Love or Money?
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
April 20, 2007 1:29pm CST
My grandmother always said to me that their was many a tear shed on a satin pillow.
She never believed in marrying for money, only for love.
I followed her example and married a poor man, but I loved him.
On the other hand, we lived in the ghetto, and a neighbour was a cleaning lady for a wealthy family. She married the son and so became wealthy herself.
She had the choice, there was another young man who was poor and loved her, or there was this guy who loved her too. She choice the wealthy guy but we all knew she really loved the poor guy.
Which would you marry and why?
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39 responses
@suwandilee (280)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 07
i think you wont get too much love if you dont have money, but with money you cant directly being loved, it's really confusing, one support another
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
21 Apr 07
i disagree you cannot buy love,
a person loves you or they don't it has nothing to do with money
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
22 Apr 07
I'm for love all the way! When you're in love, you feel like you can conquer anything. Ok, maybe not those late bills or collection agencies that keep ringing your phone or sending you letters, but still, you can overcome those bad days with the one you love. When you're only in it for the money, what happens if the wealthier of the two goes bankrupt one day?? You divorce? And what about all the regrets you'll have for not marrying the one you truly love?
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@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
22 Apr 07
Marrying for love instead for money is a right decision. Your grandma was correct. However, we must ensure that it is not puppy love or else it will turn into a disaster.
But on the other hand without money, it will, itself have an adverse reaction on life. Without money to take care of the basic needs it will cause conflict in the family.
In my humble opinion, love without money will not last. Money must be present to fuel the development of love.
@luxueyuan (47)
• China
22 Apr 07
love is consciousness and sensibility,Money is matter!
matter decides consciousness,and consciousness affect matter! i think love should be base of matter and matter shoud not break away love.so i think it is perfect that love and money should combine each other!
@shak143 (1280)
• India
21 Apr 07
Marry for love..... not for money...... but now-a-days finding a true love is difficult it dosen't mean true love is not there.But due to influence of cinemas present every one things that love is nothing but a feeling which will accur when you see a girl/boy,but it's not the right thought.It's just affection not love.If one found a ture love beong with him/her will brings happy and peace in there lifes.
@anbfriend63 (307)
• India
21 Apr 07
i would like to marry a lovable person and not necessary a rich person
@pawanloveair (245)
• India
21 Apr 07
i do not love to money but to full my that much i required .....................
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@finethings101265 (64)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
if i will have a chance i will marry a wealthy man same as what the cleaning lady do..as you see when you have already children and things are hard becuase you lack on financial matter this things called love easily flows out at the window. me, i regret marrying my husband, now he doesnt care if he is earning enough to sustain the needs of our family. i am left to doing all this and that in order that ends meet with regards to needs of my children. now, i always tell my children that they should study hard, stablished a career and then marry a rich man, so our next generation will have a better life than what we have.
@betchai (140)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
I'll marry the one I love because I know God's time is the best. I'm not afraid of facing hard times with the guy because I know the money will come. It's a matter of faith and dedication. As long as he loves me, I'll be okay. Everything shouldn't be predicted on money because we all know that money comes and goes.
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@feliniti (875)
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21 Apr 07
at the end of the day, you could have all the money in the world and be desperately unhappy, so it is much better to marry for love. You can make money if you work hard, but you can only fake love if it isn't there. Life is too short for regrets and so it is the best policy to go with the heart in matters of the heart.
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@sweetee (420)
• Australia
21 Apr 07
I was with my previous boyfriend for over 2 years, he wasn't rich but he had a good income and lived at home. I didn't start datig him because he had money, not by any means. I always had a job and was able to support myself. The thing that annoyed me was whenever he did something I didn't agree with or even treated me poorly, he always assumed he could buy my happiness and forgiveness. I could never respect that and often told him so. We ended up breaking up and his next girlfriend took everything he had.
I have been with my fiance for 7 years now and we have 2 children together. When we met he was living with his mother and was on an apprentice wage (about $170 a week), so you could say he was very poor. I fell pregnant and we moved in together. Life was hard, but we were happy with our choices. Once he was fully qualified in his trade we made up a resume and went canvassing factories to see if they had any jobs going. He got one and is now earning more a week than we could have dreamed of. We now have our own house etc and life is good.
But I would have stayed whether we were always poor or even now he has a great job.
Money doesn't buy love.
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@akopoto (177)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
It would really depend on my status. We cannot deny the fact that when we really don't have that much in life, we seek someone whom we love and who also have a stable source of income. I really don't think that love alone will make a relationship healthy. In my situation now, I don't really mind marrying someone who poor because I believe I am capable of raising a family and providing them things they need.
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
21 Apr 07
I would never marry for money. My hubby and i are not rich in money but we are rich in love. We have 5 children and we try to show them that you dont need money to be happy. Love, trust, honesty and friendship make you what you are. Money doesnt buy happiness. I dont think i would be happy marrying someone for there money. I am very happy with what we have, and we work hard for our things. I think it makes you appreciate what you have a lot more
@liulina_kelin (8)
• China
21 Apr 07
I will chose the poor guy i loved. Beause we can seek our own goal.I belive that we can get though this situation if we really love each other.Besides, in my opinion the poor guy will love you more for he know the difficulties in life . And cherish you forever.
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