How To deal Frustation In Your Life ?????

thanx a lot my friend for such a quick and a sincere response. i think you have underrstood the thing very well and explained it very nicely. Its really a tough thing to see your identity, your individuality being lost infront of you. when i see back my life, when i was not married, i was very dominating, head straight, demanding, girl. and if i see myself today, its just the opposite of that. before marriage if i wanted something , i wanted it at any cost but now i dont think that i ever feel the need of wanting anything. its all gone. before everything happening was asked by me and now its just like..........................nothing. you are a nobody in the house. just eat, sleep and work. nothing more, you have no choice now. you eat what people want, you drink what people want, you go somewhere only and where the people want, you wear what people want.. THEN WHAT THE HELL DO I WANT....... DO I HAVE ANYTHING IN MY LIFE TODAY WHICH IS MINE OR I CAN DO WHAT I WISH..............ITS NOTHING , SIMPLY NOTHING. THANX for such a nice response but i m really hurt and very depressed. i have lost everything....everything means everything. If my hubby would not have been like this , i think i would have move my way apart long back only.it would not at all be possible for me to live like this, a girl like me living like this, in just an opposite situation of what she was...............difficult, not difficult, impossible.

Gosh....it's so heartbreaking to hear how despressed and hopeless you sound. So you used to be a very strong and independent girl, but now you feel that has all been taken away from you? I can only imagine how depressing that must be. You need to find one part of your life that you feel control over. I am wondering if there are any reources for you to talk about this with someone...a professional perhaps? Or maybe there are some books that might help you. I know of one book called "The Dance of Anger", here is more on it: http://www.amazon.com/Dance-Anger-Changing-Patterns-Relationships/dp/006091565X But it talks a lot about women's anger and frustrations. Maybe it can provide you with some help and comfort? Take care.

Thanx a lot happymommy3, you are one of my best friends out here. i really liked your and swer and am very thanful for your beautiful advice. the only resn i am able to survive after such a big change that i faced after marriage is becuase of my hubby. he is a gem of a person that i have found. i love him a lot, no doubt and he too loves me, infact it will not be writing too much about him by saying that he loves me much much more than i. i is very caring and understanding. i feel it easy to communicate with him every thing that i feel about any person in our house. he understands things well and i think his way of thinking and taking things is very diferent. i looks everthing from a broad spectrum so can help me more. but than too happymommy3, i realy at times feel soooo frustated that i when sit alone in my room i feel like crying and crying and crying and sometimes banging my head to the wall too. i feel like running away from the situation, from everyone, leaving everyone. feel like seeing no one. but then when i think of my hubby, i feel bad and guilty too. i sometimes feel that the way i feel, would he also be feeling in the same way ever, or because he is with his family and i m out , left my parents, so i m in such a situation or mind state. i discuss with him everything. he akways helped me coming out of the situation but i go back to that very fast. that is the major problem. then i feel bad, that because of me i m making my hubby also unhappy and depressed. i dont want to look unnhappy or depressed in front of hi because seeing me in such a state, his work is affected and his daily routine is also disturbed. thans a lot my friend, for responding me. i would always love to hear from you.

Thanx a lot for your response joycer. my hubby is also alwayz telling me the same things. he says that dont listen to everyone, do your work, your duty, pray to GOD, and everything will improve. but it is difficult, atleast for me to simply ignore what someone has said to you, it hurts me a lot. he always tell me to think positive but alwayz is difficult.

Do not let your grudges stay inside your heart and mind. Let it out. You can put them into writing. You can punch the punching bag. Maybe you need to release that inner negative feelings that you have. You can cry out loud. But of course there should be discretions. Frankly, I am a negative thinker, always, I don't know why. I hope I can help you , these are just my thoughts and opinions.

well i am not exaggerating anything lucgeta, i wrote all what i felt, there wasn't any exaggeration anywhere. and the problem is not with my hubby but with my family and my hubby is the only person who understands me. if i share anything , its with him and nobody else. he has no questions or objections in what i wear or what i eat. i know he loves me that is the reason of survival here otherwise it will be next to impossible for me.