Do you love yourself?
By missak
@missak (3311)
Spain
April 20, 2007 6:35pm CST
Is it usually said that you have to love yourself in order to have the ability or the skills to love. Do you think that way? or do you think rather that is selfish to define love by loving oneself? Is it just a mean of self confidence, or is there a real need to learn something about yourself before loving another? What do you think about all this? Do you have an actual experience that could illustrate this?
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I have a very low self esteem and do not in any way shape or form love myself. BUT I do love my husband of 11 years and my children very very much. I think it's a saying people use to try and build self confidence in others. I do know myself, I could write a book. I know my short comings and my strong points. So I think you do need to know yourself, before you can truly love someone. Because if you are still trying to find yourself, you may be a different person with different values or ideas down the line and that could affect how you feel about the partner you have chosen.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
11 Jun 07
no, you need not love yourself to love your family. Yes there are characteristics that are mine in my children, but they are who they are which makes me love them. I never said I hated myself, just there are certain aspects about myself I do not like at all. Which means to me, I do not love myself. But that does not stop me from loving my family.
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@sreevasu (2717)
• India
12 Jun 07
I am the one I love most because I am the one I know most. Unless in sleep I am talking to myself, knowing myself. I am comfortable with what I am because I know I can be only like this. How can one love another if one doesn't what he/she is? To me my words and thoughts are from my mind and it comes out in such a way because I am build up like that. I sense everything in a way how I am built. I find no reason to hate me, because nature has made me like this.
Thank you Missak for asking.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I see nothing wrong with defining love by how you love yourself...Lets face it..TRULY loving YOURSELF is probably the hardest love to do..We are our own worst critics and at times our own worst enemies so to be able to truly love ourselves is the hardest thing to do....I think it makes perfect sense to define love by how we love ourselves really....
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@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
21 Apr 07
I do not carry much love to my person..rather I feel at times a little bit of hatred towards me. maybe due to dissatisfaction in life !
@inallduetime (741)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I don't see how loving ones self makes one selfish. If someone is not able/capable of loving his/herself, then we can't expect them to be able to love another.
I love myself by appreciating myself, my qualities, by taking care of myself, etc. That's what loving yourself is. People who don't love themselves, don't take care of themselves, have low self esteem, etc. Perhaps if more people loved themselves, they world would have less crazy people......
@roshnichaudhary (1160)
• United States
21 Apr 07
Yes I love myself. I love everything of mine. I love my hobbies, my forgiveness, my style-sense everything.
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