internet dating profiles: can people READ???
@creativemind755 (400)
United States
April 21, 2007 12:54pm CST
Has anyone else had this experience? A prospective date responds 2 your profile, and, at 1st, everything seems 2 be going smoothly. U seem 2 be connecting, and u're feeling like this could really turn into something good. Then, all of a sudden, the person starts telling u all of the things that they DON'T like, or don't want, many of which u've posted on YOUR profile! And I'm like, "If that's NOT what u want, then why did u contact ME???" 2 me, this either says that a person didn't read my profile thoroughly, OR, they DID read it, but just "brushed aside" whatever qualities didn't appeal 2 them, because certain other qualities REALLY appealed 2 them. But, what people must remember is that they will get ALL that the profile entails when they meet that person, not just SOME of it! So, if u c things that u already know u're not down with, do yourself, and that person a favor, and just move on! Am I the only 1 who feels this way? Somebody, please let me know!
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@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
8 May 07
WOW its so funny you brought this up because I've had those feeling for the longest. for some reason on Blackplanet, where I have my profile running guys would contact me, and like you said some will start off really cool... we start to vibe and everything is going great then all of a shudden bam... he goes left and I'm standing there like whatin the hell just happen... and I start to think damn didn't you read my profile... we been talking for a week now and you just pop up with some BS I proclaimed was a big negative on my page... it can get a little fustrating... so right off I tell them what I want or I just don't respond and I think by doing that I scare them but if they can't handle that, then they just couldn't handle me... good topic
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@creativemind755 (400)
• United States
9 May 07
I agree! Nice response! I know that we ALL can miss some things, and not read thoroughly, but sometimes I wonder if some people read ANY of what I've written! I'm glad u're feelin' me on this topic! I'm giving u best response! Thanks!
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@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
21 Apr 07
I am on a few dating and marriage sites,and I have found,that a lot of the people will place their desires in the profile,but as it is almost impossible to find someone that will have all the qualities and none of the undisirable traits one wants,will answer a letter,but should explain at the start what they areI have recieved many responses from ladies that have an age preferance where the eldest they want is much younger than I am,which is ok with me.
so long as you do not have to keep paying to talk to them,it is ok.
but I find the fee's are to high for extended contact.
Blessed Be.
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@creativemind755 (400)
• United States
28 Apr 07
U make a good point. It is difficult 2 find someone who has EVERYTHING that u want, and vice versa. I realize that NONE of us r perfect, and I've contacted women b-4, knowing I didn't like everything on their profile as well, so I'm really "preaching" 2 MYSELF as well! In those situations (which obviously DIDN'T pan out), I realize that those "little" things that u don't like, that u just push aside, WILL be issues somewhere down the road! So, I'm learning 2 read more carefully myself! I also agree with u, in that the fees are high, which is why I NEVER pay 4 these sites. I only deal with the FREE sites! Good post! Thanks!
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@silverlocket (122)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I have to say my best experience/relationship was with someone I met thru the net.. incredibly enough my profile did not say much about me and his was all goofy.. that seemed fun at first but left me wondering if he was just that.. So I kept diggin', chatting, asking and suddenly got to know that the things we didnt not like did not make us different but complimented the relationship - - Basically I believe you can get a lot of information from someone based on a profile but is better to give that person and yourself a chance to see if there is something hiddin! =)
@creativemind755 (400)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I agree, in that I've had my best relationship experience from someone I also met on the net. And as far as the profiles go, u make a good point, as far as keeping some things hidden. I just wish that all of the things that people CHOOSE 2 put on their profiles was actually true, and that when they read my profile, that they make sure that they are ok with everything that I've written. It saves alot of grief down the road. Sure, no one has EVERYTHING u might want, but at least, if u c some things that don't appeal 2 u, make that known from the beginning. Honest communication is the key. I just hate it when someone acts as if they are ok with something initially, then somewhere down the road, all of a sudden, they have major problems with it. So, once again, I just wish people would read carefully, and thoroughly.
