friend of yours is not afraid of karma, having a relationship with a married man who's wife is also working in the same office where your friend is working too. I mean, that is just too unethical. She should know better than that. If she didn't listen to you then leave her be. Probably one of this days, she will discover that what she is doing is wrong and will stop with the relationship. During that time, she might come again to you to ask for advice again.

I think your friend is going to trouble bit by bit.AS her friend, you shoudn't ignore it. you should remind her first, to use your heart, your frank,your stands beside her. But if all of these are useless, only thing you can do is just watching, you will see that she will be in trouble one day, then give your hand and help her. Her experience will give her lesson.

Pinksoda, i know how it feels like to be betrayed by friends coz i've been there so many times. Your friend did not admit this to you basically because she knows where you stand in such matters and she does not want to hear sermons or words of advise or maybe she is ashamed of what she's gotten herself into. Being a friend, of course you don't want her to get hurt or be involved in such ridiculous things like having an affair with a married man. However, it is still not your life. She is still the one who has the right to decide for herself. You are just there to guide her and help her through hard times even in good times. What is important is you do your part of telling her the pros and cons of getting into that kind of relationship. A good friend will not leave a friend just because she did something wrong. Of course you have the right to get mad for her not telling it to you but you have to understand her reasons. If I am in your position, I would still accept her and be there for her. In time, she'll realize the consequences of her acts. I will not be supportive in any way but if problems come along her way I will help her. I will let her learn her lessons through that experience.

How it happened? you did not ask this question and you became angree. What was her disability which did not allow her to disclose real condition upon you. you were looking one side of the picture. you were beliving on what the people were saying. but you did not attempted to investigate the real story. But you are still claiming that she was your firend. you considered her a friend but you did not prove yourself.

well.. i seriously think you should advise your friend.. how can she do such thing? you just have to talk to her.. and see what's her response.. if she refuse to admit it.. fine.. no point talking to this friend anymore.. i don't think she give enough trust to you.. ask her what's her problem.. but if you really do treat her as friend.. and she refuse to stop what she's currently doing.. i guess you'll just have to support her then.. as a friend.. i think she needs some support too.. owh.. this is so confusing isn't it? =)