virtual vs real life friendship
By _romj_
@_romj_ (18)
Portugal
April 21, 2007 6:34am CST
do you believe in cyber friendship or do you think friends can only be friends if you can actually touch them?
being at your side and able to touch you or just be there at certain moments is very important sometimes, but... do you really think a good friend has to be there for you in person all the time?! do you consider that someone you feel connected with in a spiritual way, or because you have common tastes and so on, cannot be your friend just because he/she can't be phisically next to you?! Is friendship a phisical thing to you?!
I do believe cyber friends can be as good, or even better than real life friends... I have great friends I never met in person and live very far, we connect the same way or more than others that are close, I call some of them my "brothers/sisters at heart" (something bon jovi taught me to understand) (just like real friends) and many times I trust them even more... Sometimes being able to touch someone is important, but that's not what real friendship is all about to me... I believe friendship is something you feel deep inside and cannot be measured like that...
2 responses
@gbolly54 (661)
• Nigeria
21 Apr 07
The tantalizing nature of virtual friendship makes it more valued than the real counterpart. The virtual friends are not seen physically, hence there is no real familiarity to breed contempt. One just builds a lot of imaginations around the personalities of virtual friends, based on email, chatting or telephone communications. The tantalization inherent in this kind of relationship makes it evergreen, unsoiled and uncorrupted. The variety that virtual friendship provides adds to its allure. However, the very tantalizing nature of it causes frustration and unfulfilment, especially when it is between opposite genders.
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@_romj_ (18)
• Portugal
23 Apr 07
Thank you for your thoughts... I do agree that we tend to imagine our virtual friends the way we hope they are in real life, more than the real ones (that's right, the real ones don't leave us much space for imagination!), but still, to me the friendship can be real anyway... And you can be disappointed with real life friends too, and I think that hurts more because you probably thought you knew them better...
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I too have some friends that I have made online that are more reliabel that my real ife friends. I do strive for a balance of online and real world friends. Also I find balance in work online and real life. Like good friends some stay awhile and some come and go. Good luck with your balance in your life.
@_romj_ (18)
• Portugal
23 Apr 07
I try to keep life balanced too, but it's not always easy, I confess... I guess I agree with you in the sense that everything has its time... each situation has a particular time in our lives, and so do friends, and everything else for that matter... I mean, some stay most of our lives, some come and go, some are there in a particular time and then vanish and so on... That's the way life is...
