Say what you mean and do what you say!!!!

My stepson and husband do this to me all the time. The kid always has an excuse and a promise to do it tomorrow. Tomorrow comes and goes and I end up mowing the lawn on my next day off. My husband blames stuff on somatic complaints. My back hurts, can we go tomorrow? I end up going alone and telling him that whatever I get he can't complain about.

There are very few people i trust with their word anymore. The same thing happened to me last week. This guy told me he'd be here between 8:30-9:00 Monday night. I called into work and told them i couldn't make it in. He never showed up. He pops up Friday morning after not talking to me all week and wants to borrow 5 dollars for gas. The only reason he showed up was to borrow money after standing me up. It sure as hell wasn't to visit with me. He didn't wanna stay long after i told him i just didn't have 5 bucks he could borrow. He left and i haven't heard from him since.

Well I have to say Steph it did bother me but now I do not care anymore and I do not rely on the word that those People who have let me down give me I just take it with a pinch of Salt lol Don't get upset about it not worth it

I have experienced things like that before too and I think I completely understand how you feel. There really are people who are so inconsiderate about how other people are going to feel if they don't do what's expected of them. However, there still are people who stick with their word and I must say I'm quite lucky that I have plenty of friends which are of this sort - they always do as they expected and if they cant do it, they'll tell me. I dont really know exactly what to tell you to cool down but I hope you could just forget about those insensitive guys that brought you to opening this discussion. Happy posting!

Why is it that sometimes we seem to not take our words in personal conversation as serious? Maybe we believe we should be able to relax when we are with friends and not have to really say what we mean. There is even the possibility that we have become accustomed to talking to people who don't really listen, therefore we are not as conscious about what we say. I find that people who know they are listened to seem to be a little more conscious about what they say before they say it. What do you think about that?

i've always spent my life telling people exactly what i think, and acting upon it, that it makes me mad when people don't; but also, i hate being in trouble for doing exactly that. my war against hypocrisy means i'm honest and people would rather hide from that. oh well...

A lot of the time, I want to stick to my word, and I make attempts to do so, but sometimes, things change. My life is full of change. I do not like to make committments of promises a lot of the time because I know that my life is not certain. My life is always a surprise at times.

yes i sympathise with your feeling toward s those kind of people, and it is very irritating indeed to encounter such person..i personally have one .. and who knows what ? my brother, he is fond of promising to me to do those stuff on a certain date but will not appear on the said day..very frustrating.

yes i dont like also that kind of people with no sense of sincerity and committment to do the things that have been agreed upon, but those are few people only, some people that i know of are notlike that, so dont so affected on those kind of people theyre not worth it.

Along the lines of this, what tends to annoy me the most are when people tell me that they are going to "try" to do something. "I'll TRY to make it to your party." What does that MEAN? Does it mean you'll drive around the neighborhood for an hour, and each time you try to turn left the steering in your car fails, so you can't make it down my street? Just tell me "No, I don't think I can attend." Just leave it at that. People often get mealy-mouthed around forceful people (not saying that's you, by the way). My ex was that way... with her fiery temper, she made it "unsafe" for people to say no to requests... so they'd mumble "(yes)" and then weasel their way out. And, of course, she'd be mad. A lot of people, though, are simply not considerate of other's feelings and time.

It is indeed dissappointing when someone does that. You already had you're day made and suddenly somebody ruins it for you. For me it's quite unacceptable unless something of an emergency came up then that would be excusable.

uhmmm, you sound mad honey, relax! hehehe.... I can relate to you, I find myself dealing with such kind of people almost everyday at work and I have an ex-husband who's fond of breaking his words and you should have saw me then, I would almost have a heart attack from trying not to get mad and nag and throw things at him. The marriage never lasted anyway, which is good, I think. Anyway, I should tell you I've learned to control my anger because of my ex. I am a kind of person who sticks to my words and I hated liars as much as you do. I hate to wait too. But I'm really patient now and have learned to understand that people are really different from each other. I mean, I should be thankful that I know how to mean what I say and say what I mean. I kinda pity those who can't, it makes them an inconsistent and unrealiable person in the eyes of others. They've lost other people's confidence, which is sad. So, here at work, whenever a client would request for a program and promises me he'll have the requirements submitted by tomorrow, I'll just whistle and tell myself, oh ok, we'll see. I kinda expect he won't submit them on time so I won't get frustrated again if he breaks his promise... Hard to do, but I tell you, I got used to it and it's more beneficial to you, it would take out a lot of stressful anger within you... try it! :D

I feel the same way that you do.I really hate it when people dont do what they say.Im so particular with it.I hate it when people will keep me waiting and will not inform me why they cannot come or why they will be late.They are so insensitive knowing that you are waiting for them.I dont know why there are people like that.They assumed right away that you will understand.I dont have patience with these kind of people

It is soooo frustrating when people do not say what they mean or do what they say they will do! Its hard because a lot of us have high expectations of others and expect them to act the way we would act (considerate- calling if we have to cancel etc)- and when they don't we get let down and frustrated. I know I am not perfect and do not always say what I mean to say- but I always try to be considerate of others and it is a HUGE pet peeve of mine to be late so I 99 % of the time - am on time or early for anything! Don't loose faith as it doesn't feel great to think that all people can't be trusted at thier word... maybe chaulk it up to 'not everyone is considerate' but you can do the best you can each day to treat people the way you would want to be treated... ~at home mommy~ http://mommyathomefornow.blogspot.com www.personalgrowthresources.net

i was one time at the mall waiting for a friend to arrive. i waited for her for an hour. i thought she was just late or had came accross some emergencies. so, i called her. upon calling her, she told me that she will not be able to come over. i really got mad at her that day and talked to her the next time we met. and since then, she never got late again and tells me in advance if she can't come over as promised.

This is so true, so many people don't value your word anymore since no one can keep, but you sound like you are frustrated with contractors, we have been trying to get some things fixed in our house and everytime we make an appointment for a contractor to come they never show, no phone call, nothing, it is as though they have dropped off the face of the earth, I hate that.

I totally agree. When they say they ar egoing to do this or that then do it if not they shouldn't have said anything at all.

I think we all have had to deal with this at some point in our lives. I especially hate when you call the cable company or something and they give you a "window" of time they will be there say 1-5pm. Now you have to sit at home from 1-5pm and do nothing. Then they never show up and when you call you get the "they were tied up on a previous call" or the famous "they went but no one was home" to which you politely hand them their behind in a basket and tell them YOU were home ALL day waiting for them. It does bother me, and my husband is an offender. He'll tell a friend we are going to stop by and then just not go. I always tell him to at least call so the person isn't waiting around, but it still hasn't stuck that he needs to do this. Calm down, I was hopped up yesterday about something too. No need to get our blood pressure up over these inconsiderate idiots, right?

I tend to agree with you Stephanie. It's my biggest pet peeve. When someone says they are going to do something, they should stick to their word and do it. I really hate it when people tell you they are going to do something or be someplace by a certain time and not carry it through. I think that's why I usually just do things myself. That way I don't get upset.

i understand how you feel.. because i always don't do what i say and i don't say what i mean.. haha.. so sorry.. it seems so difficult to stick to our words.. i do regret.. and now.. i'm doing what i promised to my loved ones.. i always break the promises because i just don't know what i want.. but i think.. i deserve a second chance right? ... yea.. if you're to inform on a plan change.. you have to call or text message immediately, don't keep people waiting for you.. who are you to do that to others.. right? i know someone just piss you off isn't it? relax.. this happen all the time.. and you'll just have to learn to accept it =)