Do you say THANK YOU??
By vesuvius
@vesuvius (1677)
Philippines
April 20, 2007 9:48am CST
My sisters make fun of me sometimes when I say 'thank you' to almost everyone who does very little things for me - like when I am unloaded at a vehicle and I say thanks to the driver, when I say thanks to the grocery guy who packs the things I've bought, when I say thanks to a registry official after a transaction is made and little stuffs like those..
Do you think I'm 'overthanking' everybody?
Do you think it's funny that I am like this??
You?? Do you say thank you for small things??
Please tell me what's in your mind...
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65 responses
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
21 Apr 07
Goodness no I don't think that you are funny! I think that as a society we have become too assuming and too thankless! Being grateful and showing gratitude are becoming a thing of the past. It seems that we just assume anymore that we deserve things and that there is no need to thank someone for something! I think you are to be commended for your politeness! THANK YOU for a refreshing change from those who just seem to feel entitled!
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@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
Thanks for confirming that once again. What you've said is almost the same with other's comments - that today's society is quite lacking in manners and that good things are apparently things of the past.
Thank you for commending my actions and thanks too for this response!
@mahmah (436)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I say thank you all the time, when someone holds the door for me, when i take my ticket from the toll booth guy, when I pay the toll guy at the other end, when a cashier gives me my change etc. I don't think that you are overthanking any one. You are being polite, I just wish more people had the slightest little courtesy like we do.
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@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I guess that's really very good of you. Thanks for confirming once again that I am not overthanking people. Maybe I really am just polite.. LOL
Seriously now, I am also wishing the same thing because if that happens then this world would be more pleasant to live in.
Thanks for this response!
@bhawnam (1436)
• India
21 Apr 07
i have a habit of thanking practically everyone from the shopkeeper to my maid, to my husband, and my mom and my sister and just everyone.... My mom is tired of this habit of mine and often tries to make me understand that she did me a favour because she is my mother, and i dont have to thank her every single time... we say thank you to those whom we dont expect anything from and they do something for us... but till the date i haven't been able to convince her nor has she been able to convince me... :)
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@inked4life (4224)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I can't understand why anyone would make fun of you for being polite. I say please and thank you all the time, even if it's for the smallest things, and I teach my kids to behave the same way. I'd much prefer someone to be overly polite than outright rude. Keep on doing what you are doing, I'm sure the people you thank appreciate it greatly.
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@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I also dont know the reason why - maybe they just think it's a little odd.
Well it's good that you teach your kids to do say thank you to others and I commend you for that. If I were to choose, I would also prefer to be with somebody that's overly polite than overly rude.
Thanks for this response!
Happy posting!
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@beaniegdi (1964)
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21 Apr 07
You should thank people who are doing things for you, it shows you have good manners and well brought up. It does not reflect well on your sisters if they don't do this. I always brought my sons up to be polite and people always have commented to me how polite they where. It doesn't hurt anyone when you have good manners but you can make someones day by thanking them when others have taken them for granted.
@charlestchan (1415)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 07
i will also do the same like you.. is it funny? nope.. i don't think so.. what's with your sis? she thinks it's funny? isn't that's the proper way to thank someone? even if they do you little things.. they're still considered as help you before.... trust me.. it's okay to thank everyone that helped you before.. it's the correct manner.. better than you choose who to thank!!.. that's very bad.. some sort of discrimination.. how can you choose to thank based on the things they've done for you?
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I think it shows you have class and manners. I always say please and thank you and have trained my children to do the same. When they would go out with their father (my ex) they were often embarassed by his lack of manners and would actually say thank you FOR him!
@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
You might think this is funny but I became a little flattered with what you've said - well, I mean having class.
As I have commented on one of the responses here, there indeed is a lack of manners nowadays and your ex is one example that proves this [I'm sorry if you might still get offended with this note about your ex] - I think it's quite a shame that your kids would need to do it for him. He should learn how to give thanks to others because that's too simple and his kids need not do it for him.
Thanks for this response!
@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I think it's wonderful to say "thank you" to people for the things they do. Sometimes it's wonderful to hear a "thank you" when you are doing these things. I know that it warms my heart if someone (especially a little kid) says thank you when I hold a door open or something for them. I teach my kids to say thank you for anything...this is what this world needs...more people like you saying thank you for the little things.
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@anonymili (3138)
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20 Apr 07
I don't think you've over thanking everybody at all. It's not funny, it's nice and polite and charming. I am very thankful too. I always thank people for the smallest things they might do for me. I thank people when they give me my change when I buy something (even if they don't thank or even acknowledge me), I thank people if they hold doors open for me or they respond to my queries. I work in HR and I always thank my contacts when they send me CVs for candidates for vacant jobs, even if those candidates are not selected for interview. I always thank people who email their CV in to us for jobs for showing an interest in our company even when they have no relevant skills and have not even read the job description properly. It doesn't hurt me to say thank you but when people don't say thank you sometimes it does hurt me. I am used to it really, in today's society, manners are lacking in many people even though they are such an easy thing to possess and use! You keep on saying thank you, you could be making someone's day when you thank them as no one else might have thanked them that day, week or even month! x
@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
Well thanks for clarifying that (for the one who commented above) - I commend you for being able to say thank you to everyone.
Now my comment on anonymili:
I greatly agree that in today's society, manners are lacking though what people need to do are so easy sometimes.
On another note, I really hope that I have made somebody happy when I said thanks to him - that would be nice indeed!
Thanks for this response!
@uniquenorthern (932)
• United States
21 Apr 07
Yes, I tend to say thank you for just about everything that people do for me. I sometimes feel silly, but I would rather feel silly than rude. That is the way that I was brought up.
NO, I do not think that you are over-thanking people unless you will sit there and say thank you over and over again to the same person for an almost endless amount of time. Then it is obsessive.
What you are describing just sound like siblings that like to give you good natured grief about something that they know is a sensitive issue with you like all siblings tend to do. I for one would keep on doing what you are doing and making people's days with those simple little thank you's that some of them probably don't hear all that often. ;0)
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
20 Apr 07
i say thank -you to everyone too. How can having good manners be wrong. You never know that thank-you could be the nicest thing that person has heard all day. I try to smile and say please and thank-you,and hopefully help someone to have a better day.
@betchai (140)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
I give thanks for small things, and the more thankful I become, the more my bounty increases. That's because what you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Good things flow my way when I am grateful no matter what happens in my life. It's not easy being grateful all the time. But it's when you feel least thankful that you are most in need of what gratitude can give you.
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@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I appreciate everything that anyone does for me, no matter how "small" it may seem so I always say thank you. Even to my mom and dad, I try to say thank you when they do things for me. For one thing, it's common courtesy and good manners and for another, it doesn't take much effort to say something nice to someone that will make them feel good inside. It's very important to me. You are not overthanking anyone. You are a very nice person.
@chacks123 (129)
• India
20 Apr 07
I also thank you to many people who do something for me even if it is their job to so. Most of the people like it. Some times some people who dont feel thankful for anything laugh on others. So, kep up your good work.
@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
Most people like to hear 'thank you's' because we all want acknowledgement even for the smallest things that we've done and for saying thank you all the time, I commend you.
Thanks for this response!
Also, thanks for saying what I'm doing is good work!
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
It is normal for people to say thank you in a westenr countries,I think it is a good thing as saying thank you is so easy but you will make people think you are polite,especailly if you meet a stranger for the first time, it is important to leabe a good first impression to him/her. I always like to say thank you,mo matter in the bank,restuarants or when I get off from the vus, I will say thank you to the bus drivers, I appreciate their hard work and I would like to say thank you to them.
@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I think saying 'thank you' is also normal for eastern countries.
I also believe saying thank you leaves a very good impression of politeness - that's the reason why i try to do it myself. I commend you for always trying to say thank you no matter how small a favor is given to you!
Thanks for this response!
@shekaina24 (161)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
I often say thank you to those whom have been there for me all through out......how big or small it is, I really appreciate...They don't know how much it means to me.
@vesuvius (1677)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I agree that saying thank you is one great lesson in good manners. It is how we should be raised and that's how we should grow. I only hope more people could understand that idea because I encounter a lot of people who wouldnt say a word though you have given them a lot of favor.
Thanks for this response!