Can we still be friends?
By moira20
@moira20 (226)
Philippines
April 19, 2007 9:52am CST
As the song goes, "We can't play this game anymore but can we still be friends?" Hmm, do you think, personally, that's possible? After all that's been said and done, can you really be friends with your ex? I have been there, and I thought that was such a great idea. But unluckily for me, who still had the hots for him then, was at the losing end. And after some time, I came to my senses & just stay away from him as possible so as not to be used again..It worked for me 'cause i'm happy now with my boyfriend. =)
And yeah, my ex and I are now friends but only the 'hi, hello' kind. hehe
How about you, what's your opinion on that?
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4 responses
@patricia24 (568)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
I think its better for me when i dont talk to my ex's, maybe because at that time i did not fully accept things, like we just happy together and after a while i will see him with other girl, it really hurts me. So id rather not to greet him and ignore him as if he doesnt exist. So later on i will forget him and move on.
@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
I still have contact with my ex until now, sometimes we talk about our family, still care and share if we had a problem. Nothing wrong with that, we both enjoyed it.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Apr 07
Hmmm... I've been friends with exes before, but only ones that were my friends before we dated. In fact, if I hadn't moved a really long way away, I would still be friends with many people I had dated before.
I think it really depends on how you got together. If you immediately started dating someone without ever being friends first, then there's no common ground to go back to other than things that happened while you were dating. So that could be really hard to do. However, I wouldn't give up a really long-term friendship because I happened to date the person at some point and it didn't work out.
Right now I'm struggling with a friendship with someone I used to be romantically involved with, but it's more certain personality issues that are the problem, and not any lingering romantic feelings.
@bonitabiloxi (127)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
If the break-up wasn't nasty, why not? But of course, being "chumy-chumy" is not advisable especially if both of you are committed. There must always be some sort of gap or distance. I'm one of those who strongly believe in past is past.. ;-) In my case, my first ex has a wife and kids, we broke up several years ago; but last year, when he was able to get hold of my number, he apologized then after I forgave him, he texted nasty stuff and threats. Weird, right? Maybe, he is really neurotic or somethin'. So it's dangerous to be friends w/ that kind of exes.. The other ex, we are friends in friendster.. Does that count? But that's it. Why would anyone happily committed, really care about developing friendship w/ exes? What's the point? ;-)
