Would you Want To Know the DETAILS?

@kokopelli (4842)
United States
October 20, 2006 11:41am CST
The affair is over. You have forgiven your partner. Would you still want to know the details?
19 responses
@dollar669 (569)
• Canada
20 Oct 06
yeah! i cheated on my bf and he cheated on me, i came completely clean, and we eneded up back together the following year. and i still try to get the rest of the details out of him
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 Oct 06
does it make you feel better knowing? i'm sure it would hurt even more, wouldn't it?
• Canada
20 Oct 06
it really dosnt bother me, what bohters me is not knowing, not knowing exactly what happened, once its all out in the open its easier for me to get over
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 Oct 06
yeah, lay them all down the table, get them over with, and start new and clean. tnx 4d reply.
@nickel1191 (2790)
• India
21 Oct 06
Well the element of curiosity will always be there...its only human.
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@dellion (6698)
• Malaysia
21 Oct 06
Yes, I agreed with you......there's a human behaviour....
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
ah, the curiosity ... tnx for responding guys.
@exodamus (1625)
• India
21 Oct 06
When the affair is over,partner is forgiven why do anyone will want to open the healed wound?It would be foolish to start over onvce again.Let forgotten be forgotten
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
tnx 4d reply.
• India
21 Oct 06
Yes i wud still want to know the deetails which wud help me make out if she is stil in love with me or the same person.....is she still trying to hide her emotions from me due to some pressure....wich i wud only come to know once i know wat had happened in her affair and wat kind of relationship did they held....
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
good point. tnx.
@Thara26 (399)
• United States
21 Oct 06
absolutely not. it would just hurt me even more.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
tnx 4d reply.
@Jessi29 (358)
• United States
21 Oct 06
i think i would. it eat away at me. i totally over analyze things and i would drive myself crazy wondering.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
i know... tnx 4d reply.
@bhchy1 (6047)
• United States
20 Oct 06
No..I don't need to know details..before we bacome a real attached couple my SO was seeing other women besides me..I knew that, but I didn't want details...I didn't feel the need to have to compete psychologically with smoeone else. I assume he is with me bacause I was the one he wanted above all the others.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 Oct 06
tnx 4d reply.
@jmafofo (359)
• South Africa
21 Oct 06
Not at all I would let sleeping dogs lie
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
tnx.
@scooter1024 (1243)
• United States
21 Oct 06
No i woulndt want any details. It would just bring back the hurt. If you forgive them then it should be over and not brought back up.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
forgive and forget. this reminded me of that quote i read in one of the posts here in myLot ... "Forgive your enemies, but don't forget their names" -JFK tnx 4d reply :)
• United States
21 Oct 06
No, I would not want to know the details what will that accomplish? Just cherish and treasure this relationship and don't bring up the past. God Bless
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
past is past, i've heard that a lot :) tnx 4d reply.
• United States
20 Oct 06
Human nature makes you think you want to know, but knowing every detail will only make you dwell on it longer. Better not to know much at all so you can put it out of your mind a bit easier. That said, if my hubby were to cheat he would be out the door. Once is enough.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 Oct 06
he better be good then :) tnx for the reply.
• Philippines
21 Oct 06
Yes, It's a matter of having closure over the subject matter. It matters to know the why and how it happened. At least, in an honest effort to make things right and improve on what is wrong.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
closure, that's the word. tnx 4d reply.
@linkpointe (1003)
• Philippines
21 Oct 06
What you didn't know won't hurt you..........
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
tnx.
• Philippines
23 Oct 06
You're welcome...
@disturbedgd (1819)
• South Africa
21 Oct 06
no it would be too painful
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
tnx 4d reply.
@megean2k4 (401)
• United States
21 Oct 06
Though I've never been in that position and never plan to be. I think I would like to know the details. It's just my personality.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
human curiosity. tnx 4d reply.
@bhbirdie6 (1765)
• United States
21 Oct 06
I would not want to know a single thing abou the relationship. The details will only haunt you.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
it would. tnx 4d reply.
@somesh1984 (1295)
• India
21 Oct 06
ya why not..we should
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
tnx.
@w1ssam (493)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
21 Oct 06
Yep .. I think so ...
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
tnx.
• United States
21 Oct 06
yes so i can move on without them
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
21 Oct 06
tnx 4d reply.