WHAT you think ABOUT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS????
By AJNAG13
@AJNAG13 (137)
Philippines
April 21, 2007 11:19pm CST
hmmm.... a lot of people said that 90% of long distance relationships doesn't work at all.. only 10% of them are cool... so you guy's think it's true? to tell you guys honestly, my girlfriend just left for the states last last week.. we're still in good terms right now... but I'm just worried... you know.. for how long can we stand up? what you think? i need your response guys... and please, tell me what you think that is cool for us to work it out... thanks... have a nice day!!!
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7 responses
@franxexces (1096)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
I'll be going through what you're going through now in less than a month. I don't really know what to do know. I think I can't stand having long distance relationship.
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@baleleng31 (3)
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22 Apr 07
A long distance relationship is really hard to maintain. it depends on so many situations. Loyalty is one of the factors in keeping a good long distance relationship alive. Yes you are still in good terms right now because you are still 2 weeks away from each other. In the long run, if your loyalty with each other is unchecked or if you are not sure that you're really for each other, then there is a possibility that the relationship could shatter...
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@DesigningLife (903)
• United States
22 Apr 07
baleleng, I would like to comment on your reply. I am not saying you're wrong, but I think it was written assuming that everyone needs to be "checked up on" because eventually they will cheat for whatever reason. I disagree with that - not everyone is as shallow as that.
It appears to me that the original poster (sorry I can't see your ID here) and his girlfriend have a very strong bond. He said he trusts her and he is obviously committed to her as well. I see no indication that being apart will cause either of them to become something they're "not" and begin cheating no matter how long they are apart.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
28 Apr 07
My Sweetheart and I met on the internet before we met in person. We fell in love that way, we fell in love with eachother's personalities, then we met and fell in love all over again! Now he's in Arizona and I'm in Ontario because of work and family situations. We are long distance for now, but our love grows every day. I think, whether or not something like that is going to work, depends completely on the individuals and what they are willing to do for eachother.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
29 Apr 07
It can work both ways. I would imagine that if you are used to being together, though the distance would be hard as well, you'd have a motivation to be together, because if you broke up, you'd already know what you were missing, whereas my boyfriend and I dind't know what it was like, at first, to be together, and we had to get to know eachother without actually knowing eachother.
@AJNAG13 (137)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
yours is a different scenario. you guys started long distance. but we? we started together. we're used to be together every single day. now is too different for us. but anyways.. thanks for your comment. it's very well appreciated. don't worry.. we'll try our best not to break it. PEACE!
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@malouasuncion (555)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 07
There's a little chance that a long distance relationships will lasts. It requires full trust i guess and commitment for each of them. I think the only way to keep your relationship is through communication. So don't let it off.
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@DesigningLife (903)
• United States
22 Apr 07
Statistics are just numbers. The bonds you have with your girl shouldn't be measured in terms of anything other than your honesty and devotion to one another.
My suggestion would be to talk to your girl about your worries without implying that you think she might be the type to leave you by the wayside. Let her know how much she means to you, how much you miss her, that she is your one and only no matter what.
I think if you keep the communication open, and your love for one another is true, you will be fine.
Will you be remaining apart? If so, for how long?
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@AJNAG13 (137)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
thanks there... you've been a great great help.. your suggestions are very well appreciated.. don't worry i'll do that.. actually she will be staying there for a year, and that's in LA.. just for now.. then she'll be coming back here in the Philippines... But then she needs to go back to LA because her whole family is living there...
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
6 May 07
Personally I don't like or wouldn't want a long distance relationship, the distance would put a lot of pressure on the relationship, not being able to see your partner and not being able to set up a committed relationship. I believe that absense makes the heart wonder not grow fonder. I know space sometimes is a good thing but if you are not seeing your partner for months and months then you will eventually grow apart.
@AJNAG13 (137)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
thanks for your comment mr. wolfie. im sorry for the late reply, i was so busy this past few months and didn't have time to go to the internet. yeah, i think you're right with that. probably long distance relationship will not work though. so it all depend on fate and destiny. thanks for the comment. peace.