How to know if someone loves you?
By Munhozmib
@munhozmib (3836)
Sao Paulo, Brazil
April 18, 2007 4:07pm CST
Well, my case is very complicated.
I am loving one of the most beautiful girl in my school. I am her friend, and all this stuff, and I really love her.
The problem is that I'm not her type. She doesn't see me as a boyfriend, I think. We are just friends.
She got angry at me because I was curious about her life and started searching for some stuff.
Then, I said sorry and she said it was ok.
Today, she was crying. She said she was crying because she was angry at me. We started to solve this problem: me, she, and her three friends. Then, I just realized her friends told her about EVERYTHING I told them. I should've guessed that. And their friends were like: "Go on, Eduardo, tell her you love her!". Anyway, they knew I'd receive a no as answer.
I wonder... If a girl cries for me, I must be important for her. If her friends were asking me to tell that I love her, that must be because she also loves me. Or not?
I don't know what to do, how to know if she loves me?
5 responses
@charina07 (19)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
all i can say is, if u'll never find the courage to say what u feel for her, u'll end up living in "what if's" and "could have been's"...what if she feels the same way and is just waiting for you to tell her. if ever she only sees u as a friend, then u have to accept it and try to move on...the important thing is u have been true to her and to urself. how can u call urself her friend if u're untrue to her, ryt? the negative response from her is possible and will be painful...but it's worth the risk. go go go!
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
23 Apr 07
Yeah, I was planning to talk to her today.
You know, I'll tell her what I feel inside. It'll be painful if she says that she doesn't love me, but I'll take the risk. I hope I have courage enough to do it.
Anyway, if she says she doesn't love me, I won't give up. I can't give up of her, she means so much for me!
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
28 Apr 07
I did talk to her. I surprised her when I told her I love her different from the other guys, I love her for what she is inside. She said she doesn't love me... After that, she started to avoid me :(
I didn't give up, though...
Thanks for wishing the best for me.
@charina07 (19)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
hi there...did u make the move? how was it? hope things went out fine 4 u...i can see that u're really sincere and i just really hope it would be ok...good luck
1 person likes this
@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
1 May 07
hate you? how did you know that? do not jump into conclusions. she probably doesn't hate you. maybe she's just uncomfortable with the situation. but hate you? nah... i don't think so.
yeah, you should make her feel that you love her. although, you should also make her feel that you're not forcing her to do anything about it. and that you just want the freedom to love her and express her importance in your life.
1 person likes this
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
28 May 07
Well, she already knows I love her, and everything is so strange... She is telling me not to suffer for her, that she knows he is not giving me the value I really have... And she said that she hopes some day I can find someone that truly loves her.
I don't want someone, I want her. Anwyay, I think I must still put a lot of effort into this relationship.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
Maybe the first things to do is to tell her what you feel about her and you must accept whenever is the answer. Maybe also she's crying because she already knew that you some kind of a felling for her and she can't accept the fact that can cause looseness of your friendship. Of course you are important to her thats why she's crying and maybe she's only shy to accept what she also has a feeling to you. The best is to talk to her in private.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
18 Apr 07
So, are you saying that I should talk to her alone? I mean, only me and her, no friends?
Well, I know the answer... All my friends told me to give up, and I told them I gave up. But that's not the true, I'll keep trying until my heart feels completely broken.
I just need to know if she loves me... A way to make she speaks sincerely with me. But I'd rather not tell her I love her, it might ruin everything.
Thanks for the tip. I'll be awaiting for more replies.
@joycer (498)
• Sri Lanka
1 May 07
It's not that easy to know if a person loves you unless she verbally said so. There are so many ways, and it differs from each and every person. Some misunderstood others. Maybe it's just that she only sees you as her best friend. Or she likes some other guy. But it is good that you both started as friends. The problem is, she had already created a wall between the two of you,knowing now that you want her to be your girl. Some girls become conscious with how they act, or become shy when they know that somebody likes them. But try to give her space if she's avoiding you. It can also be that she likes you too, but is not ready yet to be your girl because of some factors, like your friends, who might tease her. I just wish you luck.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
1 May 07
I'm afraid of this idea of giving her space. Because if I give her space, I might never be able to be her friend again. She might just want me to forget her. She hates me... And this is really bad. I gotta act like a man, but I don't know how. I am without a path to follow.
@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
1 May 07
you know what, i went through the same experience as you did, that's why i feel for you. he was a friend of mine for almost four years. it was just several months ago when i realized that i was in love with him. but being the vocal person that i am, i was courageous enough to express what i feel. although i didn't expect anything in return, i tried showing him how he meant to me everyday.
i commend you for not giving up. i understand how hard this must be for you. if you feel like it is becoming too painful, get strength from the memories you shared together as friends. don't worry, if she's avoiding you, it does not necessarily mean that you do not mean anything for her. she might just be feeling uneasy. respect her space, but let her feel that you'd always be there for her no matter what.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
1 May 07
Thanks for your answer. Really appreciate it. But I think I found the answer of why is she avoiding me: she hates me.
This hurts... She hates me! How, why? There's no reason, but she still hates me. I've got to talk to her about this, if I can. I don't know what to do anymore, I was thinking about something to tell her to show her that I really love her.
