How do i tell my 9 yr old she has something that will cripple or even kill her

First don't always believe the doctors. God does perform miracles. I too have a back disease. The doctors told my mom to have surgery on me when I was 11. She didn't and they told her I would be in a wheel chair by age 25. I'm 34 years old and am still walking. My back hurts bad sometimes, but prayer gets me through it. I can still pick up my three year old son today. Tell her what she has could be dangerous, but reassure her God will pull her through. Miracles still happen you know as long as the faith is pure.

I can't even imagine being in this position. I would like to think that if it was me I could find the inner strength to just be open and honest with her. I would more than likly start off by asking her what she thought was happening and what she thought the end results would be. I would try to make it as calm and loving of a conversation as it could be. She does have the right to know what exactly is happening knowledge is power she needs to know what she is fighting. I would perhaps have my minister close by to help answer questions about dying and things from that angle. The more she is involved in the process I would think the better. It is her little body afterall and she should have a say in how things go to a certain point. I wish you and yours all the best in this trying time.

My daughter is 9 also. I tried to think what Iwould do if I were in your shoes. I agree you need to be honest with her. I would wait until all the test come back and you know exactly what your dealing with. When you know I'd sit down with her and in terms she can understand I'd tell her what is happening to her body and what she can expect to happen in the future. I'd also tell her that alot of people are praying for her. If your church has a prayer chain I'd get it started. Never under estimate the power of prayer. I'll be praying for her.

I have no clue how old your daughter is, but the details you share with her should match her developmental stage. If she is very young, then there is no need to tell her that she could die. She may very well not die. Doctors are often mistaken about these things. My friend had a daughter who had a tumor on her hip and she was given pretty much the same prognosis. It turned out that the tumor was operable after all and her daughter is now going on thirteen and very healthy. I hope you get second, third and fourth opinions and you are able to find a solution for her that will keep her healthy and remain alive for many, many years to come. God Bless!

just tell her the truth.explain it carefully.grownups sometimes underestimate children.