What are your doubts about your husband?
By merihluanne
@merihluanne (254)
Philippines
April 18, 2007 9:17pm CST
We can never evade the fact that most of the married women have doubts and issues about their husbands. For instance, cheating, this is the fault most married men are doing right now. They say thet when men reach the age of 40, they tend to look for variety and in the process they cheat..
That is also the doubt I have with my husband, we have been married just a few years and because of peer pressure, there are nights and days that we are not in tune. He went to a bar with dancing girls on ledges with his friends and the wives of those friends, including me, were no made to know their whereabouts. Well, turns out, women are wiser than men because we can sense that they went somewhere that they were not telling us.
The point here, is that men are mostly liars and in my opinion, they start lying and eventually they cheat.
How about you? What are your doubts and issues about your hubby?
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6 responses
@caribe (2465)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I think it does have a lot to do with peer pressure. My husband and I have been married more than 14 years. The first 12 years we lived in the US where I am from and he never cheated on me. But two years ago we came to live in Nicaragua where he is from, and after one year of being here he had an affair. I think the idea here is that all the men are doing it and if he could get away with it, why not. He also started lying to me for which goes hand in hand with the cheating. He isn't cheating now, but he is still lying to me, which I hate. His best friend has been married two or three times and is currently divorced for several years and has a girlfriend the age of his daughter so I think this is a bad influence on my husband. I don't think I will ever trust him again. I try, but I just can't especially when he still lies to me for no reason.
@merihluanne (254)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
I agree. I don't know why men do this when they have already committed themselves to marriage. Which means they should be monogamous at all times because they had a lifetime commitment. But it seems that men nowadays they do not take this seriously so what they do, is they become selfish and marry the woman they don't want to live without and find other women that they can have fun with. I may sound like a man-hater, don't get me wrong, I am also a married woman and I love my husband dearly. It is just the acts that they get into when they are with their peers or when they reach a certain age. That is what is scary about marriage. Maybe that is also the reason why women nowadays don't want to marry at an early age.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Well, for me, it would have to be my worrying about him spending $$ that he should not be spending places. Money we really do not have, and then having to have him explain why there are charges, etc. on the Credit Card that should not be there. But other than this, I really Love my husband and would not trade him in for all the money in the world.
@merihluanne (254)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
I would not trade my husband for anything in the world either, but the question is, would he trade me for another young girl or his lust for physical flesh?
@wdiong (1815)
• Singapore
20 Apr 07
Initially , I had complete trust in my husband so it was pretty devastating when I accidentally found out that he had an affair when I was pregnant with our secong child. We had been married about 7 years then and it was unthinkable that he would do such a thing to me. That was a terrible time for me. Even now, we are trying to work things out ,especially for the sake of not breaking up the family and hurting our 2 kids.
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@merihluanne (254)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
It is very devastating for us wives to catch our husbands in that aspect because when we amrried them, we were committed to our vows and we expected them to do so. When that happens, a part of us is stripped away and our trust in them is also stripped away. So they cannot blame us if we have some concerns or some doubts about them when they already did that deed before. I admire your courage, that you fought to keep your family together despite of all that you have been through, even in your pregancy, which is very critical.
@happy2bmommy (305)
• United States
20 Apr 07
yeah, i have doubts about my husband cheating too. i think we all have a little doubt about that one. as far as i knowm he has never cheated on me, but i always wonder what he is capable of doing. i hope that he never will. i have always, and will always tell him, that if he feels that he doesnt love me anymore, be a man and tell me so we can end it decently, rather than have it end that way. and yes, it would definitely be over if he ever cheated on me. i wouldnt be able to look at him or touch him or forgive him. there would be no point in staying together.
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@merihluanne (254)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I agree with you. I would do the same if my husband cheated on me. I would not even like to look at him. But I always tell myself that if ever that happened, I will leave him with a clear conscience, knowing that I did e\my part as a wife and he was the one who went astreay. So no matter what other people light say, I can still hold my head up high knowing that my dignity is still intact.
@nelly5 (1424)
• United States
19 Apr 07
My only doubt about my husband is that, I highly doubt that he will ever stop loving me. We have been through so much together. We were high school sweathearts and have had plenty of ups and downs...but here we are 15 years later and doing better than ever. I feel for you, it seems to me that you have been hurt too many times. I wish you the best of luck!!
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@merihluanne (254)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
It seems that you found the right partner. Congratulations to you! =) God Bless!
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@jimhuo2008 (572)
• China
20 Apr 07
Yes, maybe a lot of us have be cheated or cheat other, but sometimes I don’t think cheating is a always a bad thing for who be cheated, we cheating just for not let other feel uncomforable or sad, for example, ever, I lost my job , it is a very serious thing to family, my wife and child will be very sad fot this, so I give them a lia, and quick find another job, them I tell them the truth. But sometimes liar is for do bad thing,for money, foe other benefit of themselves. That is bad. Generally speaking, we should sort them into two parts, Am I right?
