Phenomenon: Father to daughter and Mother to son.

i am a mother of four, a son and three girls. i am their mother and their father at the same time. i dont think i am closer to my son.... but i do talk to him much more than the girls coz i he does not open subjects or topics to me unless i ask. the girls are much vocal.

I don't know exactly why but it's indeed true that there are many families wherein the fathers are closer to their daughters, and the mothers closer to their sons. I just know that during infancy, this is common because of jealousy, e.g. the Oedipal complex. The baby boy would usually be jealous of the father because it would incessantly fight for the affection and attention of the mother. Same with the baby girl for the father. This should dissolve as girls and boys grow up (as they tend to develop the role of a female and a male, thereby following their father and mother as role model). Perhaps later on, the protective nature of the father towards his daughter would surface, and likewise for the mother who would feel that she might lose her son to another female.

i found it weird in my family. my husband is away from us most of the time and he is an irresponsible guy. i have been the one to see my family through. my children are all aware of this. yet, my daughter (the eldest) has still a kind of affinity to her father which i cannot understand. she will defend her father outright. the father though displays not much love at all for my children. and so, i am wondering why he doesn't pursue for a legal separation for us. now, my 2 boys are very close to me. honestly, i can say that my eldest is the most favored child in the family because, the younger brothers are willing to give way for her. if not for his illness, my youngest child would have sacrificed so much for her, too. my children are very close and loving to each other, though. this is the one thing that i am very proud of.

Parents love all their children, equally, but the love like the relationship between the two has its differences depending on many different factors including if they are both male, both female, or not. Although it is certainly not limited to that.

I don't know about everyone else, but in my experience, yes, that seems to be true. I was a "daddy's girl" and my brother was a "mommys boy". I am very close with my dad, but I am also what they call a tomboy. I like to work on cars and fix things with my dad and my brother enjoys cooking and shopping! LOL

I can't really see the mother-son phenomenon in my family since I've got 3 sisters and no brothers, hehehe! But yes, I've seen this in other families. Actually, my friend and I talks about this all the time. She's afraid to have a daughter because the daughter might be as stubborn or more stubborn than her and she might not be able to discipline her because the daughter might retaliate with "Oh Mom, you know you're like this before!" What a horrible scene! Anyway, the reason why I shared that is because, it must be why Moms are closer to their sons, because they're afraid they can't discipline their daughters. But you know, I find this confusing because Moms know whats best for their daughters since they're girls themselves and I've learn that from experience, I'm very close to my Mom. I would like to add to your observation... I observe that sons bear more resemblance to their Moms and daughters to their Dads, this is physical, biology can explain this I think, but this observation have been nagging me for quite some time now... :D

I really depends on who the child feels more comfortable approaching.... Some children are more comfortable with their fathers others more comfortable with their mothers, others are more comfortable with going to their siblings for help and support..... It happens in any family. I have had brothers and sisters who felt better going to mom, I personally felt better going to dad, as I never felt I could really truely connect or understand my mother well. So we will all go to who we feel more connected to and love and understand better... Sometimes one parent is more capable of showing nurturing and love than the other.. I know both of my parents love me alot.. But I also know that one is more accepting of recieving love in return than the other, or easier to communicate with... - DNatureofDTrain

I don't really know if this is true because as a father we would like to equally show our love and affection to all our children. Maybe I can relate to the father - daughter relationship. Since we like to protect our daughter from being corrupted and polluted by this world, we always keep our eye on them and as much as possible be with them.

I think its true because with regards to my family all of us three girls are much closer to our dad especially me who is the eldest is much closer. That i can tell to him anything under the sun. But when it comes to my mom its limited. But i think it depends on how you have grown up and it depends on the parents itself how they talk or treat their children.