should friends become lovers?

if both are feeling the same thing, i say why not? but if its only a one sided thing that a person is feeling, i say give up the romantic feeling. for me, friendship is important. but i belive that you can be in a romantic relationship with someone AND at the same time be very best friends too ;-)

i think friendship dwells longer than love in our hearts .. although love is important friendship is vital for functioning of life .. well if i have love besides me while i am in this situation i would definitely choose friendship but if i havent found love and i happen to come across a friend i am falling in love with maybe i go ahead and propose love to him .. its very human to fell for this .. i cannot just say no i will choose friendship cos i know i would be tempted to take a good relationship further more for best results .. human tendency !!

Why not? Close friends share the same interests and understand each other, which is what a good relationship is all about. I consider my husband as my best friend (although I also have another girl best friend). The risk here is if the romantic relationship falls apart. Is your friendship strong enough to weather that and still be friends even if you were ex-lovers?

ya ....frds can become lover ....bt if they hv best compatability wid each other den only otherwise its difficult...n they will get success bcoz they knw each other very well....

I wont care that my lover is my good friends ,Maybe I will apreciate that thing happen for that we know each other very well, share a lot things together ,we can get on very well with each other ,so why not .

I agree with you marielle.. Coz its hard to lose a lover but its much harder to lose a friend. I've been through a lot and its very difficult to lose someone who is very dear to you so I guess if you want to fall in love.. don't fall in love with your friend, coz you might not only lose one person but two important things in your life.. the one that you love and your friend.... So think before you fall for your friend..

If one already has a love relationship then its very clear that no friendship should superseed this relationship. If things go out of control i personally wont mind giving up a friendship to see that my love prevails.

I think its a great idea as long as suddenly they are falling in love to each other, marielle1571. Friend are one of a great relationship and i think love have to be basic from friendship too. that will make them understand each other.

You have to understand that you risk your friendship for it. If you think it is worth it then yes.

I think so too..but what if both of you feel the same way too what will you do? Maybe you could also be lovers at the sane time the best of friends if you talk it out nicely and let each other know that whatever happens your friendship will never end. And also to have a friend as a lover is alright because you both know each other, the dislike and likes of one another so by that I think each of you will understand each other and make your relationship and friendship go smoothly and stronger.

yes. friends can become lovers if they wish.... it is very interesting to find friends being lovers.

Yes....friends shud definitely become lovers as its easier that way...it becomes easier to marry a friend than anybody else..

I can imagine that, best friends falling in love with each other. But it is also a very difficult situation. Because if you chose to love, you can never have the same friendship like before because both of you will become intimate. But if you chose to be best friends, it can last forever.

Nope, pretty much all my friends are girls (it's a problem because I'm straight)and my guy friends have girlfriends. I love my friends the way they are anyway. I would hate it if we never talked to each other again because we got involved in a relationship.

I think that if both people feel the same, and your friendship is strong enough, then it's better to give romance a try than wondering, "What if...?", for the rest of your life. For me, it worked out. My best friend for years and I becamse lovers, and now we are happily married. It takes a lot of courage to take that jump from friendship to romance, because of the fear that the friendship might change. For me, it was the best decision we have ever made together.