How do you tell a girlfriend her husband is not treating her well?
By athomemommy
@athomemommy (50)
United States
April 20, 2007 3:18pm CST
I have a girlfriend whose husband is not physically abusive, but seems to not take her feelings into account. One example- We were at lunch today and she was called by her husband in the middle of lunch to go run an errand for him and it had to be done "right now!". I could tell she was upset and frustrated but I didn't know what to say... she left in the middle of lunch apologizing to me profusely...
~at home mommy~
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@In_a_Crafting_Daze (88)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I know how you feel! I have had my best friend for over eight years. Behind his back she will tell me that she knows its wrong. She'll tell me about the things SHE wants to do, SHE wants to learn, or SHE wants to go. It'll never happen. Even when she gets the courage to try or to share the idea with him he just shoots it down or tells her she'd never succeed.
I used to get very upset about it. I used to tell her straight up that she needed to say something!!!!
Then we both had kids. I'm not so sure she's all that unhappy with it now. If he's "broken" her then she won't feel a desire to do anything or try and make it better.
I just try to love her the best I can, understand when she chooses him over me, and make sure my phone is free should she ever need to talk. If I love her and I take care of MY house then maybe it'll rub off on them.
@athomemommy (50)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I think that is the best thing to do... Be honest if she asks for your opinion. But otherwise just be supportive and just be there if she needs you- even if its just to vent. Sometimes in these situations it seems if you say "too much" you end up loosing the friend you were trying to help.
~at home mommy~
http://mommyathomefornow.blogspot.com
www.personalgrowthresources.net
@athomemommy (50)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Its tough because you don't want to say TOO MUCH as she may get defensive and it could hurt our friendship. Yet she has to know that he is not treating her well right? She is a smart woman...
~At Home Mommy~
http://mommyathomefornow.blogspot.com
www.personalgrowthresources.net
